posted on Dec, 2 2011 @ 11:25 AM
Unless he's violent toward you or the kids, you have an obligation to *try* to make it work for the kids sake. Plus it's the holidays, don't compound
this stressful time of year with a family breakup. You waited 3 years since it got bad, you can wait a few more weeks, but at least try to make it
work for the kids.
A couple of questions.
1. Is he a good dad? Is he present?
2. Does he provide financially for the family?
3. What is bad about him, words or action or both?
4. In a perfect world, where do you envision yourself?
Edit, I see you answered question 3.
Psychological abuse? I would say yes. Constant guilt tripping. Bad mouthing. Rubbing things in my face. Expecting me to do everything, all the time,
no matter what---even if I am sick or had surgery. Threatening to cheat (even if those threats were empty). Undermining me in front of my children.
He can get help for those things. He's a jerk for sure. But he's not the worst out there - it's important for you to find self worth outside of this
relationship, like at a job or volunteering somewhere.
Try to get him to do things with the kids, take over duties with them. The goal is to ingrain him in the family, so that if his behavior does not
change, and you threaten to leave, he may actually change his ways to save his family.
He needs therapy too - I wouldn't undermine him by going through his work or anything like that because he could get violent at that breach of trust,
but he's got issues and you're his punching bag. That has got to stop, but ideally your family stays together
edit on 2-12-2011 by Jason88
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