Our Future Generation is In Danger, Have You Contributed To This??

Frankly I could have placed this in almost any disastrous forum, and I think that it would have been sufficient. There is a lack of the basics that people today refuse to understand, and use ignorance, and laziness as an excuse to not be better informed.

The information that I have decided to bring forth is the reason for almost all problems in the world, especially those societies and nations that consider themselves "better off".

There may be some things in this thread that may upset you, are make you uncomfortable, but that is the point. There is something about closing our eyes to the facts that seem to keep us from preventing things that are right in front of our faces.

Yes, this will be lengthy, but also quite thorough, and I am happy to say a piece of what I have in my heart and I am fortunate enough to share with fellow ATSer's.

Our most valuable asset is our children. Something that even those that do not have any of their own, were children themselves. Our relationship as a child with a parent, loved one, guardian, does play a heavy role in our lives. But there are also those that have not be fortunate enough to have loving families, or have been abandoned, and have had to find love, companionship, and compassion any way that they can.

That will come further into my thread, but for now, I would like to talk about how those that are aware of how important a mother and child relationship is, and has went far and beyond to distort information, and even help to prevent that ever so important part of the beginning of a child's life.

There may be a different view on how we raise our children, and how many actually come into the world has changed many of the old ways that we cherished with our children. And yes, that is true.... but to what extent?

Of course due to amount of women having children, and the lack of mid-wives is why we have children in hospitals, and I could have been extensive in the importance of both, but I think that is a personal decision made by the parent/parents.

What I would like to bring up is the importance of breast milk to a child, especially those that are born prematurely, and how this is not stressed enough to mothers, and in the end the children suffer.

Our shelves, and doctors offices are filled with pamphlets, coupons, even free samples of artificial breast milk. Many women are not fully aware of the importance of the bond between mother and child when breast feeding is done, and the nutritional value of breast milk also.

Breastfeeding continues to offer health benefits into and after toddlerhood.[3] These benefits include; lowered risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS),[4] increased intelligence[citation needed], decreased likelihood of contracting middle ear infections, cold, and flu bugs, a tiny decrease in the risk of childhood leukemia, lower risk of childhood onset diabetes, decreased risk of asthma and eczema, decreased dental problems, decreased risk of obesity later in life, and decreased risk of developing psychological disorders.

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The above alone says so much, but in most areas, this is not told, or no one insures that this is fully understood, especially to younger or first time mothers. Not only are they less informed, there is no real talk with surrogates or adoptive parents, and some parents cannot be with their premature children for long periods of time, and find it easier to have the hospital provide artificial milk in case they are not around, and most breast pumps are painful, or not used properly.

Restricting Sales of ABM

Before the arrival of free market practices in the USSR, Czechoslovakia, the German Democratic Republic, and Hungary required a prescription for infant formula. Since 1977, Papua New Guinea requires "that baby feeding bottles, teats (nipples) and dummies (pacifiers) be sold at registered pharmacies and obtained only through medical prescription. Said prescription 'cannot be given unless the authorized health worker is satisfied that it would be in the best interest of the baby or infant.' The law was amended in 1984 to empower the Minister of Health to proscribe any feeding article considered hazardous to the health and well-being of infants (email communication, James Akre, Nutrition Unit, WHO, Geneva 12/12/95)." To encourage breastfeeding, China banned all artificial baby milk advertisements, giveaways, money and/or information to clinics and hospitals. The law effective October 1, 1995, also bans the distribution of free or discounted artificial baby milk to mothers (AP 7/4/95). In January 1996, the ministry of commerce in Saudi Arabia announced a blanket ban on all advertisement for breast milk substitutes.

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I would like to now be able to search and find common sense parenting links, but I dont think that they are necessary.

I could go back 50 years, 100 years, 1000 years and you will see a substantial difference between how we raise our children, and who's interest we have at heart. But for what? As we already know there are more parents out there that get their medical info from Dr.Oz, their marriage advice from Oprah, their psychiatric advice from Dr. Phil, their preschool learning from Nick,Jr, and their beauty secrets from E!

How could any of what I am presenting actually make a difference?? It probably wont! Will it stop me?? NO!!

Here are some facts that nowadays we choose to ignore because its not "politically correct". Men and women are strong.... in different ways. This was common knowledge. There was a time when this wasn't seen as chauvinistic, this was seen as 2 separate strengths that together form an unstoppable force.

