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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:22 PM
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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
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Actually i did that all through my 20's till about 2 years ago. Women have always treated me like dirt but i have never had one be so damn sneaky about it and so emotionless. When i haven't cared they act so damn loving and cry and beg until i give in and bang. Personally I'm thinking of just not caring anymore or believing in anyone. I'm 29 and haven't met one truthful women when it comes to relationships. I'm not ugly actually i do get a lot of beautiful women and I'm faithful which i believe used to be a virtue but isn't anymore


Faithful is still a virtue in a relationship. No woman wants a cheating man. Simple as that. I have had my share and more of girlfriends and can honestly say I have never cheated. Not all of my exes can.

Anyway, There are women out there that would appreciate you caring about them and not cheating and treating them well and actually......will not use you! They will give some of themselves to you in return, and I'm not talking just about sex. As for your redeeming qualities, I have no clue.

I know it's surprising to hear that, but they do exist. This is not a conspiracy theory by the way, I can post pictures of Stephie, but it wouldn't be any fun since her feet are only size seven or eight and not bigfoot shaped.

This may be blunt and I don't know where you meet women but, perhaps you need to up your standards more in the "stable in life" area. It worked for me.




posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:23 PM
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I've said it before and i'll say it again...

The best way to get over someone... is to get under someone else




posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:25 PM
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LOL I knew this would happen too thats why I never dated girls from my school when i was younger. I want to transfer to a different college this girl is drooled on by just about every guy at the college.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:26 PM
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Dude i know how you feel. I had a girl friend do almost the exact same stuff you are describing, and when she broke up with me it was the same thing... No emotion. You will get over it eventually but my best advice is to just give up on dating. Its not a thing about Women or Men being dishonest, Its about people being dishonest and selfish. Probably won't be the last time you have something like this happen. Hang in there though, you will feel better it just takes some time.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:27 PM
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Originally posted by kdog1982
Young love.
Yes,I said it young love.

I'm 47 .
Sounds to me like she was using you as a stepping stone.
And with you being 29 and her being 20,a huge difference in maturity.
My advice is to move on,there are more out there.
I married my first wife when I was 22.4 years later we we're divorced.
Met my current wife when I was 28 and we have been married for 16 years with two kids.
I didn't become a dad until I was 33.
You got time dude,she is not worth it,in my opinion.


Solid Advice as always Kdog...




posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:33 PM
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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
reply to post by Common Good
 


Yeah its over. But i dont think i know how to go from hey lets get married and have kids to hey how did you do on the mid term. I'm actually ashamed i let her get so close and cause me so much grief I mean i must of looked like a total ass at school and im 30 man this is bad



Just think of it as a short period of grief, for a longer period of happiness.

Yes, you are 30. You should be used to looking like an ass by now in front of the ladies.

I tore my own heart out long ago to prevent these types of things from happening.


get over her, millions of fish in the oily seas.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:33 PM
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It hurts I know this. But show strength as if she never meant a thing to you. Cut every tie and ignore any attempt of her talking to you. She aint worth the emotion if she just wants to hurt you. Put her bed outside who cares what happens to it. Dont give her any help putting it in the car either.
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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:35 PM
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First, I am so sorry she hurt you. But something just doesn't sound right about her.....consider yourself lucky. Yes, things sound like they moved way too fast, and it sounds like she is not ready to commit to anyone. Let her pick up the rest of her stuff, and if i were you, I would let it go. If you get back with her, she will probably hurt you again. I know it's hard, but she is very young, and apparently not ready to settle down. Too bad you'll have to see her all the time, but just give her a friendly nod when you see her and keep going. Thank your lucky stars that you found out BEFORE you were together a long time, and then had a child together. I believe that everything happens for a reason....maybe the "right" one is waiting for you this school year? You never know. I wish you the best!



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:35 PM
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I'm glad you found someone that's good to you and you can trust. Its easy to trust when you have never had anyone break you just to see if they can, also its hard to build trust with anyone once your trust in people get's really messed with. I really do not have any trust left even with her it was hard to push my self to do it and in doing so i feel like a fool for believing in love or trust. It like i knew that taking that plunge was going to be filled with spikes on the bottom while the other person eggs you on just to watch.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:37 PM
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First of all, let me say that I am sorry you are having to go through this right now. Here are a few human behavior facts you should keep filed under "FYI":

1. The person who is initiating the break-up has been thinking about it for a long time, and by the time they break up with you, they have gone through the emotional process and are already mentally out the door.

2. The vast majority of people do not break up with a partner unless they have another partner waiting in the wings. Very few people break up and go off to be by themselves. Most people are self-centered in that regard.

3. Be VERY WARY of people who jump head-first into a relationship and hurry it along to the "let's get married and have children" phase. A mature, intelligent person will not do that. Somebody with a personality disorder will. They make big plans and talk serious commitment, but that's all it is: Talk. These types of individuals are often narcissistic, selfish, and emotionally immature. They confuse infatuation with love. When the infatuation dies, they think they've fallen out of love and are on to the next victim. They are very good at their deception because they believe what they're saying....until they change their mind, which may be in the next hour, week, month, or year. Not only are they selfish, they are also delusional.

