reply to post by Gazrok
Thanks for the answer! ( Sorry for the time it took to answer... as I was to post, I hit a key that removed its entirety... )
Ok, to answer your points, rest assured, the date of my moving out has already been decided. We wanted to wait for the last one to enter school. We
didn't want our children to be raised by strangers, so one of us stayed at home, mostly me. Despite our problems, the kids were never denied
anything, without being treated as kings and queens.
When we decided to have more children, knowing full well there was no more love between us, it was not based on an emotional delusion as in hoping it
would heal our couple... We made a decision based on facts. Here they are.
A) We didn't want our daughter to be a lone child as we knew more than a few, and they were sad to be alone.
B) We didn't want her to have half-brothers and half-sisters. Even if partially blood related, around us we saw they were not as close as real bros
C) Our daughter was asking for a bro or sis...
D) Our genetics WERE compatible. Without bragging, our children are very good looking, talented, and intelligent. The second one is a pure genius,
seriously! And they are generally in a better health than their friends. ( Tho last year has been hard for the second one, now all is well. )
So we had a second child based rationally on these points. The third one is kind of an accident that happened while we decide to make it work between
us one last time. Her pregnancy killed everything between us. Strangely, she is convinced I impregnated her by some form of trick... Whatever she
may mean... LOL
So, even before ever meeting this other woman, our couple was long buried. And when I met that other woman, I was thinking more in the lines of
remaining single for quite a while.
But she struck me, and not just with her looks. I said in the OP how I felt about her from the beginning. We got along very fine right away. But
for me, then, it was only a passing thought as she was married.
But I came to appreciate the times we spent together, even if they were brief ones.
I know now is not the time to make a declaration of any kind... But that is why I asked... To receive some good counseling, and to refrain myself
from doing a faux pas of some sort.
So, it is clear that my ex and me are over. From what the other woman told me, it is certain she will never go back with her husband. She touched me
in a different way with her hands prior to telling me about her situation, and she did confide in me spontaneously. We get along very fine. She
knows my kids and loves them very much, and they her.
She has been more than nice to me and the kids, more than she had to. She always think of a small gifts for them... It's crazy, but she IS
everything I desire in a woman. In two years, not once did I see something bothering to me emanating from her...
I'm not suppose to see her before another two weeks, but I wish it was sooner... ***sigh!***
PS: I remember making a joke once about her finding me to her taste, following something she said and she laughed heartily at the joke. And blushed