posted on Sep, 29 2011 @ 06:31 AM
I've read this thread with interest, noting the arguments for and against giving a child this sort of reading material or explaining / sheltering
them from some of the 'facts of life'. Both sides make some good points.
Before I decide on an issue like this, I ask one question: Was it necessary? In this case, I think it was not. This was a reading programme, for 10
year olds. I'd guess that there is a wealth of other books to choose from that were more age appropriate.
The teacher made a mistake and has admitted as much. I'm not surprised that she was apologetic, she probably understands that her job could be on the
line if you make a formal complaint.
Saying that she is generally responsible for teaching older pupils is no excuse. She's been careless and thoughtless.
It's too late now to lock the stable door. The horse has well and truly bolted BUT, you still have the chance to make something good from all
Now would be the time to explain to your daughter that adults aren't always infallible, that they do make mistakes and it's not always a good idea
to follow their example. Use the teacher and the characters in the book to illustrate the point.
You can explain that she has read something that is unsuitable for her and that you are going to ask her to be very grown up about it. I think kids
like responsibility ( responsibility, not burdens
) and that she will respond well. Here is her chance to make you proud of her as she handles
some knowledge about the less savoury aspects of life.
From what you've said about the goings on in your neighbourhood, you might find that your child reading this book has been a blessing in disguise as
it gives you an opening to discuss some things that she might have noticed more than you realised.