Is love from words the purest love? Because it is uncorrupted with physical matters?
First of all, I love that picture. It's the coolest thing I've seen in a long time. But to answer that first question, I'd have to say yes. To both
points. Since I fancy myself a writer that may be a biased answer though. But falling in love because of what someone writes or what someone says have
one thing in common. It takes time. Depending on the quality of the words though will determeine HOW much time. Speaking only for myself, I can get my
thoughts and feelings across much better when I write than if I try to speak them. Something gets lost in the process between thinking about what I
want to say and saying it. I've always been that way. When I try to say what I feel, I can come across as a dok or an a**hole. All depends on my mood
at time. If I'm in a good mood, I'm a dork. A bad mood and I'm an a**hole.
I remember one time when I was about 16, a girl came up to me and said that her big sister likes me. I told her to tell her big sister "me too". The
little girl came back and and said that her big sister said I was an a**hole. lol
Classic facepalm moment right there, and the best case in point I can think of of how speaking your words can take on a meaning you don't really
want. When you write something down it's not all spur-of-the moment stuff. You're putting thought into it.
I can write a love song that'll make you cry, but if I try to put the make on you in person, I'll make you laugh
I guess that it's a good thing that when I was teenager, my eyes got me laid more times than a hotel carpet. I never had to work for it. I just had
to keep my mouth shut and let my eyes do the talking and my fingers do the walking.
I think writing is the purest form of self-expression that there is though. Do you make yourself look good by doing it? Yes. That's kind of the
point. If for any other reason you're making yourself look good because when you write something, the person reading it knows that THAT is the real
you. (At least I hope so) You can also make yourself look good by talking too. You can embellish both forms of communication to make yourself look
better than what you really are. It goes both ways.
When you lust for someone, you want them based on what you see on the outside. When you love someone, you want them based on what you see on the
inside. Lust will only take you so far out there. But if that's as far as you want to go, that's fine. Been there, done that and I'm not above
going back there again. If you want more you're going to have to look a little deeper though. You're going to have to come in out of the cold and
come inside where it's warm. With the Feelings. Words. Boys and girls aren't allowed to play in here. This is where things REALLY get done honey.
And again, some people can express their feelings better when they write them down than if they try to speak them. But if you have that writing as a
basis for "starter conversations" ( for lack of a better term), and both of you are on the same page with it, the rest should come pretty naturally.
Can you have a long term relationship on the internet? I don't think so because eventually you're both going to want that human touch that the
internet obviously can't provide. Words will let you both know what you're really all about and allow you to make that first connection. Some women
need that. They need to know that the man is for real. They need to know that he cares for THEM, not just what they have. Some women aren't going to
let you into their secret garden until they know you're a farmer who knows what the hell he's doing.
Sometimes there are circumstances that won't let a man and woman do what they need to do to get to know each other better. And that makes things
hard. Trust me.....it's hard.
That's where the internet can be a real life saver these days and the written word can be more important than you
ever thought. If you ever find yourself in a situation like that to where you can only indirectly communicate through the internet, remember to choose
your words carefully. But also remember that sooner or later, you're going to have to get together and seal the deal. Better sooner than later
though. Some women can wait. Come what May right? Sometimes men can't and feel like they have to change the circumstances if they can.
On the internet or not.