reply to post by MaMaa
I am happy for you and your family that things turned out well.
Yes I tried to teach my sons by example too but My husband and two of our sons have Asperger's syndrome and the oldest (which does tell me he loves
us) has ADHD.................he was the impulsive child from hell still and is still a challenge at times.
Not everyone is the same or "normal". And people with even a high degree of autism find it hard to touch, be touched or to even say "I love
you"...........it's too much emotion for some to handle.
I was a kissy, huggy, talkative mother - very affectionate towards my three sons.
Two of the three did not like to be touched, kissed, hugged or talked to much.
Again, I am glad for you that things turned out so well, sometimes it takes a life crisis to make us realize how quickly a love one could be taken
We were and still are good parents.....................but if your children are not neurologically impaired, you still do not have any idea as to how
some things are beyond certain people.
If you have children that have no neurological impairments you are indeed lucky.
They are all good men, if you were drowning, any three of my sons or husband would be the first to jump in and save you but two of our three sons as
well as my husband do not say very much, they are not able to tolerate emotions well, it upsets them, including hearing and saying, "I love you".
There is a old Indian proverb: “Don't judge any man until you have walked two moons in his moccasins”
My sons are not "marriage material" somewhere along the line my DNA, a chromosome, the chemical that the brain secretes for a neural synapse to occur,
something is missing.
Scientists now say that autism is on the rise. It use to be blamed on bad parenting. Now medical experts are beginning to realize there is a
correlation between the mercury in our vaccines and possibly of the poisoning of our environment.
I don't mean to offend you but felt I needed to explain.
So often people judge others and think their situation turned out well because of their rightful actions, and yes we often reap what we sow but
sometimes, if the soil is bad, no amount of sowing will help.
We each have our challenges and these challenges vary from person to person.
I'm not saying you are judging me, but I did the best I could do.
When I take my final breath this time around, I can honestly say I was a good wife and mother and did the best with what I had to work with.
We judge people now days by giving them labels. My guys are simply shy, very quiet, nice, but emotions of any kind upset them.............even saying
or having said to them "I love you".
And I know for most people out there that are "normal" (whatever that is) this concept is beyond them.
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