I'm not sure how to answer this but I'll give it a shot...I'm a prior service United States Marine , so I know a little about what goes on in
bootcamp and what needs to be done to turn a 18 y/o civilian boy into a killer. I personally don't think it's natural to take someones life that's
not a direct threat to you or your family.
What the military needs is people that will kill on command, in order to get there a recruit is stripped of his sense of self and built back up as a
member of the team. It's something that is hard to explain to those who have not experienced it.
Bootcamp takes young men and turns them into basic riflemen and gives them the basic skills needed to survive on the battlefield, It flicks the ON
switch of primal urges that have been suppressed by society , the only problem is that there is no OFF switch...
The Marine Corps is a warriors culture, same as soliders throughout history dating past the Spartans, No matter what type of society you live in , you
are going to need people that will not hesitate to kill in order to save the civilians, you need life takers, you're going to need trigger pullers
until humanity evolves past "ME" and "I" and see's that we are all one.
The largest discrepency between a late teen and early twentysomething is the level of responsibility given to that person, At 18 I was learning how to
collect , record ,analyze and process Intel into a package that officers could use to make a well informed decision. My friends were freshman in
college and lived a life of beer bongs & smoking a green leafy substance. (I'm sure there was some learning involved, most of them eneded up
) So when I would come home on leave, I was in a world where I didn't really fit and had no use... I was around friends that had no
worries and took nothing serious, meanwhile I came from a world where If I screw up, people die. I never viewed myself as better than them, just
different....at times I envied their lack of care.
I think this is what the OP is experiencing, It's not that your friends don't like you because you're a civilian, It's the fact that it's
probably hard to find common ground and relate to each others lifestyles. This isn't exclusive to the military, as you grow up and find a career,
you'll find this happening again. I've got friends that are Doctors and Lawyers and I NEVER talk to these guys outside of facebook, I've got my
group of friends that don't have kids and can't understand why I can't drop everything and meet them for a beer, I've got friends that are LEO's
that are on their own program, Me being a Firefighter, I spend more time with the guys in the house than my own family sometimes. It's part of
growing up man, life changes relationships change, we're not static...I know it sucks, but you're going to need to learn how adapt to change and