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The claim that the system is trying to feminize males to « make them malleable and controllable to the feminine system. To remove the natural aggressiveness/RISK TAKING out of them. To make them just like everyone else...a good consumer. A xerox copy.
Not an individual thinker or doer. But instead a controllable malleable xerox copy. »
Could be used with equal force as explanation for the feminist movement, seeking to masculinize women, to remove the natural sensitivity /risk taking out of them. To make them a good consumer, and a controllable malleable zerox copy »
Women accepted this proposal to try out a different way of living and being because they wanted to. They wanted to see what it is like on the other side of the fence, and get to know their own masculine side. So they did. In my perception they have developed it rather well on the whole, and shown they are perfectly capable- but many are finding that even if they CAN, living it all the time doesn’t make them happy. They want a balance, they want to ALSO experience their feminine side too.
So we get the system proposing to men to try out the other side of the fence and get to know their feminine side. That is an emotional risk. It means thinking outside the box, stepping out of what you already know and are comfortable with. This fear of being feminized is not being a risk taker ! Trusting another, being dependant upon another, sitting in the passanger seat is difficult to do, and calls for great courage and willingness to take a risk.
So don’t try to rationalize your fear of this risk, of opening your mind outside your box by painting the outside of your comfy known area as evil. It is pathetic.
« In short what males learn is that they are expendable and disposable commodities to this paradigm. »
Originally posted by korathin
reply to post by Bluesma
Your a sexist bigot.
Originally posted by korathin
reply to post by Bluesma
P.S you psycho: Males have always been the disposable gender. It isn't because males are taking on more "feminine gender roles", it is the nature of the oppressive western Nordic Caucasian Matriarchy. Look at all the young men who died on the Titanic, drafted to fight in the first world war.
Women don't know the meaning of oppression. How many women died in the coal mines? The west is coming to an abrupt end soon as no young men of worth are willing to defend it anymore.
Originally posted by sliceNodice
Women are complete idiots. They are not smarter than men, society is just propping them up because the Feminists have a lot of power.
The most I can see in that is that in the more public and traditionally male occupations one gets higher pay and recognition of value and respect quicker..... whereas being a successful mother, for example, gets no direct pay check which validates their work, and no acknowledgment for their success until the child has become an adult. Sometimes that chain of effect is never acknowledged at all by the outside world.
The job of raising and educating a child gives only long term compensation and mostly only through personal validation (with ones own conscience, rather than public recognition from the system).
But this is the nature of those jobs...... and perhaps you could say that some women may have wanted to share in that immediate gratification and validation that men were already enjoying. So if immediate gratification is wrong, why was it okay when men were the majority going after it and getting it ?
I also do not see the previous feminist movement as only offering women more options, at least not as it was practiced.
Boys today may be getting a similar message - you MUST practice housework and childrearing, and failure to do so is unacceptable. This is the same sort of pressure we girls got in the 70’s, just the other way around.
-This point is one I have noticed is rather specifically twisted in intellectual and urban americans- that being « maternal » is nurturing and serving appetites and needs. That, I believe is an idea that was pushed forward to discredit the job. Being maternal is being tough and having a mind which foresees future effects and works toward them in progressive steps, with organization, creativity and reason. NOT being a selfless giver creating a dependant individual.
One of the biggest risks is love- ask most men afraid of trusting and opening to another. I don’t buy at all the claim that love and risk are separate and risk of so much MORE value. That is the excuse of men afraid of the emotional risk love entails. Love is risk, but it is a different kind of risk. Men feel much more comfortable with physical risks because they have more physical strength, women feel more comfortable with emotional risk because they have more emotional strength.
But really, facing risks is stepping into the arena that isn’t your natural forté, and where you don’t have the odds in your favor.
But for the official society, you get no awards, no pay check, no guidance or control. You are officially expendable and disposable.
This is what it is like on the other side guys ! It always has been !
