reply to post by pasiphae
I've met a few, suffering from depression and mental health issues mean that I have bumped into some when getting treatment but the one I know of the
most is my sister in law, in fact I'd say I've met quite a few women who are in positions of power who exude every ounce of psychopathic behaviour,
that's not a slight on women in general, just a certain few who I've met that have this issue.
A good friend actually works in a mental health unit, he was alarmed to find out that at least two of the women in charge above him were actually
classed as 'service users'. Again, NOT a slight at normal women or stressed women or happy women, just at those few AND of course there's many many
males in power who would also be classed the same.
Righty, as to my sister in law, she's the classic example of a psychopath, she's been treated for behavioural problems many times but as with every
visit the person to blame is not herself, she's always had this bad side from when she was a teen, her father died early and doted on her, she was
spoilt rotten so when he died her poor mother had 3 kids to bring up on her own, a mortgage to pay and hardly a bit of help apart from what her eldest
could do (my wife).
From day one (we shall call her MIss X) she exhibited incorrect social behaviour, in her first day at work she balled out a fellow member of staff for
being 2 mins late on her shift, she simply was unable to understand that it wasn't the done thing on your first day.
She suffers from incredible self worth issues, nothing bar nothing must interfere with her life even if that means her child's needs, she is able to
turn on and off the tears to extract herself from situations like a clamp on the car, she spends day in day out figuring out ways for her special
needs son to be placed with care workers rather than look after him herself. As an ex special needs teacher I tried to encourage her to teach her son
who suffers from Autism and social skills deficiency but she has from day one refused to citing it being a job for the teachers, the maternal instinct
just isn't there but when in view of others outside the family the false charm and child hugging is put on simply as a floor show, once the people
are gone the mask is dropped.
As regards to her family now she has her older sister who suffers from mental health issues (agoraphobic, voices etc) and her mother who's 75 now, my
wife has little to do with her. We my wife and I look out for the sister and mother because Miss X is a power freak, we don't live close and Miss X
uses that to exert maximum fear on her mother and sister, she will shout and scream and then instantly switch to being in tears saying she needs help
(trust me, she gets a lot of tax payers help), she will create trips to teen pop concerts (she's 40+) as an excuse to get away from the child, the
mother is happy to look after the child as she does not see him often but the mental price she pays is terrible.
We both have tried to intervene but her mother is very old fashioned and does not want rows between the sisters, I have been warned off tackling the
situation as the mother is worried about the mental state of Miss X.
Despite being the only person with a car in the family she refuses to take her 75 yr old mother shopping at all, she belittles them on the phone and
basically shows vile hatred towards both of them and then will ring back and apologise as if that clears the slate, its almost like she actually
believes the apology works.
When her mother had a recent brain tumour removed and was recuperating in hospital the girl actually asked her that on the day she was sent home could
she come around and look after her as she needed a rest from the son, she could not see how inappropriate all this was, she wanted a day off and the
mother who had lost partial control of her walking and balance due to the severity of the operation was her candidate two weeks after the op.
Oh yes, I've met a real psychopath....She's stopped seeing every councillor who has told her its to do with her directly, she's had screaming fits
at them, she's very in control of what she wants and no price on others is too much to pay yet will switch on an instant if a relative she likes
She fits every single criteria for a classic psychopath and until my mother in law passes on I'm powerless to do any real good as the mother is
starting to show small signs of the onset of memory loss and possible dementia and as I saw with my own mother, any stress placed upon a person with
these signs seems to speed up the effects of the disease incredibly.
If I start any verbal proceedings with Miss X she will scream blue murder and verbally abuse the mother and sister, my wife and I are in a no win