posted on Jan, 25 2012 @ 04:19 PM
As a life-long student of psychology, and as an older person who has been around the block many times, let me offer the following:
Your co-worker is most certainly jealous. Having said that, may I also say that her behavior and comments to others are catty, immature, and
indicative of a problematic personality. You could pursue a relationship with her, but you will be sorry if things don't work out. You may find
yourself losing your job over it. She obviously pulls in everybody into her little dramas. This is what a high school girl does, not a grown
Think beyond tomorrow for a moment, and think about a relationship with your co-worker. Do you really want to work with somebody that you are dating?
This is why inter-office relationships are usually frowned on, or outright against the rules. Not every relationship runs smoothly, and this lady
seems like a bit of a pain. What happens if you decide you don't want to date her anymore? What a mess she would create, for the whole office to be
witness to, if you break up with her.
Why would she say such mean things about your lunch buddy if she doesn't even know her? This tells me she is immature. Do you want to date a woman
who is jealous? People who can't control their jealousy make their partners go through hell. Jealousy is the only emotion that really has no
benefit as far as I'm concerned. It is destructive and usually borne out of somebody's innate insecurity.
Save yourself the trouble and don't start a relationship with her. If you do, be prepared for the worst. Only you can decide what is best for you,
but take it from this old woman: To date a co-worker, particularly an immature, mean one, is just asking to be unemployed.