Yes women stayed home and cooked, while men were at work, but men also helped their children with homework after work, read them bedtime stories, and loved their wives, and families dearly.



Women willingly took responsibility for their home, and took pride in their nutritional meals, and clean homes, and also loved their husbands and families.



Now we have video game addiction of males and fathers on the rise, including parents that allow their children to play more in order for the to get "more" done.



Video games being blamed for divorce as men 'prefer World of Warcraft to their wives'

The explosion of video games and their popularity bring along several pressing social problems. Increasingly, there is one more reason to be wary of video game addiction: wrecked marriages. A study conducted by Divorce Online reveals that of the women are filing for divorce on the grounds of “unreasonable behavior”, about 15percent believe that their partners place gaming before them. This represents an increase of 5 percent in the short span of a year.

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If we do not look at the beginning, in the end we would have wasted a chance for real change. Yes, I would like to change things that are happening now, but when I am no longer here, there is nothing left for me to do, except leave my children with the knowledge that they have the power to make future generations better, for themselves, and their offspring.

Is this not the way its supposed to be?? I ask YOU!
To Be Continued
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I think that those early years of childbirth cannot be substituted in anyway, it needs to be there in order for the baby to develop in a more healthy way - now that may or may not be true but one cannot deny that the bond a mother and her child has cannot be replaced.

I dont think this is the way we should be headed, instead of a view focused more on the individual, i think the individual (mother/father) should be focused more on the family. If that means getting off his ass and spending time with his family, then that should be the case

Continuation......

We have allowed people with (and some without) Phd's to "tell" us what our kids are going through, and how we should deal with them with kid gloves, all the while they are consumed with sex, and violence.

Here is an article from Time magazine about boys.

Observers of the boy crisis contend that families, schools and popular culture are failing our boys, leaving them restless bundles of anxiety--misfits in the classroom and video-game junkies at home. They suffer from an epidemic of "anomie," as Harvard psychologist William Pollack told me, adrift in a world of change without the help they need to find their way. Even in the youngest grades, test-oriented teachers focus energy on conventional exercises in reading, writing and other seatwork, areas in which girls tend to excel. At the same time, schools are cutting science labs, physical education and recess, where the experiential learning styles of boys come into play. No wonder, the theory goes, our boys get jittery, grow disruptive and eventually tune out. "A boy will get a reputation as hell on wheels that follows him from one teacher to the next, and soon they're coming down on him even before he screws up. So he learns to hate school," says Mike Miller, an elementary school teacher in North Carolina. Miller's principal has ordered every faculty member to read a book this summer titled Hear Our Cry: Boys in Crisis.

In short, society treats "boyhood as toxic, as a pathology," says Sommers--who may have been guilty of this herself when she wrote several years ago that the Columbine killers were emblematic of turn-of-the-century boyhood. But she's right that it's not girls who are shooting up their classrooms--and boys are at least five times as likely as girls to die by suicide.

There are statistics to back up every point in that sad litany, but I also found people eager to flay nearly every statistic. For instance: Is it bad that more boys are in special education, or should we be pleased that they are getting extra help from specially trained teachers? And haven't boys always tended to be more restless than girls under the discipline of high school and more likely to wind up in jail? A growing congregation of writers have begun to argue that the trouble with boys is mostly a myth. Sara Mead is one; she was until recently a senior policy analyst at Education Sector, a Washington think tank largely funded by the Gates Foundation. Intrigued by the wave of books and articles about failing boys, Mead crunched some numbers, focusing narrowly on the question of school performance. The former Clinton Administration official concluded that "with a few exceptions, American boys are scoring higher and achieving more than they ever have before."

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Now boys have been pegged as trouble makers, and there are articles where it blatantly says that girls are superior in many aspects. Which can automatically play on a boys emotions especially if mom is saying it at the dinner table when sis says something correct, and he disagrees.

This also plays on whether or not dad says anything, disagrees and with his son and stands by mom and sis, or if he is off playing video games while all of this is playing out.

It is very hard to find articles or places where boys can see positive things about themselves, unless they are shooting an alien or trying to be popular.

As far as girls there are thousands of outlets, and ways for them to communicate their feeling. The thing is that they think that they have to emulate older women, and still have the mind of an adolescent.

They have teen magazines that are consumed with adult content, and discussions and parents especially mothers seem to look away.

But what are they talking about? Here is a few quotes from magazines that are made for the 13 and under crowd.

