Hrmm.. I often make the first move, however, I prefer to chase until I am caught *grin*. The older I get the more I seem to just throw myself out
there with only a nod (at best) to caution and have even (*gasp*) found an appreciation for letting the lucky guy know he is the pursued. That having
been said, its actually kind of rare for me to see a guy that catches my interest. So many guys are just umm... hrmm, perhaps like so many girls.
Bland, lukewarm, NORMAL. I would rather remain single than try to convince myself that someone who is mundane is someone I wish to invite into my
world. As far as the physical indicators of a woman being attracted to a man with whom she is speaking?
Well, not all of us are so unread that we weren't already aware of them *grin* however some are merely based on socially conditioned expectations of
women which originated in a time when gender roles were less fluid. Or can be used to a person's advantage since those signs are often responded to
on a subconscious level.
Eye contact? I always maintain eye contact when speaking with someone; I am an assertive person, and an alpha personality. It would be beneath me to
speak at length with someone without giving them (at least the impression that they have) my full attention. I am also a consummate salesman (f*** PC
language, keeping the "man" at the end of the word is no threat to my identity.) Eye contact matters.
Touching a person lightly in conversation to make a point? I do that too. Hints of expressions from the language of flirting deftly added to a
business situation can be helpful in achieving the results one wants. It may sound cold, but I flirt daily (when a client's "signals" indicate that
flirting would be taken only as an ego feed, not as an offer, and not something that would be unwelcome). I have no issue with mimicking the markers
of a woman who is attracted in order to get the results I want. Especially since it IS only employed on those who meet the aforementioned
requirements. If it gets caught, it deserves to be eaten.
When I am actually attracted to someone, though, uggh.. thats a weird combination of the game of chase and feeling like a junior high school kid
again *grin* It would be nice to meet more guys who are interesting. If I don''t I am going to have to start looking for a place to buy a leopard.
If I'm going to be that cat lady, I'ma do it MY way.