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What love really is

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posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 10:18 AM
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I think I know what love is, literally.
Love is just what we feel for everyone, but its most clear when we spend a lot of time with them. The people you spend the most time with are the ones you can notice your love for the most. However you cant spend a lot of time interacting with people you're not comfortable with, so the people we are comfortable with are the only ones we can ever get to love.
If you interact with anyone for a prolonged period of time, you will eventually get to love them, but you can also live in the same house with someone, for example, and never get to love them if you barely have positive interactions with them. Again, you can not love someone whom you are not comfortable enough with. This is true for romantic as well as platonic and familial love.

So when a man and a woman meet, they can fall in love if there is enough comfort and the conditions are right to make them spend a lot of time together.

So looking at it from that perspective, the chances of 2 people of the oposite sex falling in love with each other are more likely than society wants us to believe. For romantic love to happen it only takes a personality (and physical attributes play a role too)you are comfortable with, spending enough time together, and the right conditions (relationship status, age, location, etc). I think looking at love from this perspective can help to explain why some relationships exist. One that comes to mind, for example, is that of the girl who grew up with an abusive father and tends to date abusive men. This is because she wants to replicate the familial love she felt from interacting with her father for so long. People are usually attracted to partners who have similar personalities to their parents, if they loved their parents.

I believe understanding this can make it much easier for you to understand yourself as well as how and why your emotions of love come about. understand why you feel the way you do for certain people, and you will be better able to manage your emotions towards them.

Yes, you CAN love many partners at the same time. Some more than others, depending on the 3 factors mentioned: time spent, comfort, and conditions.

There is only one type of love. The love of life, your life and others!




posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 10:47 AM
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I agree.

I searched for what love was in my past and came up with the same explanation.

In my words, love is a feeling of attachment. When you are with someone and/or care about them enough that if they were not by your side or in your life, you would feel as if a part of you is gone. That's why it hurts so much to loose a love one, its like a piece of you is missing and you get that upset stomach as if something was missing.

Is it all in your head? I believe so, its just a part of consciousness, nothing but an illusion. Sad, but true.

Don't get me wrong love is great, i love love



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 10:50 AM
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I must add something to this thread, which is great, I already put a Star and a Flag to it. From my perspective, love is what you just described before. I think love truly is about magnetism because the opposite attracts each other.

Let's say you have 2 magnet, putting one side being the positive one, with the second magnet which its side is the negative and *snap* the two magnets will stick together as long as you let them do.


A small picture to show you the idea of magnetism.

The same does apply to love, instead of two magnets you get two individuals who are contrary magnetically talking and if the conditions are met (those person getting close enough in a relationship to each other), they will start to stick together.

What do you think about it ?







Thruthseek3r



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 11:17 AM
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On the other hand, you have people who are so in 'love' they stalk the ones they love, abuse them, even kill them. There is a fine line between 'love' and mental illness.



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 12:20 PM
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Originally posted by Balkan
On the other hand, you have people who are so in 'love' they stalk the ones they love, abuse them, even kill them. There is a fine line between 'love' and mental illness.


I see that all the time. I've had women tell me *they loved me* after the second phone call I've ever had with them, and I always have to let them know that they're obviously confused at what the true meaning of the word is.

I've seen people throw I Love You around like it's ketchup --- it seems there's no integrity to the meaning and point of the word anymore. I for one can be a helpless romantic, and I NEVER use the word out of context! In the experiences I've had, that word gets used so recklessly it's unbelievable to me! It's interesting to note that, the women who were quick to have used the L-Word on me so early on (it's very off-putting to me when there's no true merit behind it [and the odd thing is, it is being told to me as a genuine *fact*]), that these women totally have the obligatory Jungian 'Daddy Issues' thing going for 'em.


Originally posted by omarm1984
Yes, you CAN love many partners at the same time. Some more than others, depending on the 3 factors mentioned: time spent, comfort, and conditions.

There is only one type of love. The love of life, your life and others!

Very well said my friend!

Attraction... Chemistry... Perseverance... Understanding... Trust... Passion...

There are so many laws that justify one's love for another --- I for one totally believe that WE as a species can be in love with so many people at different stages of our life just as we can have so many different "soul mates", it's all a matter of who, what, where and why *we are* in that moment of time.

Man, the magnetism/attraction that's released from our hearts is such a strong force, it's incredible, and at times, almost uncontrollable.

I Love threads about Love... but it's tough for me to resist replying with something moronic like... Love is... a Battlefield!

One of my favorite quotes ever, from one of my favorite books ever:

"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
-Jubal Harshaw, Stranger in a Strange Land

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posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 01:22 PM
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idk i disagree with opposites attract, magnets yes, people, no.

If a very negative person and a very positive person are together, the positive person will get sick of the negative person.



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 01:29 PM
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Love is service to others. The other. Love is: freedom, equality in equal measures, kindness, non retaliation/forgiveness. Love bears all, Love heals, Love shares all, and Love goes the extra mile. And it doesnt choose favorites. It would do this for an "enemy" and for a friend. That is passing the earth test in the bigger way.



