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posted on Jan, 1 2012 @ 11:44 PM
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Comments on another thread made me think of starting this one.

There are times in my life when I feel lonely. I hate being in a room full of people and feeling alone.

The past few years I have found that being myself instead of "protecting" who I really am makes all the difference. But, there are still times I am afraid to show the "real me" for some reason, whether it be my mood or the unfamiliar surroundings or something like that.

What does loneliness mean?


Loneliness can mean: feeling that you are unacceptable, unloved by those around you, not worthwhile, even if others don’t share these perceptions; feeling alienated from your surroundings: lack the attachments that you had in the past... feeling that there is no one with whom to share your personal concerns and experiences... feeling that you are alone and have no other choice. You may find it difficult to make friends or go beyond mere acquaintance...


Effects of loneliness:


Chronic loneliness is a serious, life-threatening condition. At least one study has empirically correlated it with an increased risk of cancer, especially for those who hide their loneliness from the outside world, and it is also associated with increased risk of stroke and cardiovascular disease.

Loneliness has been linked with depression, and is thus a risk factor for suicide.

People who are socially isolated may report poor sleep quality, and thus have diminished restorative processes.

Loneliness has also been linked with a Schizoid character type in which case one may see the world differently and experience social alienation, described as the self in exile.

Loneliness can also play a part in alcoholism and substance abuse.

In children, a lack of social connections is directly linked to several forms of antisocial and self-destructive behavior, most notably hostile and delinquent behavior.

In both children and adults, loneliness often has a negative impact on learning and memory. Its disruption of sleep patterns can have a significant impact on the ability to function in everyday life.

Some other effects of loneliness may not be symptomatic for years. In 2005, results from the American Framingham Heart Study demonstrated that lonely men had raised levels of Interleukin 6 (IL-6), a blood chemical linked to heart disease. A 2006 study conducted by the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience at the University of Chicago found loneliness can add thirty points to a blood pressure reading for adults over the age of fifty. Another finding, from a survey conducted by John Cacioppo from the University of Chicago, is that doctors report providing better medical care to patients who have a strong network of family and friends than they do to patients who are alone.

Cacioppo states that loneliness impairs cognition and willpower, alters DNA transcription in immune cells, and leads over time to high blood pressure.

en.wikipedia.org...

How to cure loneliness:


1. Keep Busy. If you are lonely, don't dwell on the fact. Get up and get out! Go somewhere where there are a lot of people. Don't worry if you don't know any of them; sometimes being around other people can help brighten your spirits. Other simple things you can do to keep busy are to join a club, take some classes at the YMCA, volunteer at a non-profit organization, or take up a hobby that requires mental concentration. The point is to find something that interests you and run with.

2. Get Involved. Your neighborhood and your church are two great places to start getting involved. On the surface this might sound like the same thing as keeping busy. Getting involved in something will require a little more time and lot more of your attention, but that is what you want. So commit yourself to some cause or charity that you feel passionate about. The more involved you get, the more people you will meet, the less and less loneliness will be an issue. Look around at the people you know who do not experience loneliness. Chances are, they are busy and involved people.

3. Help Other Lonely People. There are a lot of people out there like yourself: people who are lonely and don't know how to cope with their loneliness. If you look for those people and strive to help cure their loneliness, in the end you will also be helping yourself to cure your own loneliness.

4. See it for What it Is. You will need to start to view loneliness as a choice and not as a defined way of life. This means that you choose to be lonely when you do not really have to be lonely. Try being happy for a change and you will see the difference a smile will make. Just as feelings of loneliness breed more feelings of loneliness, feeling of happiness can bring about more feelings of happiness. If necessary, join a group that deals with feeling lonely. A group setting is designed to help you develop an optimistic attitude.

5. Change your Thought Pattern. I don't know why, but people who feel lonely and depressed tend to watch shows and read materials that reinforce their depressed mood. Are you listening to music about heartbroken people? Are you watching movies that require a box of tissues? What you need to do is change your way of thinking! Start listening to uplifting music, read inspirational writing -- such as poems or the Bible -- and start watching uplifting TV shows. All of these will help to change your negative thought patterns.

www.happy-relationships.com...

True loneliness can be heart-wrenching. I know people who have suffered true loneliness for extended amounts of time.
I know people who don't even recognize that loneliness is what they are experiencing.

I think thats why I love my job so much... I talk to many people each day, pretty much the same people all day every day and joke around with them and KNOW them (at least I feel like I do).

But at night when the kids go to bed I get lonely and look forward to work in the morning. Thank God I get to go to work and enjoy the people I spend my day with.
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posted on Jan, 1 2012 @ 11:51 PM
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I appreciate this post... I think since I got let off from my work I got no money to do anything, it has really taken a toll... It sucks, sometimes, but I can relate to this.

Although my Job was a factory and SUCKED, I still enjoyed seeing everyone on a constant basis. But in a factory people quit all the time and the people I worked with always changed and took a even further toll on me to not like my job as much as I used to. But yeah
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posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 12:12 AM
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I've found loneliness to be a blessing. Being able to live with myself, learn about myself and become my own best company is very freeing.

Moving to a new city and leaving my friends and family behind has given me time to discover myself. I've been able to hone my mind through study, hone my body through exercise and hone my artistic abilites. Through this happiness and gaining of confidence, people just began to gravitate towards me and I'm making good friends with like minds. I can now rely on myself.

I now love being alone with myself and my mind. I think if everyone achieved this love of themselves, the world would become a better place.



posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 12:27 AM
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This time of year always makes me feel this way because I like outdoors.. I love biking, hiking and all that sort of stuff and when it's cold and snowy outside I can't do that..

One thing that really helps me is lots of light.. "natural light" .. I picked up some full spectrum CFL bulbs and even some very bright white christmas lights, I keep things festive and bright.. it helps =)

I am just coming to the end of over two weeks off from work, but didn't have plans because I'm conserving funds.. that was two weeks in my house alone! talk about depressing.
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posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 12:49 AM
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I've been there... laid off... no money... home alone.

Hang in there!



posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 12:52 AM
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Sounds like you've made the best of things... good for you! Starting over in a new place is not that easy, but sounds like you've done well.



posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 12:54 AM
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I agree with you about the natural light. I have a tendency for wintertime depression, and the "light" always helps a bunch!

2 weeks home alone... whew! What a trooper. I'd be stir crazy after a couple days
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posted on Jan, 2 2012 @ 10:26 AM
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There is a difference between loneliness and being alone....



posted on Jan, 6 2012 @ 09:26 PM
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Originally posted by StealthyKat
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There is a difference between loneliness and being alone....


Obviously.

I believe you are implying I wasn't lonely; an arrogant assumption, but I suppose everyone's assumptions are arrogant when not thought through.

I was saying: personally, I don't need social relationships all the time. There are other ways I can keep busy and still remain happy without feeling I have to go out and meet new friends. Yes, I was lonely, until I saw the opportunity in the situation and discovered more than I would have if I wasn't lonely.

I hope this clarifies.



posted on Jan, 27 2012 @ 10:07 PM
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As with so many words the word lonely causes a load of feelings, but the literal definition of lonely is "being without equal; unique".

The lonely feeling is related to feeling superior or inferior, When one accepts that being average is OK loneliness dissipates.

In common parlance - get your head out of the sky, and get your head out of your arse and you will be ok.

"And so you think you are different"






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