posted on Dec, 22 2011 @ 11:54 PM
How disgustingly horrible.
What is wrong with 'gown ups' that they cannot find the child in themselves?
Anyone that works with children should be required by law to still have a strong connection to their own child within. Only when we remember the child
within us, can we interact with a child on his level, with compassion, love and care that is required.
Our approach to children with difficutly is just totally wrong. It is like some adults just don't get it. What I mean is this:
I recently helped out at a nursery school. One little boy was particularly difficult. At one point he totally refused to come and put the 'arms' on
his snowman and started screaming and then climbed underneath the little table where he is supposed to sit, crying. The 2 other teachers was just
standing there screaming at him to get out under neath the table and come and put on his snowman's arms. I looked at them, thinking: 'do you really
think that is going to work???'
I then got down onto my hands and knees and climbed under the table as best I could. (A very small little table, these kids are only 3 and 4) I
started talking to him by saying how nice it is under the table and that it feels like a little house. He stopped crying immediately. We had a lovely
little chat under that table/house (home/house reminds the child of safety) and I then, after a little while, (pretended) remembered that there was a
little soft toy elephant that is still lying in the corner, all alone. (Taking his mind totally off the snowman and even being under the table. Also
putting something available to him to associate with that is soft and cuddely.) We climbed out and went to pick up the elephant; he is now giving love
to the elephant, (almost like consoling himself.)
His snowman did not get arms. I suspect there is something there that scared him. So what if his snowman does not have arms???? That is totally
I wonder how that person would feel if we put her in a duffle bag???? Even the internet cannot teach adults how to have that special understanding of
working with children. You either have it or you don't.
I wish there was some test that could be given to adults who think they will do well as teachers. Some test that looks into the heart of the adult to
see if they have it or not.