Is it possible to fall in love on the Internet?, page 2


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reply posted on 30-11-2011 @ 11:53 PM by Akragon
reply to post by Partygirl



lol someone's been online dating eh

I think you have to be very careful with who you find on the internet... As you said words are very powerful

Many people present themselves quite differently then they are in reality...

What you see and what you read isn't always what you get...

You can only fall in love with an idea of what that person "might be"... until you meet them you can't possibly see that person for who they are...

For example... im "madcat" here... (apparently) ... But i can express my thoughts on things that i enjoy here more freely then i could in reality... at least on the topics i chose to post in.

Unfortunatly i would say falling in love with someone's profile, or even with chatting with said person is just fooling yourself... You need to meet a person to find out who they are...



P.S. Your old picture was better
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reply posted on 1-12-2011 @ 12:39 AM by Druid42
reply to post by Akragon



IF Partygirl has been doing the online dating gig, then all I have to say, like usual, is.....Rock on, Partygirl!

I'll check for her next post in Relationships.




reply posted on 1-12-2011 @ 07:26 AM by Druid42
reply to post by Partygirl



So if you are/were crushing on someone, why not simply become friends with him, and get to know more about him? Take off the rose colored glasses, and take the friendship for what it's worth, at face value.

If you walk away with another friend in life, what's there to loose? Friendship is the first step in ANY relationship. What comes afterwards is up to the individuals, but sometimes friendships are what a person needs to find their way through life.



reply posted on 1-12-2011 @ 09:54 AM by Gazrok
reply to post by Partygirl



Can the words somebody writes alone make you fall in love?


No.

Lust, admiration, etc., sure. But Love? No...that requires a little more to build on, to where you see a person for who they really are (vs. an "idea" from words online), and care more about that person's happiness than your own. Online, you still have detachment, and the ability to simply switch off the relationship like a light switch.


reply posted on 1-12-2011 @ 05:23 PM by galadofwarthethird
reply to post by Partygirl




Is it possible to fall in love on the Internet?

As to the whole internet dating thing just by looking at this thread and all the others I seen on this subject I can say that in some ways its like everything else out-there...That is, sometimes it works...Sometimes it doesn't.

And I don't know what your trying to get at really.

But if going just by the words that you read online, then I would have to say... Yes and No....But if anything it just might be a crush or an infatuation or like you said, your just projecting all your ideas, expectations or hopes on something that is just a medium of communication.

If based on that alone then I would say No it is not possible, but if something more came out of it like some of the people on here said....Well then the answer would be Yes...As you can see it all just depends.



Can you trust the reality behind the words?

Hellz no, I trust no one, most especially some dudes online..

In fact I just assume anybody I am talking to online is some dude name bob in some basement somewhere or the CIA...Even you to Partygirl, with all your weird threads you start, I would say that I am 80% sure that you might actually be a girl, and who you say you are...Either that or your CIA.

But anyways Words are just descriptions of things and as such at best merely arrows pointing to the real thing...But a whole realities onto themselves they are not, what I think your getting at is...Your looking for assurances on love based on words...That Partygirl is just folly, so whatever crazy ideas you got Partygirl I would say try them out first, and if they work then great...But If not oh well, now you know and can move on.

But to base your entire world and expectations on words alone. Then that is bound to lead to that world crumbling, because words are merely words. And they can not define or accurately describe much less hold up anybodies whole world by themselves.



Or, is love from words the purest love? Because it is uncorrupted with physical matters?


To tell the truth I think the above makes no sense what so ever.

If anything I think your confusing and mixing all kinds of different meanings of love with possibly your religious and bible thumping thinking process and christian ways....If anything it sounds like your confusing reality, with something that is conceptual. Or better yet to be more precise, your trying to make something that is conceptual into a reality.

If anything its a horse and carriage matter, and I in no way what so ever see or understand how physical matters corrupt things, or how words alone is the purest form of love. I am pretty sure love is both a mental thing and a physical thing, and much more besides that.....If anything trying to separate things and classify them into different folders is folly.



What do you think?


I think you should ask or go check what your boyfriend says about such things, you know that one dude your always talking about, whats his name again.
Oh ya! Jesus or something....

Because you really don't want to know what I think....But I will say it anyways.....Parygirl, you so crazy and totally illogical, and to tell the truth that is definitely like what actually a female might think like....And so you have went up on my meter, and are now at 81% sure that your actually a girl.



reply posted on 4-12-2011 @ 01:54 AM by TheLegend
I (an American man) met a Canadian woman online 5 years ago as of next January. We innocently played some online games for a few months, then moved onto instant messenger and just chatted while playing, usually for 5-6 hours a night for nearly 2 years. It was around this time that we started getting strong feelings so stopped the instant messanger. Now we just talk in emails 4x a week for a few hours each night. We're supportive and definitely care deeply about the other. We listen intently and flirt regularly, but we're not super keen on relationships in general (we're both super independent). Her birthday is coming up on the 9th and I'm going to make her a nice card, as I do every year for her bday and Christmas.

She's a legal secretary, a latin dancer, and a woman who I love dearly despite never seeing her or hearing her voice. We influenced each other's lives without even being around. I even picked up taking latin dance lessons just to try and understand that side of her. I'm currently getting my Master's in Professional & Technical writing because we started writing a novel together (which originally started as me telling her a bedtime story) and I realized that writing is something I'm passionate about and have a knack for.

I remember one time, three years ago, where I was going to have a major surgery the next day. She chose to stay talking with me online, despite my piss-poor mood, instead of going out with her girlfriends as she had planned. At the end of that conversation that night is when we first said "I love you". She has the nicest soul, even refusing to receive material gifts when I wished to give her something. I love her spiritually, intellectually and emotionally so much that the physicality never was important. Would I like to meet her someday and take her out on an official date? I definitely would and I really plan to, but I could still die without regret having known her the way I have up until this point.

Anyway, that's the story of an eccentric, old soul. If I lived in Vancouver where she does, and so never met her online, we could have just passed each other by on the street, never knowing how much we could have meant to the other.
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reply posted on 9-12-2011 @ 01:58 PM by Gazrok
reply to post by mblahnikluver



Right, but you eventually met in person, and that's what seals the deal....if exclusively online, all you can really do is fall in love with the IDEA of a person...until you meet them, and if they live up to that idea, great! If not, then well, move on I suppose.
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