Originally posted by FissionSurplus
reply to post by timidgal
One thing about me, if I feel I have been wronged, I am a force to be reckoned with, so I went over her head straight to the top and threatened legal action, along with an ugly expose about their violations of federal law for falsifying state records in order to keep their contract with the state of Texas, which I had been asked to participate in and I violently refused. I got a "revised" personnel record signed by the CEO. My boss quit soon thereafter. Let it never be said that Aspies can't make waves when they desire change.
Having spent many years being an employee advocate myself, I can say with certainty that what you did was no easy feat and I applaud your tenacity and success in fighting for what was right.
As far your son being stubborn and not wanting to be labeled and in a program, he is reacting from a place of fear, a place where no logic can go. I knew of one family who, in desperation, sent their grown Aspie son to the movies, and when he came back, they had moved out! I guess the first hurdle is, getting your son to accept his diagnosis, and for him to accept that it is not shameful to accept help from others. If he accepts it from you, he can accept it from a program.
I'm somewhat ashamed to say that things have gotten so volatile at home, we've considered similar action (not moving out, but telling the state that we just can't have him live with us anymore). We just can't bring ourselves to do this - we love him so much - but we are all so utterly miserable, my son included, but we seem to be at a stalemate. He wants us to just set him up in an apartment and let him live his own life (with no means of support other than the small SSI stipend he receives which is barely enough to survive on, but he's completely unrealistic about this). Is it wrong for us to want a better life for him? Is it wrong to try to convince him that he should want that for himself, even if he sees it as being forced to do something he doesn't want to do?
I will look at the websites you listed and try what you have recommended. If it doesn't work, I might need some additional advice (if that's okay with you).
I can't thank you enough for your kind and consider response.
