posted on Oct, 14 2011 @ 03:10 AM
Originally posted by ovumcranium
Splitting per income percentage seems most fair.
And....How important is your girlfriend to you? How much do you want her to live with you? Because everytime you have this argument, it says to a
woman that those extra $25 or whatever are more important than she is. Expecially if you are the one who makes a lot more money than she does.
Not real encouraged about your long-term.
To be honest the idea for moving together was initiated by my gf, I'm fine with our current situation (living in different apartments; we spend every
Wednesday and the weekends together) and I'm also fine with moving together even though it was not my initial idea.
But: it's really hard for me to comprehend why I should pay more just because I have better paid job. 25$ (okay € where I live
) would not be a
problem - not at all, but I think she is about a 40%/ 60% situation (which is about ~150 €/ month more for me to pay for the rent, just do the math
for one year...).
I love her wihtout a doubt and I don't want the "lovely" money to be such a big issue for our future buuuut: I had to put A LOT of effort(s) into
getting the job I have and being in the (fortunate) position I'm in now and I can tell you it's not by chance.
I think it's open for her to get a better job OR for her mum, if she doensn't want her daughter to "suffer from less money", to give her daughter some
Bottom line: I love her, but do I have to "suffer" just because I have a better paid job than her?
My solution at the moment would be: Talking to my gf, without her parents (esp. her mum) of course, propose the 50/50 thing, and IF my gf is badly off
and can't afford some pairs of new jeans, I of course am willing to get her the clothes.
edit on 14/10/11 by Dalbeck because: (no reason
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