Someone earlier wrote about being married to a psychopath. I was too. At first, he was kind..one of the most considerate men I had been around. He
was a grad student who rented a room from me. I was a young professional and often rented rooms out. He would call me at work and ask what I would
like him to cook for dinner. He would rent movies he thought I would enjoy. He took care of my dog if I went away for the weekend. He later moved
out and we kept in touch and he asked me to come visit him in another state. I did, we shared a bottle of wine and of all things...I got pregnant. I
thought marrying him was the right thing to do, so I did..he was so nice after all, and a child needed 2 parents. When I was 8 months pregnant, I
realized my mistake. He went into a rage and verbally belittled me and hit me. He never said he was sorry. I still thought it was best for a child
to have 2 parents and not a broken home. I stayed, tried to make the best of it and we had several more children in quick succession. For a long
time, I maintained my practice, but finally, gave most of it up to be with the kids and run our homestead. Meanwhile, he continued to trade in on my
reputation, and was increasingly controlling and abusive. I drew the line when he started hitting the children too. I left with the kids, but he is
still trying to hurt me through the children..telling them we had a perfect family until mommy ruined it. He cries in front of them about how lonely
he is when they are not there, yet he never shows up at soccer games/dance recitals/band concerts, etc. He has hurt others in the community during
various altercations. He has committed crimes against people that I was too scared to talk about. He had a lot of guns, a special room built for
ammo in our house, a super electrified perimeter fence around our property. He would send me to Lowe's in town for some part, with all the
children..then call the store and have me paged 'to make sure I was really there'. He once pushed me down while I was holding our 1 month old
daughter..then wrote up a 'report' about how I 'made' him do it and tried to force me to sign it. He would hurt me, then threaten me with the fact
that his father was a judge and tell me that if I ever tried to leave him, he would make sure I never saw the children again.
There are so many stories I could tell. sometimes I wonder if I wasn't the one who was crazy..for not leaving sooner. But it escalated a little at a
time. My mom noticed it when we were visiting for a family funeral and she bought the children a book for the car ride home. My children asked her
'Grandma, how do we tell dad? He doesn't like us to get new things because it is a waste of money." After I left him, his mommy and daddy moved in
with him and take care of him..they know he cannot be alone with the children..and despite the law guardian saying in court "all the children show
evidence of physical abuse they report comes from their father', the judge gave him unsupervised visitation every other weekend. (then went back in
chambers to have a drink with my ex father in law). My son's school guidance counselor reported his father because of the bruises on my son's
neck..fingerprints and nail marks from his father choking him. Because of his 'professional reputation' no action is being taken at this time.
a psychopath will stop at nothing to get what he or she wants. They don't care if it is family, friend, or foe. They will do what they can to make
you feel sympathy towards them and manipulate you. The really good actors fool people for a long time, but they tend to piss off some along the way
as they use them up. And they keep their victims so confused and off balance, that it is difficult to get away. I am fairly bright..finishing an 8
year graduate program in 6 years, with almost no debt. I was self sufficient and 'successful', had even dated and had long term relationships with
good men whom I am still friends with, but this man fooled me.
This guy has several great videos about dealing with psychopaths. I only wish I had found them 20 years ago.
