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Originally posted by quietlearner
and I see women having to carry the weight of responsibility and accountability that originally only men had to deal with.
women will no longer be able to stay pretty and delicate, their hands will no longer be manicured and soft. instead they will have callous hands from working, they will have wrinkles on their faces from worrying, they will have more instances of baldness and higher cardiac disease from stress.
I dont see why women will want that and I don't see why any men would want that, I like pretty women myself
Originally posted by quietlearner
reply to post by Frira
IMO the reason why female to male domestic abuse is so overlooked is because in general the man is the stronger and more violent of the two. It is scientific fact the the average male is more prone to violence then the average female. That's why in most cases physical abuse by the female is less serious then the other way because the male has the physical capability to stop it..edit on 31-12-2011 by quietlearner because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by quietlearner
reply to post by Frira
I'm sorry to what happened to you and and I hope you and your kid are well
however I did find your post disturbing too for the reason that you seem to have alot of anger and that you are quick to generalize any feminist as "sub-humans"
Originally posted by quietlearner
reply to post by Frira
you are quick to generalize any feminist as "sub-humans"
the propensity to hate and dehumanize a wide group based on so little is a very dangerous combination.
Originally posted by Frira
If you are not disturbed by bone breaking, bloody and regular violence being called "bullying" when a woman does it to a man and her children (me and mine, for example), and "violence" when a man does it to a woman-- then you need to be disturbed more often.
You are not angry because it did not happen to you.
You are not angry because it was not your children.
But if it was you, and if it was your children, then you would be angry-- not needing a shrink-- you would just be angry; and I would understand. So, thank you very much, but I win the sanity test.
And I guarantee you that if you said what you wrote to my face, I would make you understand the experience of anger and outrage so fast your teeth would rattle.
One of us sees straight and thinks straight. The other is “disturbed” by my tone.
PS: And as for Annee, to whose defense you have rushed-- she can "man-up" and apologize for speaking way out of line to me and minimizing my trauma and my children's trauma as "bullying." That "bullying" woman I married killed a man before I met her. She forgot to tell me until married six years.
Oh, and she was young and pretty, so spent not a day in custody. Not a day. But then, I guess, why should anyone be punished for "bullying" a man... to death?edit on 30-12-2011 by Frira because: postscript
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
If you are not disturbed by bone breaking, bloody and regular violence being called "bullying" when a woman does it to a man and her children (me and mine, for example), and "violence" when a man does it to a woman-- then you need to be disturbed more often.
I dont condone violence on anyone, regardless of gender and i'd go as far as to claim that many people also dont encourage or accept violence as normal conduct in society. Im more disturbed at the fact that you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
I was angry, wasted alot of years of my life BEING angry and then after seeing that anger was getting me nowhere i actively sought some proper professional help so that i could have at least a chance of living a better life in which i was happy. I guess i win the maturity test.
And I guarantee you that if you said what you wrote to my face, I would make you understand the experience of anger and outrage so fast your teeth would rattle.
Cool off keyboard warrior, im not going to sit here and have you threaten me, I should report this post but im not easily rattled.
Its a public forum filled with opinions, no ones making you read or reply to my posts so why your bothering to the macho "I'll make your teeth rattle" is nothing less the absurd. You do realise your threatening a 22 year old woman, right? Of course you dont, that would require thinking on your part.
One of us sees straight and thinks straight. The other is “disturbed” by my tone.
PS: And as for Annee, to whose defense you have rushed-- she can "man-up" and apologize for speaking way out of line to me and minimizing my trauma and my children's trauma as "bullying." That "bullying" woman I married killed a man before I met her. She forgot to tell me until married six years.
Just because someone spoke "way out of line" doesn't mean you have to respond - it inflames the situation. You could just report Anne's posts and proper action would have been taken. Your posts are borderline trolling. If your pain is so personal i recommend not posting it on ANY public forum, you are merely setting yourself up to get hurt.
