posted on Feb, 2 2012 @ 11:56 AM
we (my wife and me) "forgot" the birthday of a good friend last year. Tomorrow is his birthday (Feb 3rd), last year my wife marked the wrong date on
the calendar (Feb 6th). So last year he was a little bit mad because nobody gratuated him, even not his parents (as he said).
Now, looking on the date, you will notice that his birthday is tomorrow. So I called him today if he has something planned or if he would like to come
to us tomorrow (because he has no girlfriend and lives alone, my wife would cook something special just for him). So when I called him an hour ago, he
said that he will not do anything this day, will work overhours and after that he will work on some bodys car (he is carpainter) and then will stay
alone at home.
So I was pretty irritated and said to him "well, its your choice but I will call anyways tomorrow." Then he said, I wont succeed doing that because
he will shut down his mobile.
Well, now we are asking us how to behave.
We allready bought the presents, although mine will not arrive at time, my wife bought it weeks ago.
So if we think about it, there are several ways how we could handle this.
1.) Give him the presents when we see us next time, but after this "slap in the face" we think he doesnt deserve them or he would not take them
(wich would be another slap in the face for us)
2.) Because he wants to be alone, we thought about writing another birthdaycard and hang the presents on the doorhandle for him.
3.) No gifts for him, because if he does not want to celebrate and tells us this one day before, while knowing we surly bought presents, is a little
bit sneaky. By that chance I will tell him that we can forget the whole birthday present # forever and that he should not bother about the presents
because I will have use for that high fidelity earphones and the sweater my wife bought.
Be aware, its not because he does not want to celebrate (we would do that at our house anyways, as it was for years this way) its because he says he
does not want to see anybody nor come to us (he´s every friday with us).
How would you behave? :-/