Originally posted by NewAgeMan
The Absurdity of Judgement
coming soon... it'll be fun don't worry.
I think that at some point, as a result of the cumulative weight of collective absurdities, both our own and that of others, we get all bent out of
shape, spiritually, and as such, we end up mired in fear, frustration, and insecurity, but not knowing where to turn or how to direct this anguish, we
fire it like a laser beam at our fellow man in harsh negative judgement, whether we even know the man or not, even at a distance!
I was to the point where I could fire a judgement at someone from well over 100 paces. But it was starting to get rather painful, for me, and
increasingly absurd, and so I went to my good mother, Kay, the supposed wise one in these affairs (I'd moved "home" quite some time prior, having
already fallen into a crumbled heap of failed ventures in my chosen profession, and from just basically getting squished by "the world"), so I go to
her, and I say, I almost plead - "Mom, this is getting ridiculous, I'm judging everyone all over the place, and it's starting to get really painful,
and it's like I can't even help myself, I'll see some guy maybe at a whole football field away (or MORE) say heading into a beerstore for example, and
I will judge him, harshly, and it's really starting to bother me", I proclaimed, almost tearfully, to which she replied in her maddenly gentle and
calm and wise way "why Bob, didn't you know? All judgements are simply a judgement about one's self!" she says (to my dawning horror, and
imcomprehension and inability to grasp what she was saying). I said "but Mom, the world is filled with assholes they're everywhere, and all manner of
jerks, you must realize that, c'mon!", but she didn't miss a beat, uttering in that same calm unconditionally loving motherly way "oh Bob, there's a
big difference between judging and EVALUATING, there's nothing wrong with evaluating at all, but there is something wrong with judging. To "judge" is
to assign a greater or less than worthiness to another, relative to yourself, and that's when it becomes painful, yes for you, since again, all
judgement is simply a judgement about yourself. It has nothing to do with the man entering into the beerstore, don't you see?"
She was right again of course..!
But that's just the half of it! There's another half, even more absurd than that, of such a thing were possible which it is, and that's where
everything (and everybody) has been falling through the net.
more to follow.. need to regroup here and head out for a "celebratory cigarette"..
Ok the other half of this equation re: the absurdity of negative judgement of others.
It's YOU, and ME, it's about who and what WE really are. and our heart and our love for ourselves and the plight of our fellow man (for the sake of
this illustration, let's just set aside, as on a shelf for future consideration, all the "evil people" who fill the prisons and roam the streets).
Since all the judgements we hold and disperse as if from a gattling gun, at anyone and everyone, especially those who we profess to actually love, are
in truth judgements about our own SELF, as my good mother Kay pointed out so devastatingly to me back there going on 14 years now I guess - then we're
screwed, right out of the gate, being so incapacitated and so utterly incapable of loving anyone, not the least of whom is ourselves, it's absurd.
The very frame of reference (brotherhood of man) which we REQUIRE (as a first/last cause) in order to meet our needs to love and be loved, and to
grow, and flourish, is destroyed, by our own hand, because of a judgement or series of judgements we hold, not to anyone else, but to ourselves! We
thus, in our negative judgemental stance towards others, both those we love and those we don't and those we don't even KNOW, we immediately RUIN for
ourselves, once and for all time, the one and only and the first and the last opportunity to become a wholly authentic human being and one who is
loved and accepted as they are ie: not judged by others. It's "crazy making" as my mother used to call it!
It's like an ANTI-kingdom of heaven net of hatred we're throwing around, and it's very hole-ey, if not unholy (being created simply from ignorance and
absurdity) and one through which everyone "else" falls through, but worose one that we fall through, while pulling them all away from it's (the REAL
one's) loving influence while we are at it, and for what? Why? It makes ZERO sense, unless we are mired in what I call the "absurdities of the
injustices" of our life, which prohibits our movement to "work the net of love" through our own inability to forgive, starting with ourselves and
those closest to us, from our parents to our siblings, to our very closest friends, neighbors, aquaintances, colleagues, and even to strangers, and
multinationals of every creed and colour who comprise the whole mass of humanity. To a one we simply did not know what we were doing (for the most
part, we'll worry about those "other" people later..), we were absurd!. We did not understand the nature of the ties which form the heavenly net of
love, or those which would separate us, and bind us, within the constraint our own insecurities, from a mutual, participative, free and loving
creative enjoyment, for the sake of love, and simple fun and happiness, because it's the right thing to do and as we know goodness is "good" for
goodness' own sake, not not because it's not bad (another absurdity).
There's all the feedback in the world, and the feedback of loving non-judgementalism is by far more enjoyable than it's hatefilled, judgemental
counterpart, and we know that one - been there, done that, got the t-shirt as they say. This isn't mere "theory" but observations and therefore
knowledge based in personal experience, and one which we all share, each and every one of us.
We cannot possibly operate the net of love from the boats floating on the sea of ignorance and absurdity, happily, joyfully and with enthusiasm until
we "get" this, until we grok of it most fully and then set forth to begin to put it into practice (basically the opposite of what we've been doing
with everyone), beginning with those closest to us, and then working outwardly from there, and there's much to do and very many fish to catch!
What a time to be alive! (The ocean spray, the other boats, the great net of love, the FISH, oh, my, God!)
P.S. All that said, we must remember to maintain an "even keel", since there's always a fine-line threshold between holiness, and assholiness.
edit on 19-10-2011 by NewAgeMan because: edit