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Originally posted by AwakeinNM
Originally posted by chr0naut
reply to post by AwakeinNM
May I suggest you grab a towel and a good stiff drink.
Can't really drink - chronic condition that gets worse with alcohol.
My wife will not go to counseling or even try to work on our marriage
Originally posted by daryllyn
reply to post by Starchild23
Perhaps you should talk to this woman who is apparently senselessly divorcing him...instead of berating him because he is caught between a rock and a hard place with no way out. It's the animal instinct to run if it cannot fight.
Don't curse him for feeling helpless and miserable.
[color=dodgerblue]Running away and abandoning your children, is not the right thing to do. Period.
There are two sides to every story. Just because he doesn't understand her reasons, doesn't mean they aren't perfectly good reasons to her. Sometimes, invalidating someone's feelings can be reason enough.edit on 16-1-2012 by daryllyn because: (no reason given)edit on 16-1-2012 by daryllyn because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by AwakeinNM
Originally posted by Realm52
Are you for real?
My wife wants a divorce for much less of a reason than she should, and she just had our second daughter 10 weeks ago.
I have been going guano loco without her and my daughters
So you're gonna disappear and leave them all? anyone else thinks sounds a bit cowardly?
how many daughters do you have?
If your wife wants to leave you for a much less of a reason than she should, how hard can it be to fix the situation?
I know I am going to get flamed, and I don't expect anyone to understand my mindset, but I can not watch my daughters grow up on facebook. I can not hear about all their firsts through the grapevine. I need to be there myself. I can not process any other scenario. Since my wife is not allowing that, this is the road I must take. It is not easy. I will live with regret the rest of my life, which will probably not be that long. My daughters are young - oldest is not even 3. They will grow up likely knowing someone else as their dad - another thing I can not watch happen.
My family is the only thing that defines me. It is all I want in my life. It is all I have left. My wife is taking it from me, so I have no identity now. I have nothing to look forward to. If I had the cajones, I'd put a bullet in my head, but I don't. So this.
edit on 16-1-2012 by AwakeinNM because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by AwakeinNM
reply to post by Whateva69
Interesting stuff. This guy is in ABQ where I am. I should look him up.
Everything he suggests doing in this video costs money. I am assuming people who disappear amass a small fortune first. Unfortunately I am broke.
She has already invalidated his feelings by taking his kids and leaving. When my wife and I split, my thoughts were "No problem, if you don't want to be with me. Why are you taking my kids though? Leave us to have our lives."
Originally posted by daryllyn
reply to post by Starchild23
Perhaps you should talk to this woman who is apparently senselessly divorcing him...instead of berating him because he is caught between a rock and a hard place with no way out. It's the animal instinct to run if it cannot fight.
Don't curse him for feeling helpless and miserable.
[color=dodgerblue]Running away and abandoning your children, is not the right thing to do. Period.
There are two sides to every story. Just because he doesn't understand her reasons, doesn't mean they aren't perfectly good reasons to her. Sometimes, invalidating someone's feelings can be reason enough.edit on 16-1-2012 by daryllyn because: (no reason given)edit on 16-1-2012 by daryllyn because: (no reason given)