posted on Dec, 1 2011 @ 11:06 PM
[color=dodgerblue]I am just wondering...
Are you ever obligated to give someone a second chance?
Do you personally believe that people can make a lasting change for the long term?
Those are the main questions.
Background: We have been together for five years. We have two kids. The relationship started out okay (we were on our best behavior in those days
though) but has been super disfunctional and rocky for the last three years.
I recently let him know that I am not happy at all. He seemed completely shocked by this and has asked for a second chance but I feel like the damage
has been done and I don't know if it is repairable and honestly am not sure that I even want to try anymore.
He is a jerk, plain and simple. Not that I am always easy to get along with either.... for the record.
He says he wants to change and I am like... why now? Why does it matter when you think I am leaving when it hasn't mattered for at least the last 3
years? In my experience, people really don't change. I am sure that there are some out there but I in my experience they are the exception and not the
I am feeling super guilty (not sure why) because he is so upset, the holidays are in full swing and I also feel bad for the kids. Why I am feeling
guilty when he is the one that is a giant meanie.... I don't know. I shouldn't have to apologize for the way I feel.
Opinions, please? Stories? Experiences? Advice?
Edited to add: I hit enter before I was actually ready. I didn't intend on leaving the OP blank like that.
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