posted on Nov, 13 2011 @ 09:41 AM
I hate bullys. In school i bullied the bullys by not allowing them to bully others. Being the biggest/strongest in your school affords you some
luxury.
I have protected my kids by doing the following:
1. Teach them to have a sliver tongue. I know some of you think that shiz talking with your kids is bad. It isn't words, it is intent. And the
more you give them at home, the more ammo they will have in the real world. Teach them to have thick skin and a silver tongue. My son is a big kid,
somewhat overweight (still...but he is still losing and is doing very well). Of course this leads to name calling, etc. Funny thing....few kids will
name call him. He will verbally eviscerate any and everyone who wants to get into a linguistic duel. It has also made him funny, so the side effect
is that kids and adults absolutely love him because he makes them laugh.
2. Teach them to be strong. Do not allow them to accept being a victim of anything. I don't care what your schools say, your kids have a
constitutional right to protect themselves. Zero tolerance policies are unconstitutional, and if you kid is hit by another kid, he has every right to
fight to defend himself. When my son was having issues with gangbangers at his school, i tried to press charges for sexual harrasment (boob
grabbing). The campus cop talked me out of it, and told me to have my son defend himself. He advised me of the above. Over the course of a month he
beat up about 25 kids. He was bigger than all of them, and has never been afraid to throw a punch in defense of himself. By the end of the school
year, no one bothered him and he had a peaceful life. We still transferred him this year, as he just didn't want to have to go through that every
year in that other district.
3. Teach them right from wrong, good citizenship. This will make teachers like them more, and be more supportive of them. You will be surprised how
much easier your kids life will be when the school staff actually will repeatedly say, "He does not deserve to be treated that way. He is a good kid
that just wants to come to school to get along and learn." If they can say that about your kids, then when it comes down to it in the end, your kid
will have an edge.
4. Know who your kids adversaries are. Do not allow them to be confronted by true danger, like the kid who had a mustache in 6th grade and has
flunked 5 times. Or kids who are known to carry weapons outside of school. Your kids should know the scoop on these people, and you should be taking
an active role in helping them plan to deal with the social drama's of pre-teen and teen years.
This is what I did with my kids. The oldest one, who is gay, never had a bit of trouble as he knows how to blend in and go with the flow. The
youngest one, who is a 6 foot tall, 280lb 8th grader (still waiting for puberty...this kid is going to be a giant once he starts his big growth
spurts) handles all his problems, and still manages to never get in any trouble with the school. And yes, this includes physically defending himself
by giving out bloody noses, black eyes, and one broken tooth.