reply to post by spikey
I agree with you for the most part. In that if gay people want the parent 1 and 2 thing, cool. Go for it. But I agree it is a disturbingly Orwellian
move. The title and status of "mother" and "father" whether biological or adoptive, are things so ingrained into the human species that, every
culture, from the most primitive to the most advanced throughout history, have always used these terms to identify the two biological participants in
reproduction, both male and female. Because biologically, only an egg and sperm can join for reproduction. And an egg and a sperm require a male and
female parent, in some manner. In otherwords, a mother or a father.
Thus, the two terms can never truly be eliminated. In the case of adoption or using a sperm donor/surrogate mother, biologically, that kid will need
to have a mother and father to exist. This will have to exist somewhere. And parent 1/parent 2 might work for same sex couples, it sure as hell ain't
going to fly for hetero couples. I don't think any mom or dad, or grandma or grandpa, is going to like being called "parent 1 or 2" in any fashion.
I totally support the option for same sex couples to have alternate boxes filled with "parent 1 and parent 2". In fact, such designations could work
beyond gay and lesbian couples. There are a number of children who are in the legal custody of grandparents, aunts, and uncles who could also utilize
the designation, since they are not technically "mother and father". So it is a good idea in addition to
the traditional designations of
"mother and father".
But to completely eliminate them? Piss off. It's insulting. If I had a child, whether I gave birth to it or adopted it and fullfil a maternal role
for it, I am not the child's "parent 2" or "parent 1". I am the child's legal "mother".
Remember, tolerance goes ALL
directions, folks. Let's show everyone in our society respect and consideration for all orientations and walks of
life. And many people really have no desire to ditch the ancient and biological terms for our parents completely.
When it comes time to renew my passport, I swear to whatever god you worship, if I have to put that "parent 1" is deceased, and "parent 2"
currently lives in Nevada, when I have to provide my birth certificate and proof of citizenship, I will headbutt the person that hands me the
application. I mean it.