I watch porn and I love it

I've talked to and have had phone sex with older guys

I masturbate and regret it because my mom frowns upon it :/ she makes me feel like I'm a mistake

I've cut myself before

So I ask, is it better that girls have a way to vent these things, and that boys have no way to discuss this without being called a disrespectful name or shunned by more "macho" boys, or do you see this as the problem that we are losing our children everyday, and are starting a cycle that cannot be undone??

Peace, NRE.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver
It's an important topic, NoRegrets, that needs to be heard. Good on you for that, and I'll chime in with my own thoughts & link if ya don't mind...

If at all possible, it is in the infant's best interest to be breast fed for AT LEAST two weeks. This is vital to the child's health and well-being for the rest of it's life because of the unique make-up of that initial 'mother's milk' which is called colostrum...

Colostrum (also known colloquially as beestings,[1] bisnings[2] or first milk) is a form of milk produced by the mammary glands of mammals in late pregnancy. Most species will generate colostrum just prior to giving birth. Colostrum contains antibodies to protect the newborn against disease, as well as being lower in fat[3] and higher in protein than ordinary milk.

Newborns have very small digestive systems, and colostrum delivers its nutrients in a very concentrated low-volume form. It has a mild laxative effect, encouraging the passing of the baby's first stool, which is called meconium. This clears excess bilirubin, a waste product of dead red blood cells, which is produced in large quantities at birth due to blood volume reduction, from the infant's body and helps prevent jaundice.

Colostrum is known to contain antibodies called immunoglobulins such as IgA, IgG, and IgM in mammals. IgA is absorbed through the intestinal epithelium, travels through the blood, and is secreted onto other Type 1 mucosal surfaces. These are the major components of the adaptive immune system.

Other immune components of colostrum include the major components of the innate immune system, such as lactoferrin,[4] lysozyme,[5] lactoperoxidase,[6] complement,[7] and proline-rich polypeptides (PRP).[8] A number of cytokines (small messenger peptides that control the functioning of the immune system) are found in colostrum as well,[9] including interleukins,[9] tumor necrosis factor,[10] chemokines,[11] and others.

Colostrum also contains a number of growth factors, such as insulin-like growth factors I,[12] and II,[13] transforming growth factors alpha,[14] beta 1 and beta 2,[15][16] fibroblast growth factors,[17] epidermal growth factor,[18] granulocyte-macrophage-stimulating growth factor,[19] platelet-derived growth factor,[19] vascular endothelial growth factor,[20] and colony-stimulating factor-1.[21]

Colostrum is very rich in proteins, vitamin A, and sodium chloride, but contains lower amounts of carbohydrates, lipids, and potassium than normal milk. The most pertinent bioactive components in colostrum are growth factors and antimicrobial factors. The antibodies in colostrum provide passive immunity, while growth factors stimulate the development of the gut. They are passed to the neonate and provide the first protection against pathogens.

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Note: In my initial paragraph, I said 2 weeks for colostrum. Wikipedia implies 1 week. Dunno. The pediatrician said 2 weeks, so I went with it. Then I got hooked, LoL. My two kids have been exceedingly healthy. Never had ear-aches, rarely strep, flu, etc. Don't mean to sound 'holier than thou' to anyone who chooses to bottle-feed from day one. Love and care come in many majestic methods!

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


Hi NRE:

Very thought provoking thread as usual! So many questions and to few answers..our world is moving so fast that parents have little time to figure out what they want or need, much less their children.

50 years ago life was simpler and in America most families lived life according to a formula, the father worked the mother attended to the family, people went to church on Sunday and most were law abiding citizens.

Then we had womens lib so Women entered the work place, and in the early 80's if a woman didn't have a job she was thought of as a dead beat, or doing a less important job by taking care of her family. This was in my opinion only, the beginning of the end of the American family..and as time progressed women HAD to work to help pay bills.

But this all stemmed from peoples wants..I want a newer car I need 20 credit cards so I can shop for another pair of shoes or 300$ jeans..consumerism over took our society.

But we have a catch 22 here..women want to be equal, we deserve a higher education and equal pay, yet our children suffer for this when we go to work..they are raised by strangers..in day care. Forced to get up at 5 in the morning and not getting home from day care until 7 or later. Nutrition is lacking, sleep deprivation and a lack of a real home life..the rise of ADD and ADHD and other disorders is on the rise in our children.

I have thought so much about this problem, I can't speak for anyone else but I wonder...what if we stopped living beyond our means? What if we turned off the TV for a few hours at dinner time and played games or read books instead? Or did homework with our children.

