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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:47 PM
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I'm not sure if this is the right thread topic to post in sorry if it isn't. I met a girl about a year ago smart pretty very flirtatious young like wow young. She seemed interested but i put it off after i found out her age. She 20 by the way im 29 we met in college one night when hanging out we hooked up. things moved fast i mean real fast after 2 weeks we started dating a month later she moved into my house. We planned on getting married having kid ect I mean real fast but we both enjoyed each others company so i thought hell maybe its the real thing. Like the story goes we started having problems she began to act strangely around certain people. I had a guy lie to me about her in a weird threatening manner "he was real in my face about it" I told her about it she said ignore it so i did. 3 weeks later this guy is finds me in the hall and he does the same thing I told him to get the hell away from me the guy try's to start a fight with me. She comes up and says whats wrong to me i tell her then she asked the "other guy" I was like wtf.
The next day she gets a text saying i miss you and cant wait to hold you so we fight about that again i was like wtf. after this mess i should have ran but like a moron i stayed only to have her rip out my heart today which is right before we go back to school on the 9th. We got in a fight because she got a text from some random person she didn't know. It was a smiley face with the mouth slanted then a call later at like 5 in the morning from a blocked number i picked up the person didn't say a thing then hung up. Now normally her phone isn't on vibrate but she set it that same night. The next day after i ask her whats going on, she just packs up her stuff and leaves with no emotion what so ever. I only have a couple of hours before she picks up her bed. What should i do.

Ps i know how this sounds at my age kind of like a teenager but hell man this girl pulled this crap on me im actually used to women being somewhat honest. Also shes moving in to her brothers place but she used to stay with her mom and dad i find that kind of strange as well. I will have to see this person for 2 more years fffffkkkkkkk. Can someone help me with this situation or at lest give me some advice




posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:50 PM
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Ditch the broad.
Let her leave without saying anything.


Sorry- its the only advice I have.

She doesnt sound too trusting.
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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:51 PM
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No advice at all!

Move this thread out of the grey area!



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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:54 PM
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Let her go.

Already there is no trust and suspicions.

Save yourself some heart ache, it only gets worse as you put yourself thru it.

Set her free, and if she doesn't come back to you, well...


it was never meant to be.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:54 PM
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I don't undestand why there's some girls out there that act like this and have no respect in relationships just hopping from one to another lying behind peoples backs its disgusting and i hate to say it but i see it all the time...



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:56 PM
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Yeah its over. But i dont think i know how to go from hey lets get married and have kids to hey how did you do on the mid term. I'm actually ashamed i let her get so close and cause me so much grief I mean i must of looked like a total ass at school and im 30 man this is bad



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:56 PM
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Right here was your mistake , that is leading you blue about the whole break up


"after this mess i should have ran but like a moron i stayed "


Bam.


Walk away like a man , put a smile on , and forget that clown



In a few weeks of months don't worry shes going to come back like a sick puppy and want another chance.


After she sees how good you were to her ,the other guys won't compare !


Heres what you do tonight

Call up the boys , hit the strip club , then a regular club .

Go in with the mentality " if you don't shoot you don't score"

You'll find a nice little hottie to take home.

Take out all your anger out with some good manly jack rabbit sex,

Start your recovery process.

Men don't have broken hearts , just brused ego's


which can easily be repaired !



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 05:58 PM
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I'm really sorry you're going through this. Like the other posters said, you should let her go. I mean, suppose you get back together, can you honestly say that you won't have doubts about her in the future? You trusted her and she broke your heart, from what you say it's like she's not even sorry.

I hope things get better for you, I'm sure you'll find someone who's as committed to relationships as you are.

*Hugs*



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:02 PM
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First of all calm down.

Do whatever calms you down. Heck, have your favorite beverage, but don't get drunk. Drunk = Stupid Decisions and I don't want to see you end up in jail.

Second, I can understand your emotion, but the story comes out unclear in your post.

But if I have it correct, it sounds like she is keeping relationships with other guys from you. That would not be a good sign. For me and my Stephie, we keep in contact with old flames that we want to and it's no problem. We have a secure relationship.

She sounds insecure. But perhaps you do too. Without all the details, I can't be sure.

Third, after you calm down, seriously and honestly look at your relationship and make a decision if this is the person who you want to be with the rest of your life. Work on it if you need to.

If not, you are 29 and have many other women who you can meet.

