posted on Oct, 14 2012 @ 11:11 AM
I am 22 going 23 years old woman and I am dating a guy who is 10 years older than me (32 going 33 this month). I started dating him 2 years ago so
that was when I was 20 going to 21 years old. By the way, my bf is NOT at all rich, he is NOT even financially stable. We met through a mutual friend.
I was a student then and he's a DJ. Yes, a part of him being a DJ while i was still in my really party mood 2 years ago made him more attractive to
me, but at the same time, mostly it was because of his personality that attracted me. By the way, we have been living together for 1.5 years now
(though with another roommate). He still plays xbox daily. Also, he has been separated for a few years before we met. When we met, he said he's
separated but going to do his divorce soon. Now that 2 years have passed that we've been together, he is just ABOUT to do the paperwork (no kids,
divorce agreement on both parties, so really simple paperwork). I've been pressuring him to get his divorce because I don't want to be a mistress
and I want a man who commits to me as much as I commit to him.
I am mature for my age i think. Anyway, i have always found older men more attractive than younger ones. With limited gap of course, I would not go
for a guy who is like late 40s or something. I always find older men = more mature = wiser = security = have more insights = more experienced in life
that i could always learn from = more understanding in life and relationships = less headaches for me = less wild = GOOD. I will never date a guy my
age or 1-2 years older because they're usually very immature and i'd feel like i'm taking care of a baby brother. By the way, in the past, I've
also been attracted to guys at their 30s... my current bf was not the first older guy I was attracted to.
Going back to my bf if I still find him attractive now that I've grown more mature in the past 2 years and still growing.. yes I love him 100% with
all my heart. Yes, at times I would picture us getting married and having a baby. Yes, I can't imagine my life without him. But the fact that I am
growing more mature, I am beginning to see HIM as the one who never grew up = immature. Not to be arrogant but now I am starting to be worried if he
would make a good husband/happy family/adequate father in the future because of his financial issues and still wanting to DJ at 32. Long story short,
as i am growing more mature, I am starting to question if he is the one and if I'm just wasting my time. If he does not become more responsible about
his finances, overall maturity and divorce, I might just leave him soon.. because I am wasting my young years for a relationship that might just end
up in a miserable marriage. But if he was financially stable, more responsible, more mature, yes i would marry him today if he asks me to. I don't
care that he's starting to get grey hair and slight wrinkles.
To answer your question, if it's creepy or scary for us young women to have guys at your age to hit on us, mostly not. A few women would find it
creepy (there's always exceptions in everything, right?) but mostly not. by the way, i am feeling good that i am an early 20s woman basically the
most wanted age range woman (by men my age and older men) and i feel flattered... but it makes me worried that when im married in the future and i
become those 30s or 40s woman, my future husband might start eyeing or cheating on 20s because i'll be with wrinkles and etc just how you men view
Conclusion is, go for it. many women find older men attractive. i am one of them. and no, it's not just about the MONEY, because i am a living proof
of that. it's all about the personality and how you approach them. by the way, you also need to be a caring patient individual because women at my
age would be playful and be cute sometimes, and you might find it great at first but not all the time (i.e when you are stressed) and u might be
accidently be rough on her, and she's going to take it personally etc. anyway.. best of luck. i registered on this site just so i could reply to your