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 01:39 PM
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I have come to the conclusion that when we take away everything that is senseless and meaningless, everything that is irrational, unreasonable and absurd, that love is all that remains. Love is who and what we really are on the other side of our "personality". So it's possible, not only to show and feel love for those with whom we are in contact or relationship with, but for everyone everywhere and even for all life and creation, unto God. Provided we then love ourself as we are loved, and love neighbor as self - we will have then passed into what JC called "the kingdom of heaven".

It may even be that if love is the reason and the cause, for the sake of varied experience and mutual sharing and co-creative participation, that love is the only thing that's "going on" of any consequence or significance whatsoever, and if this makes you laugh, and giggle like a child, then you "grok".


Love,

NAM



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 06:05 PM
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A word on the end of love:
Love never ends, as mentioned by some of you, love works like magnetic energy. This is because love IS an energy. So it never ends. But the human ego CAN create discomfort among two people and create feelings of negativity towards each other that can overshadow love. Yes, negativity can win over positivity. The ego is the cause of two people creating animosity and "ending" their love for each other. The ego does this by making a person try to seek themselves through the relationship, the ego wants more commitment, it feels jealousy, it distrusts, it seeks control, and to be respected. This is how the ego can overshadow that energy between two people called love and separate them. This is also the root of humanity's challenge, but thats for another thread.
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posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 05:47 AM
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you dont want the truth, like here this sentence, what love really is, you clearly mean exclusively ur interests in sounding knowing how to make love objectively so to get others in the illusions u r inn matrix sold out

anything is freedom sources and any free sense is things source

then anything is to be really free or negatively free

and any free sense is to living truly or to die in truth

when anything is source of free and any free is source of thing
then anyone is free and any free is one

so the point is to accept that ur situation is of truth not of wills, anything is truly always source of new free senses and any free sense is truly always source of new objective things

so the question is why or how would that freedom still existing same one and how that existence objective could still same real?

when any is free and free is any, then freedom is an issue, it can b any always while there is nothing else
even nothing is not stable and worse in that

but freedom is an issue for who or what? only for who is really free and happy in doing stuffs

whatever those nonsensical ramblings are for, what matter is facts



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 05:47 AM
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you dont want the truth, like here this sentence, what love really is, you clearly mean exclusively ur interests in sounding knowing how to make love objectively so to get others in the illusions u r inn matrix sold out

anything is freedom sources and any free sense is things source

then anything is to be really free or negatively free

and any free sense is to living truly or to die in truth

when anything is source of free and any free is source of thing
then anyone is free and any free is one

so the point is to accept that ur situation is of truth not of wills, anything is truly always source of new free senses and any free sense is truly always source of new objective things

so the question is why or how would that freedom still existing same one and how that existence objective could still same real?

when any is free and free is any, then freedom is an issue, it can b any always while there is nothing else
even nothing is not stable and worse in that

but freedom is an issue for who or what? only for who is really free and happy in doing stuffs

whatever those nonsensical ramblings are for, what matter is facts



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 06:05 AM
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i didnt press reply yet it was sent by force, so i continue my sentence

so the minds of knowing that was about to guess the concept of truth that justify it

if any is free and free is any always indefinitely then somhow the answer is for truth existence as being positive fact

so any free would be just that true free making existing really stuffs
and any thing would be that thing truly real making existing living free stuffs

that is the sense surely of objective existence to prove this fact for right absolute truth conception of any and all

there another question rise of minds as an answer to force on existence ways or means

why would any want to exist positively ? why would any free sense b happy in keeping realizing and doing same stuffs?

why would anything real be constant in meaning new free senses life?

they invented the concept of love to start with while knowing it being evil as totally false, but they dont have the answer so since they wanted to force existence to be objectively free they had to start from their fancies that gather them all as one to stay positively for the sense to make



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 09:34 AM
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Originally posted by doom27
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idk i disagree with opposites attract, magnets yes, people, no.

If a very negative person and a very positive person are together, the positive person will get sick of the negative person.


The fact that opposites attracts each other can simply mean two people with different character, it is opposites. It can be somebody who is a party boy and quiet girl, these are opposites. It can be related to polarity of a magnet, but not necessarily only to somebody positive or negative minded, if you see what I mean.







Thruthseek3r



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 03:00 PM
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it is not opposite concept, it is else concept, that is how what move for else stop doing it when knowing that it is an opposite

the move for else is the move for truth, it is the drive to b true as if the else confirm smthg u know, so u move for what u know already as to recognize it more clearly while in depth meaning that truth exist not u, so the concept of else is absolutely exclusively meaning truth that everyone and any know somehow that it is out and the reason of the least awareness or sense

the answer of truth regarding this point, is always the same answer, when u move meaning truth it is bc u r true, truth is not a place or else, truth is all but also any, that could b in concept or in fact, so no need to move for meaning it, just b true

but to give my thoughts ur means here, i would say the opposite that i always really mean clearly

moving is existing, so u cant mean absolutely else then
as soon as u r a point existing any else u mean is absolutely exactly u, in reference of being absolutely truly existing urself free

that is how gays exist but also family ties are the strongest one of all
that is how humanity is a dream, and the other became the concept of living right

things went really far in meaning ones existence as being the same fact to an extent that made it totally objective, one right one human one mortal one nothing one living ones reality ....



