Who You Really Are...Is...When You're Alone

I was thinking the other day....who are people really? My answer is...who a person really is...is the person they are..when they are alone.

So...who are you? What are you like when you are completely alone? What are some of your behaviors?

Ok..yeah...I will start...lol

When I am home alone and I know I am not going anywhere that day....I will stay in my pajamas....my flannel pajamas are so comforting and warm. I will often think my thoughts out loud...(sometimes)...every once in a while I will look in the mirror and smile at myself....to let myself know...I am friends with me. I will sing silly songs to my Cat and let him know...he is very much loved.

When I am alone I have noticed I am still good mannered....table manners....putting my hand over my mouth when I cough etc.

Sometimes I put on some 70's or 80's rock music and dance around the living room laughing.

Sometimes I pray. Sometimes I yell at the universe and complain.

So...what do you all do when you are alone? Who are you really?

You are absolutely right, you can also find out who you are as your world collapses and rediscover a new bottom. For me it was cancer and a few years of living in a hospital. Months go by and people don't visit as much and you find yourself alone a lot. The good part is when you find the bottom there is only one way to go from there.

When I'm alone, I think a lot, I pray a lot - when I pray I pray for protection of loved ones and friends and give thanks. Most of all when I'm alone I try to learn - soak it all up and then think it over logically

I like the idea that you are what you are when you are alone... (So many are's) Too bad i havent got the time right now, but i will write down later what i do...

I am never alone . Love a soulbrother. Namaste

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Great Thread.

When I am alone I daydream listening to my inner voice. As a kid I used to love being alone still do.
I think about childish things like how can I paint a painting that will touch anothers soul.
How can I write a poem that will uplift another.
I leave the washing up piling in the sink often and let the dust settle on the furniture.
Sometimes though I read or see something that fires me up and want to partake.
I tell myself off sometimes too for daydreaming too much.
Sometimes i get low thinking about how this world is and how it could be.
I look at the stars and feel connected, I look inside and feel connected.
I sometimes feel that life itself is magic and full of wonder and want to share this feeling.
I go see my two friends White Horses who I feed apples and carrotts - We are always pleased to see each other.
I go to our garden and tend the plants and find joy in simple things like bird song and buds blossoming
I am a romantic dreaming a dream.

I speak with the universe when I am alone. The only time you can.

good thread!

i love to go hiking because i love being alone a lot esp. in the woods. i never feel comfortable around other people.
out there i dont feel self conscious like i do around people.
out there it dosent matter how old i am or how goofy i walk or that i talk to the trees.

Sometimes I like to be alone. Dont have to worry about anyone else. It would be nice to have a companion someday.

Thank you all for your responses....they are interesting....thought provoking...and inspiring!

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Cool thread. You mentioned '70s music and The Who came to mind in particular these lyrics.(This is what I've been doing a lot lately).

Pick up my guitar and play
Just like yesterday
Then I'll get on my knees and pray
We don't get fooled again!

I can deal with that.

I burst into dance randomly just to entertain myself..

Laugh with myself a lot too. (Besides, Castor and Pollux have each other to entain.)



"Ha-cha-cha"

I think you are who you really are when alone as well as with other people.

I personally love being alone.. to a point that I sometimes feel guilty over it.

I can have inspirational moments alone.. frustrating moments ..very content and peaceful moments .. as well as just apathetic moments.

I love nothing better than to spend my day wearing nothing but flannel pj's or "comfy" clothes.. sipping coffee and contemplating life ..and reading things on the net.

Lately I found a renewed comfort in prayer.. which gives me solace..as well as the reminder that though I may think I am alone in body.. in spirit there are always others around as well.. both good and bad...but I am always in the presence of the heavenly Father.

It's comforting for me to know that those who think they are pulling a fast one on someone ... by either spying on them..in whatever way they have concocted to do so.. will some day have to answer to that same Father for their actions...(when they see their flimsy excuses will not hold up in higher authority of law)

I also think you can see who a person really is around others as well.. if they pay lip service to others.. if they say and do things just to be accepted by or thought highly of by others.

I like being alone. I wish people would leave me alone more. Unfortunately, I'm so dripping with charisma that everyone wants a piece of me. All the time. I'm serious, I wish they would stop dropping by. I would like to be alone, but I am not left alone. I don't really want all these friends.

That's why I live on a boat. I will go for weeks on end by myself, cruising to new uninhabited anchorages. I like it. I don't need someone else to entertain me. Well, some poonanny from time to time is important. But otherwise, leave me alone sometimes.

Actually, now that I think about it, the contrast is what makes most everything good. After being alone for some days, I like to see some people. But when I have too many people always taking up my time, it gets annoying and I want to be alone.

Maybe I'm just a psycho. But I don't think so. But of course, crazy people always thing they are only sane ones in a crazy world. Holy cow, am I just proving myself a psycho?

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I can't handle people who need 24hr companionship, I need me time, actually alot of me time.
I'm kind of in a suitable job for this aswell, I work nights so I sleep days (afternoon till work time) up till my off days (mostly 2 a week) were I stay up and see my friends.

When i'm alone I tend to be hilarious.

you're the awareness that gives life to the mind, not the mind. The mind is maya, the soul is maya.

shooooooooooot.....

i tend to always sometimes talk to myself not like a crazd man or anything i just speak outloud and stuff but im sure im not crazy lol

also hmmmm being alone is some type of scary so idk if that is possible

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I love logging into here. I swear I can always find someone who was thinking something similar to me at any given moment. I was thinking this tonight while I was un-winding. I wish I could be who I am RIGHT NOW and be accepted by everyone. I'm not the most pleasant person to be around. But it would be nice to have just one person who I could let it all out to and they enjoy me.

When I'm alone... I'm crude. I'm talking worse than 15 year old boy crude. I curse. I have children so I'm not crude and I definitely don't curse. I curse like a sailor. I would never straighten this rats nest of hair that I was born with. Never wear any makeup and wear my sweat pants and granny panties everyday. You wouldn't catch me in the under-wire Victorias Secret push-up bra I'm wearing either!
I usually blast my music and lounge around when I'm alone. That is rare though so if I was alone all the time, I'm sure I would be a little different. After I adjusted. Maybe I wouldn't curse so much and do things I can't do when people around. I'm very polar. You would never guess that I would think the things I think by looking at me.

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So...what do you all do when you are alone? Who are you really?

If you must know...
I'm that guy watching YouPorn all day, wondering how grandma can still get her legs that far back!!

I burp loudly, I eat too fast with my mouth open, which makes me burp. I look at my houseplants and then zone out on the computer or video games.

I have zero manners when I'm by myself.