4. Do not grieve over this girl. She will continue doing this and leave a trail of broken-hearted, confused men in her wake until she either grows up mentally or somebody burns her badly before she can burn them. Most women like this do not grow up until they are in their 40s, after a lifetime of hurting people, including their own children.

5. As much as this hurts now, once you get over the shock and pain, you will realize that this girl did you the favor of a lifetime by running off with some other sucker. You will meet somebody worthy, beautiful and kind when you least expect it, and you will take it slow, and it will be worth whatever pain you're going through now. In the future, you'll look back and thank your lucky stars Ms. Liar-Cheater is gone.

So you have to see her sorry little self in school. Narcissists hate to be ignored and forgotten, so that's exactly what you should do: Ignore her like you do the dust under your feet, and forget about her. Going out and having fun with friends, and meeting other women, is just what you need as salve for your broken heart.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:39 PM
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Thank you,when you spend time on divorce forums,you learn alot.
My wife and I separated twice,but managed to work through it.
And developing a tough skin helps also.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:42 PM
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You'll find a nice little hottie to take home.

Not good advice....something called STD's....I don't think that is the answer to his problems. Picking up random women for jack rabbit sex makes him no better than her. Love ya Cal, but he shouldn't go that route IMO...but what do I know...I'm not a guy

edit on 1/5/2012 by StealthyKat because: (no reason given)



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:51 PM
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lol your right. I used to have the belief that if i let this get the best of me and acted like they did I was only helping to abuse the next person who would learn to become an abuser themselves creating a cycle of broken hearts no trust and resentment towards the other sex. I honestly believed it could be stopped by someone seeing the damage they have done. I wore my heart on my sleeve and never put up walls and played fair and its feels like the thing i admired about myself just died because i cant do it anymore. Im not broken just tried of playing a game that's rigged form the start and i fear now that if i ever did meet a good women i would not have it in me to trust her from 18 to 29 you start to give up hope
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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:52 PM
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You're 100% correct, StealthyKat. Even if a condom is used, one can still get herpes.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:53 PM
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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
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I'm glad you found someone that's good to you and you can trust. Its easy to trust when you have never had anyone break you just to see if they can, also its hard to build trust with anyone once your trust in people get's really messed with. I really do not have any trust left even with her it was hard to push my self to do it and in doing so i feel like a fool for believing in love or trust. It like i knew that taking that plunge was going to be filled with spikes on the bottom while the other person eggs you on just to watch.


Trust me Pcrobot....I have had that experience. Married at 21 while in the military and had my wife lie to me and cheat on me with friends while on deployment. She did break me. War never made me cry like she did. The tears are a part of my past now. 'nuff said, I could write an entire post on it.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:56 PM
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This is what's wrong with America today. Get your head out of your butt and dump her. Then tell everyone you know that Ron Paul is great and to vote for him.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:58 PM
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its done dude its over no dumping required ps i will vote for ron paul



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 08:43 PM
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Music says it so much better sometimes, hope you like. The lyrics are very on topic.

ETA
This belongs too...

edit on 5/1/12 by LightSpeedDriver because: ETA

ETA2


Ps i know how this sounds at my age kind of like a teenager

Nonsense. You feel how you feel. Do not be ashamed or feel silly. Love hurts. I wish you much strength in the coming life adjustment.

edit on 5/1/12 by LightSpeedDriver because: ETA2



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 09:39 PM
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Originally posted by tsawyer2

Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
reply to post by tsawyer2
 


I'm glad you found someone that's good to you and you can trust. Its easy to trust when you have never had anyone break you just to see if they can, also its hard to build trust with anyone once your trust in people get's really messed with. I really do not have any trust left even with her it was hard to push my self to do it and in doing so i feel like a fool for believing in love or trust. It like i knew that taking that plunge was going to be filled with spikes on the bottom while the other person eggs you on just to watch.


Trust me Pcrobot....I have had that experience. Married at 21 while in the military and had my wife lie to me and cheat on me with friends while on deployment. She did break me. War never made me cry like she did. The tears are a part of my past now. 'nuff said, I could write an entire post on it.







The heart is stronger then anything.
You should start a post on that,because the writing of those words helps release that pain.
And once that pain is released,then you can move forward in your life.



posted on Jan, 6 2012 @ 12:10 AM
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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
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lol your right. I used to have the belief that if i let this get the best of me and acted like they did I was only helping to abuse the next person who would learn to become an abuser themselves creating a cycle of broken hearts no trust and resentment towards the other sex. I honestly believed it could be stopped by someone seeing the damage they have done. I wore my heart on my sleeve and never put up walls and played fair and its feels like the thing i admired about myself just died because i cant do it anymore. Im not broken just tried of playing a game that's rigged form the start and i fear now that if i ever did meet a good women i would not have it in me to trust her from 18 to 29 you start to give up hope
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So accept that this is how you feel and don't get into a relationship until you are healed and can trust again. That's main problem, going into a relationship when your heart is still wounded. Repair your heart with self-love and you'll be stronger than ever and be ready for the next one.




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