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Originally posted by slowisfast
i wouldn't even begin to assume that i could state, with any certainty, why women tend to be less likely to take on a partner with children. i do believe that, as you stated, it shows a different system of thinking going on. i'm a 32 year old dude, i haven't figured out myself yet let alone women. i can only speak from my personal experience and the reasons why i made the choices that i did. outside of that, i'm not going to speak for others. i have had female friends that have stated that they have chosen not to date a man with children because they don't want to be in a motherly role before they have a child of their own, other women i've known haven't dated fathers because they've never seen children in their future. digging any deeper into the 'why' on this topic is of no interest to me.
a steady supply of sex is the worst reason to take up with a female.
What is not described and explained here is that for many ..including the men out here..they consider themselves socially to be expendable and disposable for the women...carte blanche.
i have had female friends that have stated that they have chosen not to date a man with children because they don't want to be in a motherly role before they have a child of their own, other women i've known haven't dated fathers because they've never seen children in their future. digging any deeper into the 'why' on this topic is of no interest to me.
The whole "men wont date/want a woman with kids" is extremely outdated. Even I was stuck in that mindset, didn't bother me much though since I was quite happy to be alone for a good while. Did me the power of good.
However during that time on the odd occasion I socialised of an evening, even though I made no secret of the fact I was proud mum of two I still had to fight men off with a #ty stick, but then the cynical cow in me would scrutinise this as "Oh well, perhaps they just think I'm desperate for a bloke".
I certainly wasn't. Fielding them though I probably put a fair few male noses out of joint, hurt feelings and point blank slammed the anchors on what could have been a great relationship but such is life....
Many years on and all is well.
Infact to be honest, I never actually envisioned being a Step mum
Originally posted by MamaJ
This is quite funny!
Should you date a woman with kids? Ask yourself that. How old are you?
I am a single mom with two kids (11 and 14) and if a man wouldn't wanna date me because of it....well....he is actually doing me a favor then, I wouldn't want a shallow man to begin with.
Originally posted by ReadyPower
I started dating a girl, who is really sweet to me and pretty... the problem is she had 2 kids, with 2 dads..
She spent the weekend with me, and it was fun.. but it was kind of weird.. her kids (1 and 3) kept crying, and distracting us..
Anyway... would you... have you.. are you.. dating somebody with another man/womans child?
the problem is she had 2 kids, with 2 dads..
Originally posted by ycombinator
No, I wouldn't ever date a woman with kids, unless she's a widow maybe.
By two different men? Are you out of your mind or what?
Remember: for a mother, you will always come after her kids, and when their kids are not your own, they will always remember her of her previous men.
As a step-father, you'll have all the obligations of a father and none of the rights. A very raw deal if you think about how much work being a father takes.