Originally posted by HomerinNC
Let me tell you all something:
I suffer from BOTH Borderline Personality Disorder AND Bipolar disorder, and I have to say, alot of these replies about telling the OP to stay away from people like me, is appalling. You only mention RARE cases, not all of us are as bad as you'd all like to believe.
First off, I admit to being impulsive at times, but then I got a wonderful understanding GF I live with that knows my issues and knows how to rein me in before going crazy with impulsive actions. I also take my meds everyday without fail, as i know i am a little off kilter if i dont. But I have NEVER been violent toward anyone else, nor have I ever tried to hurt anyone emotionally, financially or physically.
If you havent deal with the illness or with anyone else with it, please refrain from commenting
1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness
8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent 9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms
1. There is evidence that the individual's characteristic and enduring patterns of inner experience and behaviour as a whole deviate markedly from the culturally expected and accepted range (or "norm"). Such deviation must be manifest in two or more of the following areas:
* cognition (i.e., ways of perceiving and interpreting things, people, and events; forming attitudes and images of self and others);
* affectivity (range, intensity, and appropriateness of emotional arousal and response);
* control over impulses and gratification of needs;
* manner of relating to others and of handling interpersonal situations.
2. The deviation must manifest itself pervasively as behaviour that is inflexible, maladaptive, or otherwise dysfunctional across a broad range of personal and social situations (i.e., not being limited to one specific "triggering" stimulus or situation).
3. There is personal distress, or adverse impact on the social environment, or both, clearly attributable to the behaviour referred to in criterion 2.
4. There must be evidence that the deviation is stable and of long duration, having its onset in late childhood or adolescence.
5. The deviation cannot be explained as a manifestation or consequence of other adult mental disorders, although episodic or chronic conditions from sections F00-F59 or F70-F79 of this classification may coexist with, or be superimposed upon, the deviation.
6. Organic brain disease, injury, or dysfunction must be excluded as the possible cause of the deviation. ...
Originally posted by BO XIAN
reply to post by alldaylong
Not enough information to say.
Was she saying to her parents:
--this is my friend I've shared so much about?
--this is my friend/lover?
--this is my friend who's a lot like me who could also use some parental caring that didn't bite?
--this is my friend that I'd like you to get to know better because she's helped me a lot?
Originally posted by BO XIAN
reply to post by Frira
I am such a person. I continuously, incessantly, seek to prepare for a battle which will likely never come. On the other hand-- I make a great first-responder in a crisis! I cannot imagine not being ready-- and find that the vast majority of humanity who have to think before acting in an emergency to be contemptuously relaxed-- until I remember that I am the oddball.
As my very wise therapist explained to me... I am alive because I am that way, disordered as it is, so of course I am loathe to change. Being hyper-vigilant saved my life-- and the lives of at least two others.
Morally speaking, how do I relax when I know that doing so can cost a life? I am what I am. However, and back to the point of the post to which I respond: That I am ready for mass disorder and violence-- does not mean the end is near. I just have all that stored potential and sometime wish the trigger would come to release it.
. . . per my biases . . . existential thrownness . . . perspective . . . experiences . . . constructions on reality:
. . . including . . . living around a friend who's been BPD all their life . . .
WE--certainly most of us?--in this era . . . were
BORN FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS.
I respect your cautious qualified assertions above. Respectfully, I do NOT think that's all there is to it.
Though that would be a lot if it were.
I believe our experiences give us some extra spiritual and intellectual sensitivities that are more alert and tuned-in to psycho-dynamic and sociological and spiritual forces rushing forward and converging toward
Some of us have 'over-the-horizon-radar' about such things and many seem obliviously bumbling and mumbling around in denial.
I think BPD folks can readily be, by their constant scanning and often paranoid character disorder features, keenly and early on alert to the forces setting such things up--well before the average bear.
Of course, sorting out what is valid extra keen alertness on their part and what is BPD/PARANOIA is a whole
'NOTHER ISSUE. LOL.
Nevertheless, hypervigilence is effective in early detection of threat (as well, of course, in assuming threat when there is none or little).
I think it remains for those of us who, hopefully, have better reality testing to ASSESS the threat that BPD etc. sorts may accurately detect and 'alert' on.
BPD folks may well be the canaries in the mine shaft for all of us.
. . . for those who will pay attention and check things out fair-mindedly.
edit on 30/12/2011 by BO XIAN because: fix emphases
Originally posted by alldaylong
reply to post by Frira
If i may take this opportunity to explain when i first had concern about the person who was later diagnosed with BPD.
She held a 40th birthday party.
She invited mainly family but also some of my friends
Her parents where also in attendance.
A lady arrived at the party and the lady with BPD held her hand and took her over to her parents and said to them "This is my friend"
I found that quite a strange thing to do. Or is it normal and i am the strange one?
Originally posted by galacticgirl
To ALL the posters - thank you from the bottom of my heart. Each post furthers knowledge - understanding - awareness of a very real life situation for so many people. Please keep this thread going. There's a reason why this is a focus at this particular moment in time. Many of us can feel it around us - time has speeded up and everything on the planet seems to be coming to a head all at the same time.
I have a knowing that people interacting with BPD and those who have it are having the same experience: everything is coming to a head.