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Originally posted by kaylaluv
reply to post by Frira
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I also have problems with people who say they had no idea their abuser was like this. People as sick at that are not able to hide it for very long - I'm talking a matter of days or weeks at most. You probably had an inkling of her violent nature within a month of the marriage, yet you stayed 16 years. Unbelievable.
Originally posted by ScorpioRising
[BTW, my mother had several abusive relationships and I turned out perfectly fine, so did my brothers, and so are my own children.
I am glad that it appears you have never been through it yourself, I hope you are able to stick to your strength and leave straight away should you ever be faced with it.
Originally posted by kaylaluv
Originally posted by ScorpioRising
[BTW, my mother had several abusive relationships and I turned out perfectly fine, so did my brothers, and so are my own children.
I am glad that it appears you have never been through it yourself, I hope you are able to stick to your strength and leave straight away should you ever be faced with it.
I haven't been married to an abuser, but I dated someone for about 6 months who turned out to have a very controlling/obsessive/possessive nature. I got out of it as soon as I realized that. It would have been a marriage in hell had I stayed with this person. I'm not sure what the issue is with abused men, but abused women tend to have already existing self-esteem issues. A woman with high self-esteem is much less likely to put herself in this type of situation, much less stay in it. So, I would agree with you that women with low self-esteem are going to believe their abusers who tell them they are worthless.
Originally posted by kaylaluv
reply to post by Frira
To bring this somewhat back to topic - men should get out of abusive relationships and get their female abuser sent to prison, just like abused women should with their male abusers.
Originally posted by kaylaluv
reply to post by Frira
I am really trying not to be angry at you for allowing your children to be exposed to such horrific conditions, and to having their lives threatened on a regular basis.
Originally posted by Frira
Originally posted by quietlearner
Originally posted by korathin
1) Men are not more violent then women
2) Men on average are merely capable of more destruction when we do become violent.
3) Suppose some guy was being attacked by his wife or gf, what do you think would happen if he tried to defend himself? Heck dozen of guy's have ALREADY DIED IN POLICE CUSTODY from injuries from their wives and gf's, while their wives and gf's didn't have a scratch on them but the police didn't want to arrest them and had to arrest some body!
Add in the fact that WOMEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO USE WEAPONS AND BLUNT OBJECTS, and it is plain to see why people view feminist, female supremacist's the way we do.
Feminism is an out an out hate movement no matter how you dice it.edit on 31-12-2011 by korathin because: (no reason given)
Its proven fact that men are more prone to violence also its proven fact that men are less capable of empathy
of course there are exceptions if you compare extremes like in anything else.
And it may be that the difference is very slight...
...Straus and Gelles found that in couples reporting spousal violence, 27% of the time the man struck the first blow; in 24% of cases, the woman initiated the violence. The rest of the time, the violence was mutual, with both partners brawling.
The results were the same even when the most severe episodes of violence were analyzed. In order to counteract claims that the reporting data was skewed, female-only surveys were conducted, asking females to self-report, and the data was the same.
-- from Wiki's Domestic Violence article; section: Gender Aspects of Abuse; subsection: Violence Against Men.
but this is already well known from studying the human brain and the effects of sex hormones such as testosterone. This is also no surprise if you think about how humans evolved. The man was usually the one to go hunting for food which requires body strength and a fighter mind, while the women stayed back with the children
btw I wasn't defending feminists actually what I've been saying is that the feminists movement seems to be switching from useful and needed to out of touch and harmful
And THAT last statement is one with which I agree. Equal rights and equal access is one thing-- something men and women ought to want for each other as well as for themselves.
But tyrannical domination as a means to that end is unacceptable from any point of view.
Originally posted by korathin
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ekk Upon more review The first paragraph is discarded in relation to the person I am immediately replying too. And is more of a reply to a reply upon the person that is ignorantly blaming aggression on testosterone.edit on 2-1-2012 by korathin because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by korathin
I really, really wish I had the time to take you to task. So I am just going to have to give it a quick one over(and if I get anything wrong please correct me).
It is a flat out Myth that testosterone causes aggression. Well it does cause 'sexual aggression", as in make guy's more likely to "go all out to get the gal". That is why in the honeymoon phase(when gal's do everything and everything for the guy they love) women's testosterone levels increase while men's decrease.
As per testosterone causing "roid rage" and that type of stuff, well it is partly true. The body converts excess testosterone into estrogen. And it is the estrogen that causes the violent mood swings etc. So "Roid rage" is actually "Estrogen Poisoning".
As per the rest of it, Wiki isn't reliable. There was recently a huge stink with wiki and the Men's Rights section being re-edited by radical feminist's. You see Wiki has a big double standard. They take sources from rad feminist's and obscure rad feminist's as "serious" (see how Kimmel is an accepted "authority on DV ", even though he never had any of his results per reviewed ever[become most of the time his work gets debunked]). But require
Also the DV study you quoted was from the 80's. You could look at more recent Penn State studies that show young women commit more stalking and DV then young men. Or the CDC report back in 08 that showed that 3/4ths of women who are victims of DV wouldn't be victims if they weren't abusive first. Republican's are weird like that. When they are about to lose power they always decide to embrace the truth to get guy's to vote for them again, and once they are in power they tow the feminist line, but I digress.
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ekk Upon more review The first paragraph is discarded in relation to the person I am immediately replying too. And is more of a reply to a reply upon the person that is ignorantly blaming aggression on testosterone.edit on 2-1-2012 by korathin because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Aeons
Didn't read everything new. Just wanted to put in here that men with higher testosterone have been found to play nicer with others.
www.scientificamerican.com...
Enjoy!