reply to post by kaylaluv
I think he's trying to say that homosexuality is nothing but a fetish
Y'all really aren't succeeding very well at
--putting your words accurately in my fingers.
I'm not per se saying that homosexuality is 'merely' a fetish. I suppose it's conceivable. Haven't really thought about it in those terms. In my
observations, at least initially, I do believe it's a fairly narrow attraction to a limited set of conditioned stimuli. imho, most homosexuals I've
known have been more exclusively attracted to a narrower range of males--and a narrower range of features and activities of males--initially in their
homosexual path--than most heterosexuals are in their heterosexual path. I just realized that thinking through my response to your assertion.
Certainly there are exceptions.
-- that homosexuals aren't capable of love beyond sex,
NOPE. Not saying that per se. Probably a case COULD be made for that, in many individual cases, but that's not what I'm saying. A LOT of homosexual
sex seems to be rather self-centered extending somewhat to--you scratch my itch and I'll scratch yours in more of an emotionally detached way than
many heterosexuals manage.
However, many heterosexuals are far too detached in the sexual pseudo-dance, these days, too.
IT'S VERY FASCINATING you seem to be . . . quite . . . against, if not hostile to any hint of my stereotyping anything about homosexuality.
HOWEVER, IT APPEARS THAT YOU FEEL QUITE FREE TO STEREOTYPE ME AND MY RESPONSES ON THIS THREAD AT THE DROP OF A HAT OVER VERY LITTLE EVIDENCE.
Just add your fantasies about what I write and you're stereotyping is off and running. Fascinating.
Interesting contradiction. I wonder if you feel any cognitive dissonance about that.
like heterosexuals are -- because homosexuals are mentally and emotionally "messed up".
Actually, there's such an epidemic of REACTIVE ATTACHMENT DISORDER these days, I don't know many heterosexuals or homosexuals who aren't mentally and
emotionally somewhat 'messed up.'
And, such factors do limit and distort the capacity to selflessly love anyone--including another sexual partner. I don't necessarily see that as
authomatically having much to do with sexual orientation.
I suppose a case could be made in MANY INDIVIDUAL EXAMPLES for homosexuals as a class of people having MORE mental/emotional struggles of a more
intense nature than most heterosexuals . . . but these days . . . everyone seems to almost be off the scale.
Homosexuals do tend to have more incidence per 100 of depression and of suicide, IIRC. And feeling thrilled and part of the 'approved homosexual
community' even in a geographically homosexual area does not seem to relieve such problems much at all.
Personally, . . . Regardless of how homosexuals came to be that way, they are capable of long-term relationships. Not all of them have long-term
relationships, but many do.
The research statistics indicate otherwise. Sure there is a VERY SMALL PERCENTAGE OF EXCEPTIONS--IIRC, on the order of 1 or 2% of homosexuals.
The vast bulk of the relationships are NOT long term. They last on average about 2 years, if that. And the sexual partnering--even in homosexual
marriages are NOT monogomous in MOST cases.
It's an interesting fantasy you have. It does NOT match reality.
I don't know if you are truly interested in THE FACTS, or not. But those are THE FACTS.
edit on 12/1/2012 by BO XIAN because: spelling