reply to post by BlackSatinDancer
here's something you might want to consider because i would absolutely hate for that person to think they have to go around being a dick just
because their last girl left them for being too nice.
thank you for touching on the subject because chivalrous behavior is directly linked to manners and courtesy, as is the point of the OP.
i used to think ppl are rude by choice (and 20yrs ago that was probably true for the most part) but times do change and apparently so have many of the
customs and courtesies once expressed by most.
these days, i tend to believe the rudeness has developed out of the mental conditioning forced upon society for the last say 50yrs and this is
exemplary of the cumulative effects.
As for the boy, he is not my son but i am a close outside observer (friend of dad).
fear not, he is a stable, confident and charismatic character not likely to dwell in self-pity.
as for her true reasons for the break-up, your guess is as good as mine but i'm basing my opinion on verbal communications shared (in this case, i
only know what i was told).
however, it was reported his behavior caused
her to feel uncomfortable because she often forgot her place which led to unnecessary
as one who has accompanied his father in public, i totally understand her viewpoint (i am so out of practice) although i thoroughly disagree.
i may be old but once alone for so long, it is difficult to remember to be patient (for that gesture), to walk on the inside (without being manually
moved to the position), to slow down enough to actually enjoy the momentary consideration of another.
how did we (as a society) achieve such a monumental failure ??
i do appreciate your empathy although slightly misplaced.
however, he is young and he will adjust as he has many times before.
she is the one for whom i feel sympathy. it is her loss in the long run, especially if her reason truly revolves around the chivalry.
ppl who expect manners and courtesy from others then dismiss that which is extended to them are one of my pet peeves.
as a side note ... even traveling across this nation, i have been asked more often than not (and usually within the first 12 hrs) ... "you're not
from here are you?" and i reply, "no, why?" ... standard answer, "cause you're just too nice to be from here."
maybe it's a personal flaw (heaven knows the nice gal usually finishes last)