posted on Dec, 2 2011 @ 09:06 AM
reply to post by MamaJ
Im wondering....are you a stay at home mom and how old are your kids?
I am a stay at home mom and a part time student. My boys are 4 and 2.
It can become very overwhelming at times and when we are doing everything all the time and the man has a "job" we may become envious of him as he gets
to "leave" every day and have adult conversations and do adult stuff all the while we are working like a dog without a moments peace.
I would have to agree with this statement.
Also, if you are not spending time alone with your partner there is an other issue and it just becomes a snowball effect trickling down to you feeling
alone and him not having a clue especially if you are not even trying to communicate with each other.
I have tried to talk to him about all of this in the past but he flat out refuses to talk and has for the last year. He is 'tired of talking' so
honestly, I gave up trying. What else was I supposed to do? It was like beating my face into a brick wall while he would turn the tv up and tell me to
stfu. Seriously. Not even kidding.
My problem is: I have tried to talk to him, he refused. Over and over again. He has been a jerk (not saying I am perfect, but I do do everything for
him. He comes home from work and literally doesn't do a thing. Ever.) to me for 3 years. He cared so little about my feelings during that time that he
refused to even discuss it but NOW that he thinks I am possibly leaving he suddenly cares. What about all of that time that he didn't? I am struggling
I am having a hard time believing that you can treat someone that way if you honestly really love them.
Obviously I can't post every detail of the relationship here.
But.... okay... example: He had knee surgery. I waited on him hand and foot for a month. I cooked him anything he wanted. Helped him to the
I had surgery and wasn't allowed to take a nap, still had to cook supper, still had to take care of the kids. Who got to take a nap? He did. Why
couldn't he have just done the right thing just one time?
It is stuff like that all the time. That's what I am sick of. Things like that are what make me think that he doesn't really care about me, but cares
more for what I can do for him.
So is it selfish for me to think of leaving? Maybe it is... Maybe I am the one in the wrong and I just can't see it.
edit on 2-12-2011 by daryllyn because: (no reason given)