reply to post by daryllyn
Let me be brutally honest here. I won't sugar coat anything, nor will I be all "nicey-nice" with you. I will give it to you straight. You don't know
me, I don't know you, I have no reservations.
You feel guilty because you are wrong. That's what the guilt feeling is for. It's to let you know you're wrong and you need to change your
Relationships are a two way street, you wanted him to change and failed to communicate that. When you do communicate it, you decide it's already too
late. Heck you decided it was too late well before saying it. You just couldn't find the courage to say it to his face until recently.
You have given up and thats going to affect your children. You walking away from him because you both failed to communicate needs and wants
effectively and provide for each other the love and care a relationship requires.
You can blame him or yourself all you want, your both to blame for getting involved and doing so dysfunctionally. Your social expectations of him have
raised the bar higher then he can reach. He feels lost and has no clue. You feel he should of known. However, nothing is communicated and you
personally are just walking away.
No one tries any more. Most people ready to leave a relationship just can't wait to get dating with their friends again and partying, getting laid by
random strangers or finally finding that one guy they always looked for but never found and decided to just settle.
I suggest you learn about having a proper relationship before you go find another man to replace your last one, I suggest you try communicating better
as well because you will never get what you want if you never express a need for it.
Most women expect men to be freakin psychic, often I hear "you should of known"....well guess what...we don't....we don't read your romantic novels or
talk with your girlfriends about romantic actions, we talk baseball and football and how to gross out our buddy for grossing us out last time we drank
We are a different breed men vs women, respecting that and not having expectations except those obvious and accepted leaves you finding a good long
If I were God though, I'd say try working this out for your kids and do it right and see if it works then. Why give up? Your kids will suffer more
then you can realize. Don't be selfish. Too many people already are. Too many people have the attitude "if your not happy then leave" but in my
opinion your just running away from a problem.
BTW I am happily married, 2 kids and 2 step-kids, we communicate everything and anything. We like to laugh and joke and we are best friends. Best
friends tell each other everything and understand each others needs and wants and will do anything to make sure the other gets what they want/need. We
work hard everyday ensuring we can succeed.
edit on 2-12-2011 by EspyderMan because: (no reason given)