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Originally posted by sacgamer25
The age old male and female stereotypes? Which ones would those be?
Women menstruate, give birth, breast feed, have a stronger bond with the children and have the patience to help them mature. Are these the stereotypes?
Men are stronger, more suited for physical labor, see things as black and white because many work choices need to be made without deliberation. Are these the sterotypes?
All of these things are natural not stereotypes. Just because industrialization has moved much of the work from blue collar to white collar does not mean that the basic functions that we were born to do should be changed. These changes have lead to the degradation of marriage, family, and raising children. Now that we perceive are roles as undefined we no longer know how to make anything work.
Until men start giving birth to children and women become the physically dominate gender than we should not be changing what we were naturally born to do. Why are women so intent on proving that they don’t need men? We are created to need each other it’s the natural way.
Originally posted by MasterGemini
Don't bother watching the video its just a guy melodically reciting trololololol
I don't sit around playing video games, but as a man who has zero interest in chasing after today's woman (no, not gay) I wouldn't be so quick to accuse men of becoming things.
Women are now more promiscuous then ever, myself and most of my peers have been cheated on FAR FAR MORE by women than fellas cheating on the women.
The economy also must be taken into account, young men have been the hardest hit group of any.
I have NEVER seen a women suck it up and stay with a guy even though times are hard, and many of us having seen that truth would rather not waste our time.
So without jobs how are we supposed to chase women? No money take them out, when was the last time a woman asked a man on a date and asked to pay?
Talk to them? LoL better get your iphone and facebook ready. (paid for by mommy and daddy)edit on 8-10-2011 by MasterGemini because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by MaMaa
My hubby is a computer nerd and does not do hard physical labor. Should I be upset that I did my part..I gave birth, breastfed, stayed at home, raised kids, cleaned the house, ect.. and he isn't out doing something physical because that is what his body was made for? Don't paint men as some paragon of virtue done wrong by the evil liberated women of the world. Not only is that incorrect, it is ignorance! For what it is worth, I could do what my hubby does.. he could not do what I did and do as he isn't equipped. So really it is my hubby who isn't doing what his body was made for.. so much for nature.
Originally posted by dex77
IMO it's because american society demonize masculinity. Look at commercials or TV shows there is always a dumb male. I find this to be the opposite in real life with women rarely knowing anything. Now if they have the weaker of the two lead and the stronger passified we have a much weaker society. This means its easy to control. I think this also explains why women like criminals, they are less plugged into society and still living as a man... Not that you have to be a criminal to that.
Originally posted by dickrichards
I would like to see statistical data on the role women have played on the debt burden of society, i.e. the increasing number of women with student loans, on unemployment, single women with mortgages, car loans, credit card debt. I bet that number would be staggering and shocking, probably approximately $700bn, hmmm.
The study by Financial Finesse clearly shows that women lag behind men in financial knowledge. Due to this, women lack the confidence in their finances as well as their ability to meet their long-term income goals. The report said that women lag men in their knowledge "in virtually all areas of finance."
Saddled with piles of student debt and a job-scarce, lackluster economy, current college students and recent graduates are selling themselves to pursue a diploma or pay down their loans. An increasing number, according to the owners of websites that broker such hook-ups, have taken to the web in search of online suitors or wealthy benefactors who, in exchange for sex, companionship, or both, might help with the bills.
The past few years have taken an especially brutal toll on the plans and expectations of 20-somethings. As unemployment rates tick steadily higher, starting salaries have plummeted. Meanwhile, according to Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a professor of psychology at Clark University, about 85 percent of the class of 2011 will likely move back in with their parents during some period of their post-college years, compared with 40 percent a decade ago.
Besides moving back home, many 20-somethings are beginning their adult lives shouldering substantial amounts of student loan debt. According to Mark Kantrowitz, who publishes the financial aid websites Fastweb.com and Finaid.org, while the average 2011 graduate finished school with about $27,200 in debt, many are straining to pay off significantly greater loans.
Enter the sugar daddy, sugar baby phenomenon. This particular dynamic preceded the economic meltdown, of course. Rich guys well past their prime have been plunking down money for thousands of years in search of a tryst or something more with women half their age -- and women, willingly or not, have made themselves available. With the whole process going digital, women passing through a system of higher education that fosters indebtedness are using the anonymity of the web to sell their wares and pay down their college loans.
Originally posted by MaMaa
Originally posted by Revolution9
Originally posted by MaMaa
Is it just me or does anyone else notice peoples need to blame an outside source for things not being what they think they ought to be? At any point is there ever personal responsibility for our actions and where we end up in life or do people really just sit around pointing fingers and blaming others at why their life isn't the best it could be?
It is called projection. All that one dislikes and fears is projected like a screen onto another individual or group who become the object of hate and fears. Then they are made a scapegoat. Happens all the time in this wonderful world of cruelty.
I don't actually blame anyone for anything. It is better that way. We are all victims of circumstance. Better to approach the whole thing with forgiveness, patience and tolerance.