Originally posted by ldyserenity
I, for one hate the feminist movement for making it impossible to NOT have to work, se NOW because two income households are the norm, I m,ust work, too, because now it is so inflated from there being two income households that it is impossible to do it on one income!!! Thanks so much feminazis...oh the worse part we still don't get the same pay as much as we bust our a$$ so why the hell bother our income just ends up going to childcare for the msot part. I hate the bra burning itches!
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
One of us sees straight and thinks straight. The other is “disturbed” by my tone.
PS: And as for Annee, to whose defense you have rushed-- she can "man-up" and apologize for speaking way out of line to me and minimizing my trauma and my children's trauma as "bullying." That "bullying" woman I married killed a man before I met her. She forgot to tell me until married six years.
Just because someone spoke "way out of line" doesn't mean you have to respond - it inflames the situation. You could just report Anne's posts and proper action would have been taken. Your posts are borderline trolling. If your pain is so personal i recommend not posting it on ANY public forum, you are merely setting yourself up to get hurt.
Oh, and she was young and pretty, so spent not a day in custody. Not a day. But then, I guess, why should anyone be punished for "bullying" a man... to death?edit on 30-12-2011 by Frira because: postscript
Well, that sucks. Least you didnt get thrown out of your house with 4 kids because your husband died and as a woman, you weren't allowed a mortgage - Yup, there was a reason feminism happened.
Its to bad this crazy woman of yours wasn't around in the 18th century - you could have got her locked up for life on your say so!
Originally posted by Frira
"Everyone?"
I have been quite specific-- no broad brush has been used. It just so happens that you fall into that very specific group-- and you don't like the realization of that. Solution-- don't fall into that hate-motivated group. Didn't your therapist explain this to you?
Twice you have insulted me for being angry. (Minus 1 on the sanity scale).
You, obviously, are angry. So go get more help. I am obviously not interested in denying my anger or turning it inward, or directing it outward against the innocent-- only letting it loose on those who merit an angry response-- and in appropriate measure. Do likewise.
Then your professional was sub-standard-- they forget to tell you the anger goes somewhere-- either inward or outward-- and so you, at the very least, troll the Internet getting it out.
Frankly, I do not believe there is a therapist on the planet who told you that you could just ignore all that anger-- put it away-- or let you believe that you have done so.
But, you are sitting there, and typing out your anger-- obviously. That means you are in denial. Minus 2 on the sanity check. Blame your Mom-- not me. Minus 3.
You are the one that started mouthing off at me-- and you knew nothing of me.
You don't like it that you found someone angrier than you AND you made the mistake of making it personal. So sit there and take it-- you earned it.
Live with it. Deal with the anger I can evoke in you. Relish it, make it your own. Stare at yourself in the mirror and contemplate its depths and your inability to stop it from eating at you.
You should not have volunteered me to receive your anger if you were not prepared for a fitting response. What planet do you think you live on?
That was "so fast it will make your teeth rattle." Get your idiom straight-- and quote me as I write or not all. You are dishonest.
Strike first and then play the victim? How... un-manly of you.
But where does my anger go if I do not respond? It was appropriate-- a healthy response-- but you internalized my reply as if I had addressed you. Minus 5.
But reporting a post I don't like, is to expect others to get dirty to protect me. Men rarely do that.
Originally posted by Frira
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
One of us sees straight and thinks straight. The other is “disturbed” by my tone.
PS: And as for Annee, to whose defense you have rushed-- she can "man-up" and apologize for speaking way out of line to me and minimizing my trauma and my children's trauma as "bullying." That "bullying" woman I married killed a man before I met her. She forgot to tell me until married six years.
Just because someone spoke "way out of line" doesn't mean you have to respond - it inflames the situation. You could just report Anne's posts and proper action would have been taken. Your posts are borderline trolling. If your pain is so personal i recommend not posting it on ANY public forum, you are merely setting yourself up to get hurt.
Well your advise is not professional-- and I am a professional. Actually, what works is telling my story, With PTSD, I re-live it less and less when I get it out, and that makes me more functional. That was good, professional, advice which I took-- not my own-- I do not counsel myself, good professionals don't do that.