I know I am guilty of having been a working mom..if I knew then what I know now...I would not have got a job..I cheated my children by leaving them. I have had to make up for that..I can't go back..but for myself, a simpler life with less "stuff" and more substance is the mantra now.

They are grown now all 3 of my kids, they all went to college they are all successful citizens..but I helped raise 4 grandchildren they did not go to day care..they had home cooked meals and a nana that was "home" for them. We need to instill a sense of "home" for our children..live with less and realize that "children are only children for a very short time" a very limited window of opportunity to give your children all of the best of you. Thanks for your post SnF Cheers Coco

reply to post by itscocobaby


We as parents are forced to feel as if our children are not living in the lap of luxury, cannot buy the hottest toys, or the most expensive clothes then we are not worthy to raise them.

You should never feel guilty about having to provide for your children, and I know that I was like that too, except I was young and dumb, and thought that hanging out should also be a part of "my time".

Maybe those of us that learned even by working and not always having time for our kids, can just instill in them a bit of... when you have kids be sure to spend more time, because Mommy/Daddy or both have to work right now, but we desperately would like to spend more time with you.

Though I am in my mid-thirties, I didn't/wasn't told many of the things that I have presented now, and even though (I am going to be honest), I might not have done all of them, I would have thought about my choices a bit more.

Now that I am an adult and my children face many of the things that I have faced I can tell them honestly and faithfully that one of the most important things that you can ever be is a parent, and even if you cannot have children, or your lifestyle or job choices prevent it, there are always young people out there that are in need of guidance, and you can always make a difference in a persons life.

It scares me that there are not just a few people making these things happen, but corporations with shiny toys, and televisions with colorful cartoons, magazines and commercials that are calling me out as a parent, and making children ask not about the love from their families but the monetary value in the things that they have.

There is no way that we can fight the big fight with them, but we can slowly make sure that our children do not become the consumers of lies, and manipulation that they are trying so hard to make sure of.

Peace, NRE.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver

Though I am in my mid-thirties, I didn't/wasn't told many of the things that I have presented now, and even though (I am going to be honest), I might not have done all of them, I would have thought about my choices a bit more.

The key words here being ", I would have thought about my choices" this is so important..about every aspect of our daily lives. Sometimes for a variety of reasons people don't realize they have "Choices" and those choices can take us down any number of paths..and many times take our loved ones down the path with us.

How wise you are for knowing you have choices, this is an important thread for any young parents or those thinking of starting a family..THINK THINK THINK about your choices today..making a bad choice or a selfish choice will come back and haunt you later..anyone who wants to be a parent..should be willing to see their child as the most important job they will ever have..I am saying what I am saying from experience..I don't mean to preach I hope I am not coming across that way..but you have presented us all with a very important topic..one that deserves to be thought through..Cheers my friend Coco

reply to post by itscocobaby


Thanks Coco.

Your not being preachy at all, as a matter of fact it would normally be those who had experience who would share with those that didn't, or would compare notes to make their lives easier.

Its a sense of community, even though most of us are strangers, this goes way beyond the realm of conspiracy, as it is also about learning and trying to make a difference in everyone's (or even one) persons life.

Peace, NRE.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


Well said my friend..I always enjoy your threads..Thanks for another great topic.
Cheers Coco

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Head of vaccines at Merck, Dr. Maurice Hillerman, Admits Cancer and Other Viruses Found In Vaccines

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cancer autism cell towers WiFi off gasing chemicals, pedophile authorities, riddlin,...TV
DR Spock...fukushima chemtrails junk food aspertame...you get the picture

They claimed an entire generation of American youth had been raised and ruined.

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THE PLANNED DESTRUCTION OF THE FAMILY

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of course if they get to adulthood then the army can have them as successfull cannon fodder

Thought I would give this an afternoon bump, as I feel it is an important thread.

Peace, NRE.

reply to post by NoRegretsEver


This is an important thread and it really caused me to ponder a few things, Children are the one thing we must not neglect, yet the stress of survival for many is increasing..how can families fight back?

How can we protect our children from the implosion of society that is happening now?

What steps can we take to make our families feel safe and secure? What are the most important questions to ask ourselves and the community at large to bring attention to the problems brought about by the deconstruction of the family?

Just a few of the thoughts that came to my mind..

I'm a little sad this thread didn't get more attention../bump Cheers Coco