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Originally posted by Manula
reply to post by Frira
Frira wrote:
Gee. You must be in love.
Here is your one good reason:
* Suffering.
Others do it even if you do not.
What you need is a good dose of reality to open your eyes. The death of a best friend often does that for me; but for most humans even a good house fire destroying a complete stranger's hopes, dreams and memories can help.
Where is my stuffed Eeyore when I need it?
Nothing can control my feelings if i don't want to. Maybe i want to feel bad sometimes to know how it feels, to empathize, but its not really a bad feeling because you are trying to understand someone, you are doing good, and although you feel what others feel, it feel right inside, you feel good at a very deep level because its a good cause.
Its like a pregnant woman giving birth, it hurts but feels great because even hurting, she is doing something great.
Originally posted by Manula
reply to post by TheGrandWazoo
But we can still control our emotions right? Because we can transform them into positive vibes.
Originally posted by Manula
reply to post by Frira
Too many lives at the mercy of your emotions and now you don't believe there is other way. But there is.
Have you ever heard of budhism?
Originally posted by Manula
reply to post by Frira
You cant control the emotions that arise but you can control what to do with them.
Turn darkness into light, the emotion is telling you something, there is something to do, maybe you must have a better attitude, maybe someone needs your help, maybe it is a situation of danger, use your emotions wisely, don't be used by them. If you do this you are emotionally mature, you are in control.
Why don't you meditate on it, maybe the answer will come.
Originally posted by Frira
Originally posted by Manula
reply to post by Frira
Frira wrote:
Gee. You must be in love.
Here is your one good reason:
* Suffering.
Others do it even if you do not.
What you need is a good dose of reality to open your eyes. The death of a best friend often does that for me; but for most humans even a good house fire destroying a complete stranger's hopes, dreams and memories can help.
Where is my stuffed Eeyore when I need it?
Nothing can control my feelings if i don't want to. Maybe i want to feel bad sometimes to know how it feels, to empathize, but its not really a bad feeling because you are trying to understand someone, you are doing good, and although you feel what others feel, it feel right inside, you feel good at a very deep level because its a good cause.
Its like a pregnant woman giving birth, it hurts but feels great because even hurting, she is doing something great.
Don't take this personally, but if you think you have control over your feelings, you are delusional.
Your examples were about empathy-- but not your own suffering, not your pain, not your own grief.
How are things in make-believe land?edit on 30-10-2011 by Frira because: trying to get my original post back in fro context