Having enjoyed the thread on life being worthless (which has indirectly made me want to do more with my life, so thanks for that), I wanted to start
my own new thread on merit.
I would like to highlight something first: I know we are born, we live, we die. Everything is worthless in the sense of material objects but hey, we
need to enjoy our existance to some degree. If you don't want to, it might be worth your while removing yourself because you're clogging up our
space! Thank you kindly.
The other day, I was walking out of a shop with a nice 42inch Plasma LG television. A very satisfying purchase. I didn't necessarily spend a long
time saving for it (well, I didn't at all) but it was my first somewhat 'large' purchase apart from a vehicle, computer/laptop etc. At least it was
the largest thing I have ever walked out of a shop with.
And then this happened...
I saw a homeless man. Whilst I was struggling to lift the 26KG box into my rear seating area, this homeless chap was politely asking a lady for some
money. She shrugged him off, quite rudely I thought, and rather than walk on to the next person, he walked away with his head down, after glancing in
my direction, then, without looking at me, opened his palms to the air as if to say "why do I bother?" to himself.
It hit me like a ton of bricks.
There was me with this huge TV and this man walking away, palms to the wind, this emptiness a representation of what he had in life. I finally
managed to shove the TV onto the back seats and immediately felt around in my pockets; I only had my bank card (not credit card, I only buy what I can
afford, as 'should' everyone). I went into the car and found the lose change between the seats; about (in various currencies for better
understanding) £5/$7/6.5Euros. I went to the man and tapped his shoulder and gave him the money with the words "I'm sorry about the lady's attitude.
Somebody cares about you". He tapped my shoulder and smiled and said "I can now have a christmas - thank you sir". The lady, parked 2 spaces away,
caught my eye (clearly quite well-off considering vehicle) and I said to her, because she saw what I had done, "The richest people have the biggest
heart. Merry christmas".
So I get into my car and off I go, hoping she got my sentence.
It then occured to me, and this is the purpose of my thread: Did I do the right thing? Should I have felt guilty? Was the lady correct to give
nothing? It's her choice, in the end. People get what they deserve, right?
Please try to follow this train of thought:
Everyone is born with certain choices. Those choices are different for a lot of people but, in general, I feel, everyone has at least the same
choices for their lives in terms of education and kindness.
They may be born into money, or with incredibly intelligent parents. They might have nothing and be born in the ghetto. Perhaps even into royalty
(the unlucky kids - what a ghastly existence). So, some choices will be which perfect private school shall I go to? Which colour should I choose for
the interior of my Bentley? Should I have a garage for 6 cars or only 4?
Others must choose 1 loaf of bread of 2 for the week. If they should work 18 hours a day or only 12 so they can spend at least a little time with
their kids. Should they take the bus every other week or drive all the time? Which costs more, the bus ticket or petrol?
But, despite these situations, both have the 'choice' of personal change. Prince William from the UK has the choices of the first examples (garage,
Bentley) but he must also choose in the same way as Mr Homeless in the car park. That is what brings humans together behind all the BS that is
material wealth. A man falls over and yelps in pain. Do I, as the Prince, help this person or do I walk on? Or do I, as a homeless man, sit here
and watch from my box or help?
There is a free library down the road. Do I ask my servent to bring me some books on such and such a topic to study, or do I choose to go to
expensive lunches with friends and look at new cars? I'm homeless, do I choose to use the little money I have obtained from kind people, after
purchasing some food, to go into the library and find an interesting subject? Or do I sit here and whither away under the weather?
We all have choices and I strongly feel (I see) that 'everyone', and I mean 'everyone', gets what they deserve. I don't expect you to say "But many
people have what they do NOT deserve". Yes, that's right. I agree and I know. Those people born into money or, for example, that absolute sl** of a
worthless c*w, Miss Ecclestone who explained, publicly to the paper, that her life was so difficult, that she had endless hours of which shoes to wear
from her wardrobe of half a million pounds worth of designer shoes. She honestly said that. Please search Google for Bernie Ecclestone's daughter.
An example of an utter nobody.
So, in conclusion, I think that I did the wrong thing. This man has 'chosen' to live like this. Perhaps he had a bad beginning, bad, hopeless
parents (as is too often the case). Perhaps he was a troublemaker at school and was kicked out and his family disowned him. He has choices,
opportunities and everything connected to those, waiting for him. They are begging for him to use his unknown talent of creating great melodies on
the piano, of drawing interesting paintings with a new style of mixing water colours with pastel (for example). Some people are dying in hospital
because this man has not realised his potential of being a great medical professional.
He has the chance. He chooses to stand outside the shop and beg. He chooses to close his mind and not try. Everybody can try, no matter their
Without revealing my identity, my family is not super rich. They're doing ok but they couldn't just lend me even £5,000 without a big dent. But
they get by well and are happy and live to their means. I had a normal schooling, I was an average student but I have got what I deserve: money,
skills, talents in lots of differing areas. I'm relatively young (not quite yet 30) but I don't need to work a full-time job and can pretty much stay
at home. My work is online or out and about (interpreting), I had a bout in aviation (pilot). How? Why?
Because I chose to not stand outside a shop and beg. I chose to study books, watch professionals and be inspired (as I am to this day), to listen to
my elders who made mistakes so I don't make them myself, to try different things (through creating opportunities, meetings) and seeing what happens
from them. For example, I spent 5 years in Paris. I wanted to perform a little card magic so I simply sent some emails to Parisian magicians and met
a few in some cafés. This led to some nice little encounters, some new language experiences and some spin-off situations and contacts. Just because
I sent an email to some magicians. I got what I deserved. If I didn't send the emails, I wouldn't be where I am now (to a certain extent). The same
goes for my aviation connections and various other things in life.
You get what you deserve. The world deserves to be in the state it is in because not enough people fight for change. You get fed Lady Gaga, Rhianna
and The Kardashians because you give them TV ratings.
To the homeless man: I want my fiver back. Go and do something with your life.
edit on 27-12-2011 by DB340 because: (no reason given)