When you’re on this side of the fence,. You are your own boss- for real this time. You judge your performance on how your kids turn out, on whether your husband and kids are independant, dynamic, healthy and constructive.... or whether they are dependant, lazy, obese and destructive. THEY are the products of your work.
Just as you say women may not be (in the environment you are in) appreciating the systems and products of traditional mens roles, many men also do not appreciate the the products of the traditional womens work- that is- people.
Women are deceiving themselves here and especially the womens movements. A mans risk taking in these arenas which gaurantee him success in the workplace does not gaurantee him success on the home front. OFten it is exactly the opposite..he is isolated from emotions on the homefront. This is seldom defined by women or even the men themselves. The things which make him successful..the disciplines at work often make him unsuccessful in love and affection at home.
I believe that women who discover this pattern for themselves when taking on what they claim are "Male " roles..this is one of the sources or reasons of why they find themselves unhappy with it.
When it happens to women there is a whole social network and media et al..to make sure it gets posted and published..but for males there is no such social outlet or network.
Women dont necessarily want a "sensitive man" they want a man who is sensitive to them..and also the children.
The job of raising and educating a child gives only long term compensation and mostly only through personal validation (with ones own conscience, rather than public recognition from the system).
This is not just an viewpoint of women..but of men too. But the mens role is hardly ever seen or known.
Once again Bluesma..when many women find out the cost to themselves of these jobs that they think is so glorious to men..they often try to find jobs which suit their personalities..ie ...options. Female social beliefs and thinking..ie..options. This can be done by and for themselves..or through getting up with a man who will provide enough security that she can sellect a job which is preferable to her social view..ie..options. Preferably before the biology runs out and it strikes midnight Cinderella. In short she can go where the status is ..not where the money is as do alot of men or males.
This is baloney to me Bluesma. I was raised with three other siblings. I learned to do all this before I left the nest. I can sew, cook, clean and do all of these things. I do not come to a woman for these things for which I can do for myself. Todays high maintenance males ..many of them cannot or do not do these things. Many of them I have seen are pigs..the females too. [ /quote]
Okay, if you learned all these things of your own volition (not having anyone else motivate you to) and it is not the norm where you are, then just what is this complaint of feminization of men ?? Where is it ? You’ve had no pressure to enter traditional female roles, and say no other men are either.... so what do you call feminization ? You have refered to things like shopping and immediate gratification- did you mean to say that that is « feminine » ??? If so, then I can truly say that the Americans have lost sight of what being feminine IS. This is not a crisis of men being feminized, this si purely a crisis of a society worshipping mass consumption and encouraging all sexes to partake.
However..I do not find women as a whole coming to me to relieve me of my traditionally male chores or labors which is the point I was making. I am expected to do many of their chores and also my own. Particularly if great RISK is involved in it.
Then I find this interesting to note, in face with the men here complaining that women have flooded the job market and are making less jobs for men. Where I am, women do both working outside the home and all home organization (cleaning, cooking, etc.). It is different though. I have been hearing that it is still the case in the US, but perhaps that was wrong. I recently read a stat that in homes where the male doesn’t work and the female does, she still does 75% of the housework. I don’t have the source for that, maybe I should look into it.
But yeah.... I think the feminist movement of the 70’s took over the homes by getting the women out of it, and instead of people getting proper maternal education (learning to be self sufficient, healthy, and balanced) they missed that and instead were taught to be mass consumers by the system which took over their upraising.
I will read your other post as soon as possible, I’ve got to run out for a minute. But I am really enjoying the discussion and reading your point of view.edit on 19-10-2011 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)
A good mother and father also know how to apply the word.."No." They also know how to carefully apply the concept of weaning a child off the breast in many many categories. I am not against " Tough Love " as the olde folks called it. I dont believe in unconditional love. I believe in conditions. Not only on each other but the children too.
Love is indeed RISK and vulnurability. However I dont buy the concept of love which so many women take for granted is normal and even entitled.
