posted on Nov, 7 2011 @ 09:59 AM
I've been giving this a bit of thought and it seems to me that you could set up a situation that could turn into a power struggle if you object to
your girlfriend wearing the rings. Your objection might not be met very sympathetically as she may feel that you're trying to tell her what to do.
Then you'll be sitting there wondering how to resolve the issue without losing face or ending the relationship.
My suggestion is, and hear me out, wait until the next time she wears the ring(s) and tell her how silly you feel because you'd been a bit worried
about her wearing them and that of course she should wear them if she likes them. This will give you the chance to watch, very carefully, her
1) If she was wearing the rings to make you jealous enough to buy her a new one, well you've just peed on her firework.
2) If she's wearing the rings because she still has feelings for her ex, then she already holds more cards than you do. You can't stop her from
feeling something for someone else and you're best to distance yourself.
3) If she was genuinely wearing the rings because she likes them and was just being a bit insensitive towards you, then you've lost nothing by being
'big' about it and she'll be happy. She may even stop wearing them since you've been so reasonable.
BUT, remember this situation in your future dealings with her. Be very careful about what you object to. Nine times out of ten things just aren't
important enough to get worked up about. The trick is to know the one time out of ten when you need to object and stand your ground.
I don't know if this business with the ring counts as one of the times, but if you voluntarily drop your objections you will be opening the door for a
discussion which might prove useful. Plus you'll get an indicator how sensitive she is towards you when you raise an issue.
edit on 7-11-2011 by berenike because: (no reason given)