Your lay advice is damaging to others who read it-- and I will correct it. The proper response to ANYONE who says "just let your anger go, because anger is unhealthy" is "TICK. TICK. TICK..."
And you let off little explosions on the Internet, hoping someone will react so you can target them. I did. You vented. You are welcome. The differences, however, are important. I'm serious.
First, I vented on someone who minimized my trauma and my children's trauma. That was appropriate.
Second, I had not addressed you at all, and yet you teed off on me. Inappropriate.
My story invokes an emotional reaction among those who will engage it. Reading it from a neutral point of view, evokes empathy-- it hurts to read it and know nothing can be done. I live with that-- I have no choice. My children are still missing-- grieving cannot end and anger is a part of grief. I quote TWO professionals in speaking to me, "If you, Frira were not angry, you would be clinically insane." They shared my anger-- that helps.
But those who read my story with an agenda-- minimize it ""Get over it-- having your children kidnapped and denied a voice in the justice system;" or, blame me, "He must have done something to deserve it;" or deny it happened, "There must be more to the story than we are hearing."
And what is the healthy, normal human response to that? There is one word which is commonly used: That word is "rage."
So how much off my rage would you like? I have plenty.
Oh, and she was young and pretty, so spent not a day in custody. Not a day. But then, I guess, why should anyone be punished for "bullying" a man... to death?edit on 30-12-2011 by Frira because: postscript
Well, that sucks. Least you didnt get thrown out of your house with 4 kids because your husband died and as a woman, you weren't allowed a mortgage - Yup, there was a reason feminism happened.
Its to bad this crazy woman of yours wasn't around in the 18th century - you could have got her locked up for life on your say so!
But I did get thrown out of my house-- and had my children hidden from me-- because, against the activist feminist agenda, most MEN have no legal recourse. So, the Eighteenth Century justifies what the activist have done to my children and to me? And you cannot see that as a problem? Minus 6.
Mind you, you are the one who made it personal and twice questioned my sanity. So report all you want for my keeping score.
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
"Everyone?"
I have been quite specific-- no broad brush has been used. It just so happens that you fall into that very specific group-- and you don't like the realization of that. Solution-- don't fall into that hate-motivated group. Didn't your therapist explain this to you?
Ofcourse i fit that catagory, i am a woman and you are a misogynist, how could i move the goal posts you've set?
Twice you have insulted me for being angry. (Minus 1 on the sanity scale).
You, obviously, are angry. So go get more help. I am obviously not interested in denying my anger or turning it inward, or directing it outward against the innocent-- only letting it loose on those who merit an angry response-- and in appropriate measure. Do likewise.
First off, im not angry, sorry if you feel insulted darling, its not intentional. Secondly, i would LOVE to know what ive done to "merit" an angry response and futhermore, why you feel ENTITLED to direct your anger at other people on this forum. I thought that was against ATS rules and regs?
or when you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Then your professional was sub-standard-- they forget to tell you the anger goes somewhere-- either inward or outward-- and so you, at the very least, troll the Internet getting it out.
Sweetheart, from what ive seen of your posts i wouldnt trust your opinion when it comes to how professional my therapist was. In his defence, he was anything but sub-standard. You do not know him, dont insult him. Simple really.
Frankly, I do not believe there is a therapist on the planet who told you that you could just ignore all that anger-- put it away-- or let you believe that you have done so.
No therapist would be stupid enough to suggest that, thats probably why you dont believe it. Its not the therapist that "cures" you, they help you come to terms with where you've come from, where you are and where your going. Anger doesnt just disappear, its abit like grief, at the start its intense, and gradully the breaks between you feeling it and not feeling it get bigger and bigger, but it will always be there.
But, you are sitting there, and typing out your anger-- obviously. That means you are in denial. Minus 2 on the sanity check. Blame your Mom-- not me. Minus 3.
