I love myself, others, and have an ultimately optimistic point of view about humanity, its potential, and everyone's individual potential including
But all of that having been said, sometimes there are realities and scenarios that cannot be denied or controlled. Things happen that cannot
necessarily be "defeated," and accepting the reality of those things is not "negative."
I love humor and believe there is a lot of wisdom to be found in our jesters (comedians.) This issue always makes me think of Dave Chappelle. He was
given a book called The Secret once, and during a standup act spoke about it. He spoke about how it spoke of positive visualization, and imagined
going to Africa and seeing starving children and saying, "Oh, your problem is you need to visualize some corned beef and mashed potatoes. You just
have a bad attitude about starving to death!"
Now, don't get me wrong. Believing in yourself and cultivating your strengths and potential are integral to succeeding at anything. You can never
achieve as much as you could if you don't do those things. But the ultimate point is that we can't all achieve everything.
We all have
different potentials, situations, challenges, and sometimes those things conspire to limit what we can and can't do no matter how positive we are or
how hard we try. Some people don't like to acknowledge this because it's more comforting to simply believe, "Anyone can do anything." Well, in
principle, that's true. But in practice, not everyone can and will.
For every story of positive thinking and self-motivation that allowed someone to overcome disease and poverty, there are thousands of stories we never
hear about of people who tried just as hard, had just as good an attitude, never gave up, and refrained from using their circumstances as an excuse,
but still never got anywhere. Why? Because of luck. Because of the hand they were dealt. That isn't “negative.” That's just an unfortunate reality
of life. Things don't
always pass or get better. Things don't
always improve. Sometimes things get worse. Sometimes people die.
Sometimes people get sick and don't recover. Etc.
What a positive attitude can
do for everyone
though is help you to face those challenges, and hopefully make them less painful. (But
even here, everyone is ultimately different and it would be uncompassionate to not acknowledge that in my opinion.)
Just my two cents. Peace.
edit on 10/6/2011 by AceWombat04 because: Typo