posted on Nov, 6 2011 @ 01:10 AM
reply to post by catwhoknowsplusone
When you talk to a teenager, in my experience get down to the real point. Don't just talk to them about how vampire movies are bad, say things that
will make them approach everything in life as a student. A student that wants answers. Make sure they're questioning what is right, and what is
wrong. If you try to control them, you will fail miserably with most teenagers.
Basically, loosen the reins on specific formality, and let them know about fundamentals. Get them comfortable with speaking to you. If you can't do
it, ask an older sibling to do it. Not everything a person needs to hear can be said by a parent.
I think parents that are overly authoritative tend to lose their children, and blame it on outside influences. I speak to my sister (11 years
younger), on equal ground as if she's an adult. She makes straight A's and is visiting colleges this summer. She also respects me, and is a well
behaved teenager. Hopefully this helps, if you're serious. If not, it's still a good topic for debate.
She's very different from me. I was raised only by my Dad, who was ex-military and a real hardass. Yes sir, no sir type. Everything he had to say
went in one ear and out the other. He never said anything beyond boring and basic statements that in no way made me think about anything. He always
said, "one day you'll know I'm right". The thing is, that day doesn't have to be years after the conversation happened. You can get teenagers
thinking right now! He now asks me for social related advice.
He's also done a lot of changing because of it.
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