reply to post by Raivan31
I think you're stereotyping a whole group of people based on the hurt you feel by being shunned by those in your life. Not everyone shuns their
loved ones when they join, and the ones that do are suffering from low self esteem, not brain-washing. Sadly, many people who join the military do
have a low self-esteem, and join simply because they feel it will improve their status somehow. In the process, they endure the most rigorous
training on the planet and accomplish this amazing thing that maybe they thought they couldn't accomplish. It's a surreal feeling, and unless
you've experienced yourself, it's difficult to explain.
So, I don't think you have been repeatedly blown off by loved ones on purpose. After having graduated Marine Corps boot camp, most new Marines are
walking on cloud nine, feeling invincible. They just achieved some of the most difficult training in the world, and earned the right to wear the
uniform in the process. They've faced fears they never knew existed, pushed their bodies far beyond what they ever thought was possible, and they
lived to tell the tale. BECAUSE it is such a life-altering experience (not to be confused with brainwashing), there aren't too many people on this
planet that can empathize on that level. For that alone, you must try to understand that you cannot relate to your friends. They will naturally
gravitate towards those who do understand, but that feeling does wear off in time.
If they dumped you, then it is one of two things: a.) A character flaw within them, or b.) the flip side of that - perhaps, (and this in only a
PERHAPS), you no longer fit into their new found life of discipline. I found myself making new friends after boot camp and cutting ties with others.
Some thought I had changed, and I did, but I changed for the better. Those people I cut ties with were people who did not always have my best
interest at heart, and I didn't have the courage to cut ties prior to boot camp.
So, I'm not saying you're the bad guy here that people need to get away from. I'm just being honest and sharing two possible sides and giving a
very real look at the different people that go in and the different outcomes after they come out. Boot camp will never cure someone's character
flaws, unless they are aware of them and actively pursue to fix them. It will temporarily subdue them, and replace them with more important standards
of living, but those flaws WILL resurface later, and with a vengeance sometimes.
So your friends may have gone in self-centered and selfish to begin with and came out that way. The only difference is, behaving that way to you
won't get them bad paperwork, so they can get away with it. It will come around though. These people generally leave the military after many
hardships, and these are the same ones who come out with some axe to grind against the military. Typical human behavior - blame someone else for your
On the other hand, if it's you, only you know.