I disagree with your concept that men feel more comfortable with physical risks. Men feel this way because most of them are capable of taking care of their physical needs for themselves through labor.
What a knowledgeable man comes to a woman for is Peace..not just Piece. What I have discerned is that so few of today's educated women know this concept. What is also pathetic is that so few males know it as well. They too have been cheaply merchandized in this arena.
Of the women you know..how many of them even understand this concept. HOw many of the urban women of today understand this in lieu of the ..'Women of this or that country or city" I tried to watch some of these programs and quickly switched the channel. It was pitiful in its merchandizing plots. Same with this program called "Sex and the City."
Peace is the commodity for which a knowing man comes to a woman..not Piece.
It is not difficult today to get a woman to undress..pardon the crudity. It is not a rare or valuable commodity in the marketplace. Particularly when one understands the concept of competition among women.
So many males do not undestand this concept and not only the males but the females as well.
I have taught this concept to several young men and many have shut their women right up when the women try to use the olde line about "You come to me for only one thing." Most have never heard or experienced a man be able to defend this type of accusation.
But really, facing risks is stepping into the arena that isn’t your natural forté, and where you don’t have the odds in your favor.
You need to think this through carefully. Males even today are employed in almost all of the death occupations. Males have a higher mortality rate in all categories than females. Are you telling me that there are odds in favor of the male today?? In every category ..or only in traditionally female categories??
There is no more loss of power in life/vulnurability..than loss of life and limb. Are you thinking this through??
How many women do you know or think about today who willingly face a career in these death occupations?? Or do they quickly go for the "Options??"
I know very few. Of the women I know who do ..I respect them..for what they do. but most of them are not supporting a male from their career earnings. They are not interested in this.
Pardon my crudity here Bluesma..but I couldn't give two hoots what society wants or thinks. I have found most of it to be flatulence. Some of it even rabid flatulence which does not make good nonsense.
There was a time when people knew this of themselves. They did not need a society/social "Expert" to tell or teach them this.
I also want to make a point about nurturing. A man may not do "nurturing " in the manner that does a woman..but make no mistake..it is nurturing. It is also teaching ones children to survive when the parents are no longer there to pick them up and wipe off their bottoms so to speak. Even tough love is nurturing.
Well..this has gone on long enough. I thank you for your very considered responses. Also for standing your ground even among the "Wildlife " out here.
No matter what our personal beliefs and passions...civility never goes out of style to those who know of it's merits.
I'm not very competitive, either. No need to be constantly "proving myself" by trying to measure up against others. I already know who and what I am, no proofs necessary. An example is my dislike of sports. they bore me nearly to tears, and seem a waste of otherwise perfectly useful time, as I said above. I don't waste time playing them, I don't waste time watching them, and I don't faulty those who do. After all, it's THEIR time to do with as they will.
The most I can see in that is that in the more public and traditionally male occupations one gets higher pay and recognition of value and respect quicker..... whereas being a successful mother, for example, gets no direct pay check which validates their work, and no acknowledgment for their success until the child has become an adult. Sometimes that chain of effect is never acknowledged at all by the outside world.
When it happens to women there is a whole social network and media et al..to make sure it gets posted and published..but for males there is no such social outlet or network.
I have not percieved this, but then I am in another country where thigns are different, and there may be trends in the US recently that I am not aware of. What I do know is that back in the fifties, no media was sympathetic at all to womens situations of this type.
I respectfully Disagree. In talking of traditional mens roles, I’m refering to jobs on the exterior of the home, in which a pay check is, in itself, public recognition of work they did. Even the most low paying jobs which recieve the least amount of social standing still get the acknowledgement of work through a pay check, which a household engineer and child care taker does not.
I do not at all see this as true. Women have to take whatever they can to make money and support their family.
so what do you call feminization
This is not a crisis of men being feminized, this si purely a crisis of a society worshipping mass consumption and encouraging all sexes to partake.