posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 11:42 AM
Originally posted by Sahabi
reply to post by Balkan
Have you seen people that get overly angry and outraged for the most mundane of reasons nearly everyday?
Have you seen people get emo and depressed about everything nearly all the time?
Again, emotions aren't as simple as you're making them out to be. There can be complex reasons a person may never figure out about themselves as to
why they allow others to control their emotions or why they react in anger.
and ultimately, being able to choose how to feel.
You don't have as much control over how you feel as you think. As a social animal, not only will people regularly dictate how we feel at times, but
our health/physical body has a huge effect on our emotional state.
We allow others to control our emotional state for many reasons. But by doing so, we are forfeitting our free will and our self-empowerment.
'Free will' is an illusion. In reality, your emotional state is genetically preterminded at conception and is then conditioned and molded by other
people (usually your parents) in your infancy/childhood. Some people grow up so out of balance emotionally that a seemingly insignificant social
interaction will send them into panic attacks or other emotional outbursts. They will likely never have an semblance of control.
Anger is not a 'negative'. Feeling anger over a loved one that passed isn't negative. Feeling anger over an injustice isn't negative.
Anger is a natural emotion. It is instinctual; a fear-based reaction. Surpressing anger isn't healthy. I know you didn't state this, but I felt it was
Seeking social status is also one of our core instincts as a human animal. In the process we are controlling others emotions and giving up control of
our emotions in a complex process, all the time, in order to maintain our social standing. When you want that raise at work, you kiss your boss'
heiny. When someone attacks your child, you naturally react in anger. When you walk out of your place in the day, most of us where cloths. We do these
things because our emotional health and social worth is dependant for the most part on what others think of us.
Anyone that tells you they truly don't care what others' think is usually lying or just ignorant about themselves.
edit on 27-1-2012 by Balkan
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