Originally posted by Sentience365
reply to post by liquidsmoke206
Ha, I seriously doubt that, something I failed to mention is that this guy is on probation. He was a pill junkie and help up a store at knife-point. I
asked what would compel her to flirt with such a loser and she replied "I just wanted to see if I could get someone's attention."
Do you hear what she is saying? She wanted to see if she could get some ones attention. Clearly there is a need of hers that YOU are not fulfilling!
Not to be harsh but people cheat and flirt with the idea of cheating because their needs are not being met!
You hear all the time about people cheating with someone fatter, uglier, and what not...and its because it doesn't matter how this person looks or
what they do for a living, its all about the basic need being met. (ie: Arnold Schwarzenegger and the fat housekeeper)
Maybe he complimented her, talked about something she liked, made her feel attractive...or fed some other need that had been neglected.
This is not me trying to blame you....things grow stale and complacent during the course of relationships and its something that is always taking work
Maybe think things through, and don't react with emotion...ask yourself, what can I DO to strengthen this bond and relationship. It could be something
as easy as a compliment here and there.
Otherwise, any future relationship you are in, could reach the same fate....
To affair proof a relationship, you have to find out what the other persons needs are and care enough to meet them.
If you care about her at all still and are thinking about trying to work things out (which I believe you may still be on the fence about, since you
are here asking for advice) Then sit with her, talk about her needs and your needs and talk about meeting them for each other and making things
Some guys just don't care enough about putting in the effort but if she is at all worth it to you, than do this!
It can be such an easy fix!
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