You've got this impression that im smashing up my keyboard while replying and i cant understand why lol im typing very calmly, taking my time, i dont need to get angry, i know what kinda person im dealing with. I think you want me to come down to your level so you can justify your tone, well, it aint happening kid
and you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
You are the one that started mouthing off at me-- and you knew nothing of me.
Mouthing off at you? i merely stated that the tone in your post disturbed ME.
and writing,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Originally posted by Frira
Wasn't it against ATS regs, when you wrote:or when you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Hmm? That was not anger?
You think you can reconcile that?
That is what you have done to "merit" an angry response.
That was a long way to go for you to admit I was right.
That is, that your therapist did not claim what you implied; and that your own advice to me is something you pulled out of the air-- and would not follow yourself.
Nope. Not imagining you in such a way. I am imagining you writing:
and you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Oh wait, I wasn't imagining that all-- your really wrote that-- and that is anger.
You seem awful forgetful-- or unwilling to take responsibility for your anger.
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
You don't like it that you found someone angrier than you AND you made the mistake of making it personal. So sit there and take it-- you earned it.
Live with it. Deal with the anger I can evoke in you. Relish it, make it your own. Stare at yourself in the mirror and contemplate its depths and your inability to stop it from eating at you.
You should not have volunteered me to receive your anger if you were not prepared for a fitting response. What planet do you think you live on?
Its not a competition you know, if you wanna live your life being angry then hey, its yours to waste just dont take it out on me, simple. I stopped the anger, guess im stronger then you, why not try using "The force"
That was "so fast it will make your teeth rattle." Get your idiom straight-- and quote me as I write or not all. You are dishonest.
Your still trying to threaten me into not questioning your story, how... um.. manly? of you?
Strike first and then play the victim? How... un-manly of you.
Victim? HAHAHAHA!!!! Sir, the only victim here is you.
But where does my anger go if I do not respond? It was appropriate-- a healthy response-- but you internalized my reply as if I had addressed you. Minus 5.
Hey, where your anger goes isnt my problem, but this is one place where it shouldn't. People come here to discuss topics, not to cuss each other out. Everyone should keep it civil and these little fits of rage people seem to have shouldn't go unchecked. Its not a school playground, its the classroom.
Your tone is disturbing to say the least. Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
But reporting a post I don't like, is to expect others to get dirty to protect me. Men rarely do that.
You speak for all men
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
Wasn't it against ATS regs, when you wrote:or when you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Hmm? That was not anger?
You think you can reconcile that?
It wasnt written in anger, actually in concern. It might suprise you to learn that were not all angry people, unlike some.
That is what you have done to "merit" an angry response.
That's a piss poor excuse to say the least.
That was a long way to go for you to admit I was right.
That is, that your therapist did not claim what you implied; and that your own advice to me is something you pulled out of the air-- and would not follow yourself.
I didnt admit you were "right"
your wrong AND delusional, seriously, seek out a shrink
Nope. Not imagining you in such a way. I am imagining you writing:
and you wrote,
Perhaps you should see a shrink.
you seem to have tarred everyone with the same brush in a hateful rage, cant help but feel you maybe psychopathic at times.
Oh wait, I wasn't imagining that all-- your really wrote that-- and that is anger.
You have chosen to see those response's as angry, fine. They weren't, but whats the point in explaining it? You're ignorant
You seem awful forgetful-- or unwilling to take responsibility for your anger.
Im not angry so theres nothing to take responsibility for lol
This is where i leave our little "discussion"
Im sorry your such an angry person and feel the need to bring that onto a public forum. Im even more sorry that you need other people - even complete strangers - to VALIDATE your pain.
Best if luck darling and have a happy new year xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Originally posted by SearchLightsInc
Originally posted by Frira
Mind you, you are the one who made it personal and twice questioned my sanity. So report all you want for my keeping score.
Do you want a flipping medal or something?????
You've had a tough run in life, Boo-hoo!
People get up and they get over stuff, you seem to want to revel and whine about it.