Just my two cents.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:04 PM
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The only advice I can give you is to try and get the truth out in the open. It seems a lot of things are kept in the dark. There might be a lot of reasons for that. Try and uncover them.

If you are really in to this girl and want to make it work, that is the only way to go.

It seems like you hold a fair share of natural paranoia as well. No biggy, but it will withhold you from deeping any relationship whatsoever.

So... sit down and ask her questions like: What's going on? I feel like I'm losing you. I want to be sincere with you, but I feel like something is in the way. Get it out in the open... ALL of it. If you want to be with someone FOR REAL, there can be no reservations. It has to be all genuine.

She is still young and probably still caught up in a lot of 'things to figure out.' She is still in an age where one makes mistakes to find out ones soul. Grasp that! Accept it!

You can only truely be there for her as a person. You can never OWN a person.

Well, at least that is what life taught me so far..

Good luck mate!



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:08 PM
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One reason why I dated older than me. yeah sure drama is everywhere and in any age, but the younger aged girl/women tend to have a couple things in mind Party, and sex,
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posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:08 PM
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Here's an ATS link for ya -
Relationships part of TPTB plan?
The title should explain itself.

Don't worry you don't look like a fool in front of anyone, no matter your age. People do it all the time. We can't help it we're built with a heart and soul!
edit on 5-1-2012 by ItsEvolutionBaby because: forgot to ID ATS link



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:09 PM
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set fire to her bed?

(:

lol.

i have nothing more useful than the other here. toughen up, you now have 99 problems but a bi*ch aint one!




posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:09 PM
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Actually i did that all through my 20's till about 2 years ago. Women have always treated me like dirt but i have never had one be so damn sneaky about it and so emotionless. When i haven't cared they act so damn loving and cry and beg until i give in and bang. Personally I'm thinking of just not caring anymore or believing in anyone. I'm 29 and haven't met one truthful women when it comes to relationships. I'm not ugly actually i do get a lot of beautiful women and I'm faithful which i believe used to be a virtue but isn't anymore



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:14 PM
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It's always hard man, hell I'm still affected by the rejections I had in my slightly younger days let alone the break ups.

Thing is, we all meet someone we like a lot, the question is will it last and if so, how long?

A year is a pretty good run in my book so congratulations there but even so, it's still hard to deal with when a relationship ends. Maybe you weren't right for each other? Maybe you were too good for her?

Many questions will go through your head but you have some good people in your life and in your ATS life too if you need just a chat. Hell, use the ATS Chat function if necessary, random conversation always helps me at least.

If you haven't already, write your feelings down in a post but don't hit the Reply button, just click another link instead because again, that helps too.

Hope all is well with you.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:15 PM
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did all of what you said she basically said nothing and put this all on me saying its a trust issue thing.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:16 PM
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Originally posted by pcrobotwolf
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did all of what you said she basically said nothing and put this all on me saying its a trust issue thing.


She didn't trust you or what because in my book, a woman saying that usually means she has something to hide and projects her guilt onto the other person.

Sorry you're going through this, I really am.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:17 PM
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Be cool man.
It ain't easy to do sometimes. I know I've blown it before. Sorry you gotta see her on campus, but BE COOL.


She'll probably be bouncing around looong after you've found something better and settled down.



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:20 PM
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" i have never had one be so damn sneaky about it"


Most of them like that lol , They are EVOL lol.


They just pull out the sneaky cards , and ninja superficial emotions when they want to use it.

Other then that then act all cute , with there dolled up figures , and sweet personalities


We men eat it up like suckers !!!


Well i am with Al Bunday and i say NO MAAM!




Yea your right when you don't really care they are all over you lol. I hear ya buddy . Time to go back to that attitude , untill your at the alter saying I Do



There are plenty off fish in the sea . She was one of those mutated ones. ONly her mutation was mental not physical



Next one should be better ! lol



posted on Jan, 5 2012 @ 06:21 PM
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Young love.
Yes,I said it young love.

I'm 47 .
Sounds to me like she was using you as a stepping stone.
And with you being 29 and her being 20,a huge difference in maturity.
My advice is to move on,there are more out there.
I married my first wife when I was 22.4 years later we we're divorced.
Met my current wife when I was 28 and we have been married for 16 years with two kids.
I didn't become a dad until I was 33.
You got time dude,she is not worth it,in my opinion.



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