It depends on the woman...the maturity level of the woman.
There are certain things that a man needs to know about a woman with kids as well as about himself.
From Lonewolf on page 2 of this thread..
Women usually mature at a much faster rate but i think it's safe to say if neither man nor woman is mature by the time they hit 24 they
never will be and this comes from personal experience.
I disagree that women mature at a faster rate than men. Most women are more of social creatures than are most men. When your primary social
expectation is of someone else to take the RISK and hardship out of life's burdens and difficulties...it is easy to put on the "appearance" of
Maturity without being mature...but only appearances. This is a view seldom understood by most men and most women don't care to have it made clear
and the women's movements will not clear this up for sure.
Most social constructs mean that no one sees what we do or don't do. This is not necessarily maturity. Most men do not catch on to this concept ..but
women most certainly do and they don't often tell on each other ..at least not to the men. The men are to remain ignorant of this line of thinking.
Watch this by Aliensun on page 2. You want in particular to be aware of this as it is textbook of most women today. It is also textbook stupid of the
male to tolerate this passing for maturity on the part of a woman ..when it is not. It is selfishness and self indulgence. It only appears to be
maturity on the outside...it is not but it is textbook of foolish social thinking attempting to default through as the moral high ground.
Here..this by Aliensun.
One basic law regarding a partner with kids, especially a female with children and she is a decent mother and certainly, you wouldn't want
anything less in that department would you?
The absolute law: The kid(s) come(s) first.
(That means you are always somewhere lower down on the list for attention. If you can't live with that reality. never get involved with a woman (or
man) with kids.)
You want a woman who is not only a good mother ..but also a good wife..otherwise you are selling yourself short...you will be expected to labor for
first place for the woman and children and come in last place .or further down the line. ..behind the dog and pets.
The kids come first...what nonsense. This is for many women a license to put a man last..continually...while he takes RISKS for first place for
others...and come in last as a career. This is a license for a woman and kids to become excessively high maintenance.
I am not saying here to put the children last..but a good woman also knows how to bring her man in first too.
She knows how to bring him first fruits too...not just the kids ...while giving the man clues and cues to labor harder and run touchdowns so the kids
can come in first and him last. Only a male can be this naturally stupid ..because women are smarter than this. I said ..smarter..not mature.
Understand now men??
None of the Uber intelligent Mature women's groups ever bring out this concept into the light of day. They will avoid it.
Let me straighten you males out on something here. A woman giving you her body once in awhile and cooking for you..cleaning et al..is "not" giving
you first fruits...whether she has children or not. These things are not "The Best years of her life."
If you are any kind of a man ..it is not difficult to get women to take off their clothes. And a man who is a man..can cook..clean and do all these so
called female things for himself. If you are a male and cannot do them you are like many women.."High Maintenance." Most women do not want a man who
is higher maintenance than themselves and children. Get a clue..you are not grown up.
Let me give you males a clue about how some of this works..for many women with children.
My friend was widowed some years back so he went back on the marketplace. After dating several women with children..he told me in conversation...what
came to him one day. This line of thought is very important to a man's survival out here ..especially in dealing with women and children.
He said..I finally figured out what it is about these women ..alot of them. They are coming over and looking at my house...swimming
pool..yard..cars..et al...all paid up. They are looking at what they can get for themselves and their children. They are "not Looking" at what they
need to bring me. ..but how it will apply to themselves and the children if they play their cards correctly...or what they think is correctly.
Understand now. Have you developed the tools to understand and filter out the field from this kind of default thinking on the part of many females or
are you looking mostly at your "Oil Shortage!!??"
Notice the women's magazines do not discuss this as well..Neither does the male Cosmo magazine..Maxim or GQ.
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