My view on love is something I rarely talk about, just because I want to avoid arguing with the majority of people, because the majority will probably
disagree with me. From a psychological standpoint, what most people call love is simply a dropping of the ego-boundaries.
The "feeling" of falling in love, and I'm sure everyone knows this feeling, is NOT really love. It is this removal of your ego-boundaries. When that
feeling goes away, and it almost always does, that is your ego-boundary snapping back into place. That isn't love, it is a chemical reaction in the
brain caused by personal desires.
TRUE love doesn't involve removing your ego-boundary. True love is EXPANDING your ego-boundary to include this other person. So basically, true love
is present between two people when they still are attracted, care, etc with one another, AFTER the perceived "feeling" of love has dissipated.
Most people think that because that feeling is gone, they aren't in love anymore, and that just is not the case. This isn't just some theory I put
together overnight, but rather an idea that has been developed, not by me, but by actual psychiatrists and mental health professionals.
As I said, most people won't agree, but it is what I not only believe to be the truth, but what I have experienced as truth as well. Take it for what
Anyway, about what your question...I think two people can have that "feeling" over the internet, which just proves that it is chemical, so I do not
think it is truly possible to fall in real love online.
edit on 11/30/11 by JiggyPotamus because: (no reason given)