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 03:19 PM
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We're not suppose to just add in a picture with no explanation but in this case, this says it all.



And I'm spiritual not religious and the above, to me, expresses what love is.

The two following quotes are excerpts from Wikipedia: Siddhārtha Gautama (Sanskrit: सिद्धार्थ गौतम; Pali:सिद्धाथ गोतम Siddhattha Gotama) was a spiritual teacher from the north eastern region of South Asia who founded Buddhism. In most Buddhist traditions, he is regarded as the Supreme Buddha (P. sammāsambuddha, S. samyaksaṃbuddha ) of our age, “Buddha” meaning “awakened one” or “the enlightened one.” The time of his birth and death are uncertain: most early 20th-century historians dated his lifetime as c. 563 BCE (Before Common Era) to 483 BCE; more recently, however, at a specialist symposium on this question, the majority of those scholars who presented definite opinions gave dates within 20 years either side of 400 BCE for the Buddha’s death, with others supporting earlier or later dates.

Gautama, also known as Śākyamuni or Shakyamuni (“sage of the Shakyas”), is the key figure in Buddhism, and accounts of his life, discourses, and monastic rules are believed by Buddhists to have been summarized after his death and memorized by his followers. Various collections of teachings attributed to Gautama were passed down by oral tradition, and first committed to writing about 400 years later.


The thought manifests as the word. The word manifests as the deed. The deed develops into habit. And the habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care. And let it spring from love, born out of concern for all beings. -

Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.


The sole reason our planet and most of her inhabitants are in misery is because we have lost the true meaning of love.

We are all, like it or not interconnected. What you do onto another, you do unto yourself because we are all part of the grand whole.

Namaste



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 03:21 PM
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it is all about truth logics the else is never meant even

all is of constant fact and constant is arithmetically representing the sense of more
so any relative sense of constant mean more from perceiving other

the constant is inside and outside as a whole absolute free fact, bc constant is freedom fact source

what is inside can never see outside, what is inside is to truth that need badly to know its extremities out as truth is the most positive more constant

what is outside can never see inside, but what is outside need truth positivity to not become negatively existing outside of it

that is surely what explain our existence in objective most perspective, where all become clear to each others, realities truth and free independant wills constant existence in positive present terms

which show meaning conscious for new conception that kind of clarify their facts to each other in one truth including both

it is horrible how all is meant for gods and truth superiority from abusing poor and misery in eternal hell, from the begining we were meant for abuse since too small and not yet an absolute truth

stop preaching love it is the opposite that rule, which is not hate when hate is from subjective self defense, since noone mean but him, so noone freely hate
but the opposite of love is intelligence business when it comes to others or else so not own self



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 03:54 PM
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"God/Source is Everything; Time is God/Source in Motion; Thought is Time in Motion; Logic is Thought in Motion; Love is Logic in Motion; Life is Love in Motion; Math is Life/Numbers in Motion." - Old Toad Proverb

Ribbit


Ps: Here's a couple of other Old Toad Proverbs that are also about Love:

"Love is caring for others more than yourself, without expecting anything in return!" - Old Toad Proverb

"Truth & Love are like the opposite ends of a Rainbow, with all the beauty of God in-between, but don't waste your time trying to catch a Rainbow, catch Truth & Love first and the Rainbow will then come to You!" - Old Toad Proverb

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posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 04:01 PM
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What love really is


My personal view is that true love and true hate are both extreme human emotions... and as such, both are really quite rare.

True love; we all seek it... the perfect relationship with the perfect opposite or mate. Some people spend an entire life looking and never find it.

It can be a little sad.

But out here? Everyone is accusing everyone else of being haters when in fact, most people don't know what true hate or love really is.

True hate or love is a rarity... if you ever find it, it will be once in a lifetime and it will not be transferable to the next person you meet.

If you DO find true love, I salute you. I found it once, briefly, in 1998 and lost it shortly after.

If you someday choose to accuse someone of hate, be careful that you don't make a serious mistake. Our government already has.



posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 04:04 PM
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Why it seems the meme is pervasive today.

What of when one falls in love with someone who is not like them? I grant that it is more likely that you'll do so with people who are, but I doubt it is the only manner to experience it.

Have you personally ever started to fall in love with someone you are not comfortable with?

I know someone that doesn't have much in common with most people by background and upbringing, and makes people very uncomfortable in many ways. But people start falling in love with this person very easily.

How does that fit into your model?
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posted on Jan, 28 2012 @ 05:12 PM
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Love is the river carved through grand mountains by the gods/hormones. Without hormones there is no Love, without your mountains and rivers, you are without time.... at the end of the line, the stagnant pond is full of unloved gods. Love and Freedom is in the rain as makes its way to the open sea and the tides of One once again.

... an unknown poet of the 21 century.




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