Agreed, well except for the victims of circumstance bit. I believe that we are all responsible for ourselves and how we turn out, regardless of gender.
Originally posted by sacgamer25
You really make my point even though you refuse to see it. Yes a woman can do what men do because of industrialization but a man cannot do what a woman can do. This is my point we are different and a change in society does not mean these roles should be changed. Except for a few women who feel liberated because they don’t need a man everyone else is suffering. I am all for the ethical treatment of all but women and men are naturally different to do naturally different roles.
Just because you can do something does not make it good or beneficial. Going against a natural role to achieve a higher status and more material possessions is not what we should be teaching our children. We are raising children who do and will continue to worship money and self over the moral obligations of family.
Originally posted by MaMaa
Originally posted by dex77
IMO it's because american society demonize masculinity. Look at commercials or TV shows there is always a dumb male. I find this to be the opposite in real life with women rarely knowing anything. Now if they have the weaker of the two lead and the stronger passified we have a much weaker society. This means its easy to control. I think this also explains why women like criminals, they are less plugged into society and still living as a man... Not that you have to be a criminal to that.
Common seriously, you don't think that society did the same thing to women up until now? The dumb women who couldn't change a tire, the helpless woman in a movie who needed a man to come save her, it was everywhere in our society. Women were portrayed as weak, stupid, helpless creatures who just waited around for a big strong man to come save her from her own stupidity. Women for ages were easy for men to control and now that they are not, men are freaking out a bit.
No body likes to be controlled, not men, not women.. none of us. I don't want to be controlled by a man anymore than I know men want to be controlled by women. I'll be damned if I ever let another human, much less a man, control me. I grew up seeing women being treated as if they were beneath men, as if they were ignorant fools who thank god had a man to tell them how to live their life. That is wrong and destructive and I won't allow it.
And even with that said I also believe that two rights don't make a wrong. Just because the men of the past treated women with disrespect and treated them as if they were less than men simply because they were a woman doesn't mean that women should treat men that way now.
Originally posted by Revolution9
Just to clarify I meant victims of circumstance as in the social nature of the world and society we are born into. Clumsily stated, I agree.
I just read what you wrote about you and your husband and the "friendship" you write of. I think women like you have the best kind of attitude. You are with your guy for who he is and not what he has. That is all I ever wanted, a "friend". It has eluded me to date, but I always keep my optimism.
Your husband is lucky to have a decent Lady like you and I guess you are lucky to have found a guy who is your "friend". Long may it last for you both.edit on 8-10-2011 by Revolution9 because: spellingedit on 8-10-2011 by Revolution9 because: spelling again, grrr!
Originally posted by Revolution9
Yep. I can do business with that kind of thinking. I take my hat off to you in a very old fashioned gentlemanly way. From such common sense a future can be made.
reply to jamesackerson
Originally posted by bluemirage5
reply to post by Partygirl
I think thats a fair assumption of whats going on out there overall in most Western societies. You'll also find it's mostly the mothers that turn up at their children's sports clubs and are more involved than fathers.
Males in today's society need to MAN up and get back to basics.
Originally posted by hotbread
This whole issue can simply be solved if these working women were to accept that they're future husband will be the one doing the house work and looking after the kids, while she goes to work and earns all the income.
Originally posted by MaMaa
reply to jamesackerson
Things would have come into existence as necessary, women would have at some point done just as men had. yes the world would not be what it is today and it seems sad to think credit isn't going to the men who have created so much and come so far. That is not what this is about, not taking away from what positive men have contributed over the eons. The world would be a sad sad place if it were not for both men and women, this isn't about one being better or more worthwhile than the other.
I have seen grown women cry over idiot men just as you have seen grown men cry over idiot women, it is a far cry from the standard normal thank god!
As far as holding back their 'garden valley' as you put it.. well that's simply because women don't need or want it the same as men. Men will go after women because they want to get lucky, not because they like the woman.. they like what they will get from her. Women have learned to not just be used and abused over years and years of men only wanting one thing from them. Is it any better for a man to use a woman to 'get some' than it is for a woman to use 'it' as a tool? NO, it's both wrong, hurtful and destructive in so so many ways. Simple truth is that men want 'it' more than women generally speaking. So men use women for their reasons and women use men for their own reasons as well. Neither one is better or any worse than the other.
Men have just as many fatal flaws at birth as you say! I have four boys and I can see how manipulative they can be to get what they want, just the same as I see it in girls. They just go about it a little differently, but that hardly means there are no good men out there. It means that we each have our own needs, but have to learn that the world is a give and take. If you see past all the selfishness that we all harbor inside, you can see a good person in just about most people.
I'm sure your probably a nice guy inside and that you care about people, do kind things for others, ect.. just as I am sure that I am a good woman. We all have our fatal flaws, some are worse than others admittedly, but it is never as black and white as I see you painting it.