reply to post by nixie_nox
I am a white person who has adopted and like many, did not care what race the child was. You are right, the system is full of non-white and
non-healthy children, but there are many, many parents who want and do adopt non-white, non-healthy children. Even children who are products of rape -
date rape, violent rape, and even violent incestuous rape.
One of my children is the product of a horrific rape. Due to the circumstances, the birthmother was counseled to place him for adoption, and she did.
(Mom was in her early thirties and had four existing children.) But the day of his birth and subsequent placement, the hospital records indicate that
she was inconsolable. She believed giving up the child was the right thing to do, but found it incredibly hard and incredibly painful. She had decided
she did not want an "open" adoption, but after a few months, we mailed pictures of the child to the adoption agency, which forwarded them to her.
She was very glad to have them. She cried when she saw them. He is still a part of her that she thinks about and loves. She does love him, in spite of
the horrible circumstances of his conception.
This child is now a teenager, and he is the light of our lives. We have other children, and they are all unique and wonderful, but this kid is
particularly special - bright, beautiful, has a wonderful sense of humor, and is particularly attentive to his mom - he is the one that will offer
his arm when we walk across an icy parking lot to make sure I don't slip. He is very tender with babies and small children, and senses what they
need. We have many children, and love them all, but this little guy lights up the room and has a very special heart. I can't imagine life without him
and am so very grateful for him.
I consider him an incredible gift and when I think of what his mother went through, and the choice she made not to have him killed in her womb...she
must have been pretty special herself.
After having several (biological) children, I was informed that I might not survive another pregnancy. I had to make the decision as to what would I
do if a pregnancy occurred. It was a no brainer. I would have taken the chance. I could never ever choose to snuff out a life inside me, planned or
not, risky or not. Many women have chosen to postpone life-saving treatments, including chemo, in order to give birth to their child, even when
they've known it would cost them their own life. Many women have chosen to carry a child to term even when they would not have chosen to conceive,
and many have carried and given birth to children who resulted from horrific circumstances.
I'm sure other people would make different decisions, and that is certainly their right. But I thought you should know that at least some women agree
with Santorum - a child IS a gift, no matter how it was conceived.