posted on Sep, 5 2004 @ 03:29 PM
Here are some more details for you.
Thanks for taking an interest in this.
1) He is 20 and living with your wife and you - How long has he been living with you? And what were the reasons for him coming to live with you?
He was living with his mom, his father had passed away a few years ago.
She was taking no interest in him. Never really had taken an interest. He had just graduated from HS. With no further plans. We were worried about
So we made a deal...You can live with us, IF you get a job and go to school.
He IS going to school. Community College, taking simple classes, but he is going. He's been here about 18 months now.
2) He doesn't have a job/can't get a job? What education does he have? And has he applied for jobs?
High School only. We had a job lined up for him. At the college, through a friend. He interviewed for it, it was pretty much set in stone, so to
BUT, when his potential new boss said "so, you want to leard how to fix computers" he said "NOT REALLY"....that was the end of that..
He's been on at least 6 other interviews, never gets the call-back.
He had a job, back home once. Again, through connections.
He lasted only ONE day..Because he wouldn't do what the boss asked him to do (vacuum the floor). When asked why, he said "Idunno"
A common answer I get from him as well.
I am contacting a job counseling place on Tuesday, BTW..
3) As for friends - we would have to establish where he grew up and why he is living with you now?
He actually grew up partially in this very town. And in SoCaL. He has a couple of "buddies" in SoCal. But they Never call or anything. The last time
he saw them, they were kinda "using" him, because he had CASH and a CAR. Compliments of his grandparents.
4) What do you consider makes him socially dysfunctional? Does he do things that are socially inappropriate or does he just avoid social
He Tries to avoid social things...But will go if WE are with him..
I wouldn't say inappropriate, but he has a real hard time with social subtleties. Like the job interview experience I mentioned above..
He doesn't pick-up on visual cues at all.
Some other things.
He has a sense of Grandeur, regarding his opinion of things...Like everyone else must be stupid..
He also has an annoying habit of OVER-pronunciation of words..
Like, if a word ends with the letter T, he will REALLY bring out the T.
Also, buttering a piece of bread.. he'll spend 5 minutes, getting the butter, perfectly smooth, and covering ALL parts of the bread evenly. Very