Originally posted by MidnightSunshine
reply to post by daryllyn
I hope replying to this old thread isn't a bad idea, but I have to ask.
What do you think? Now, a year and a half down the road?
I already know the answer because I've been, and am, in the same situation with my god awful relationship for nearly 20 years now.
BUT, I have a feeling the answer is, yes, SOME people can change
edit on 18-6-2013 by MidnightSunshine because: (no reason given)
I would be happy to give an update
Ten days after I wrote this thread, he was in a terrible truck accident. He was driving the work truck with his partner and they were stopped, waiting
to turn left on a busy highway, and they were hit by a 22 ft long refrigerated box truck travelling at 60mph from behind.
His partner, a much older man, was thrown from the truck and broke EVERY vertebrae in his back and neck. They didn't think he was going to make it,
but, he had a major surgery, was later released from the ICU, and spent nearly a year in a nursing home, where he finally learned to walk again. He
will never work again.
My other half's injuries were not quite as bad, as he wasn't thrown from the truck. But, he broke his entire thoracic spine, lost half the height on
T7, several broken ribs (broken where they meet the spine), and punctured both of his lungs. He also sustained some pretty serious head trauma. He
spent 4 days in the hospital and 12 weeks in a 'turtle shell' brace. He also did 24 weeks of physical therapy, some time in speech therapy, he is
counselling now for PTSD due to the wreck, and is hopefully going to be released from worker's comp soon.
I got the call that morning, and rushed to the hospital. I sat by his side and knew that leaving was out of the question. He needed me. What kind of
person would I be if I left now
So, I stayed. I cared for him, the kids, the house, AND went to school. When I say cared for him, I mean showering him, putting his brace off and on
as needed, bringing him food and drinks, helping him in the bathroom, doctor's appointments.... everything
It was not an easy thing to do. It was probably one of the hardest things I have ever done.
Three months or so after the accident, I was diagnosed with a horrible, autoimmune form of arthritis. They said it had always been there lurking, but
the stress of the situation brought it to the surface.
And one day..... things were just different. I looked at him in a different light. We laughed again, we held hands again, and he treated me
differently. We were 'us' again. I don't know the exact moment it happened, it just did one day.
Those two events and the aftermath of each of them, bonded us together in a way that is hard to explain. I can't quite put it into words, or describe
it accurately. Don't get me wrong, we are far from perfect, its not always rainbows and butterflies, but, things between us are much better than
So, there is my update, I apologize for the length.