reply to post by vogon42
I cannot say I relate. My childhood was filled with a loving church family that watched out for what I was saying and doing. They taught me to value
others and seek to fill the needs that were missing in the lives of the lost. While my friend across the street stayed home on Sunday, I was at
church worshiping God and learning truth. My friend across the street was home watching TV while his alcoholic mother slept in her own urine. When I
would go across the street on any given afternoon, I would be witness to the abuse coming from his family in the form of neglect and ungodly behavior.
The comparison I drew between my family and his allowed me to see the value in seeking goodness and self-control from faith in a loving creator.
Across the street, I could often hear his mother arguing with the drunk next door. I swore to myself I would never live like that and allow my
children to be abused by self-centered behavior. Despite the opportunities, I kept myself away from that lifestyle as I became an adult. His mother
would not allow him to come to church with us, despite our offers.
Years later, I can look back and compare my life with many of my unchurched friends. The friend across the street became an alcoholic and created his
own broken family to abuse. Another friend down the street got a girl he hardly knew pregnant and lived out a copy of his father's greedy life of
crime. Another friend went to the same college as me and became a homosexual. He was abused by his cousin. Years later and he is a broken man and
alone, alienated from his family. Not because they rejected his lifestyle, but because he burned his own bridges by a self-centered nature. There
are many other examples.
I have taught school for 20 years. I see the same examples played out daily. I have the unusual opportunity to see my students in class from
6th-12th grades. The students who succeed most in life come from loving and caring Christian families. The students who are selfish and unruly are
typically from families who have never gone to church. In these homes, the basic needs of love and belonging are not met. Instead, the parents are
busy partying and ignoring their children. They raise children who repeat the same lives of moral poverty, only to raise a repeat generation of the
same tragic mistakes of self-gratification and destructive choices.
We take our sons to church each Wednesday and Sunday. We continually seek to guide our kids in the Christian faith by example and love. We serve in
the community and volunteer our time to good causes. As compared to those in our community who do not attend church, our kids thrive and are happy.
They make good choices and are the top of their class. Are there exceptions in our community, where unchurched families thrive? Yes. Mostly because
generations before had been faithful to religious practice. The generations that followed, regardless of church or belief, benefited from the love
that follows one generation to the next. We are products of our past. Christianity offers a model of love and discipleship that is unmatched in the
Are there exceptions in Christian homes, where we see poor upbringing? Yes. Any home that lacks love and humble examples of dedication to others
will see failure in leadership as the primary cause of any problem. Neglect is not simply a problem for those who do not attend church. In the end,
it comes down to the choice we are willing to make by example as parents. A true Christian home or place of worship will model loving-kindness and a
spirit of compassion to others. If not, true faith is not practiced.
The question comes down to this: Which house do we see good choices modeled the clearest? In the house of worldly pursuits or in the house of God?
The answer is either. If you choose a proper church to attend, you will see the fruits of that choice blossom. If you choose to provide a home where
proper choices are modeled, you will also see the fruits of these choices create good opportunities. Combine these together and the cycle of poverty
Abuse only happens at the hands of those who choose to look away from their responsibilities to a higher good.